If you feel you don't deserve a compliment, it will be difficult for you to respond to someone's compliment. Accepting a compliment politely will actually make you seem more humble than if you dodged or rejected the compliment. However, you need to know how to respond to an insincere compliment. Learn how to respond to someone's compliment by reading this article.
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Method 1 of 2: Responding to Compliments
Step 1. Be casual
When someone compliments you, you may want to say a lot of things. However, the best way to receive a compliment is to say thank you to the person who complimented you.
- You can say, "Thank you! I'm glad you feel that way," or "Thank you, I really appreciate your compliment," as the best way to respond to a compliment.
- When thanking you, remember to smile and make eye contact with the person who complimented you.
Step 2. Resist the urge to dodge or refuse a compliment
There are times when people feel the need to dodge or reject praise by belittling their efforts or abilities. In this situation, you may feel compelled to say, "Thank you, this is normal." Even if your intention is to be modest by evading or rejecting a compliment, this may actually make you appear insecure or hopeful for more compliments.
Instead of dodging or rejecting compliments, be proud of your accomplishments and say "Thank you."
Step 3. Acknowledge if someone else deserves an award
If credit goes to you for something that involves the contribution of others, you should acknowledge their role as well. Don't think of this success solely as your own.
You can say, "We've worked hard to finish this job, thank you for the appreciation you give," so that this praise is also shared with others who have contributed to your success
Step 4. Respond to someone's compliments sincerely, but don't give the impression of wanting to compete
Sometimes there is an urge to belittle your own abilities by returning the compliment you just received to the person who complimented you, but you must try to resist this urge.
- Saying, "Thanks, but I'm actually not as talented as you," will give the impression that you are insecure and may even be trying to outdo the person who just complimented you. This kind of response also gives the impression that you like to lick.
- Instead of returning a compliment you receive, respond with a non-competitive compliment. For example, you could say, “Thank you! I appreciate your compliment. I think you also gave a really great presentation today!”
Step 5. Accept and respond to compliments as soon as you hear them
Don't ask someone to explain or repeat the compliment. If you ask someone to repeat what he just said to you or ask for a more detailed explanation of his compliment, you will come off as arrogant or self-indulgent. Take compliments for what they are and don't ask for affirmations or explanations.
Method 2 of 2: Returning Insincere Compliments
Step 1. Recognize that insincere compliments have nothing to do with you
If someone gives you an insincere compliment, it may be because they lack confidence and feel rejected. Instead of resenting people who say bad things to you, try to understand why someone's behavior can be so pathetic. You can stop someone from giving you an insincere compliment by trying to understand that this kind of compliment has nothing to do with you.
Step 2. Deal with insincere compliments
Don't just ignore someone's insincere compliment. Let this person know if you understand that he or she is not really complimenting you.
You could say, “What you said to me doesn't sound like a compliment. Is there something we want to talk about?” This kind of response can help you deal with insincere compliments and open yourself up to a discussion about why someone said this
Step 3. Respond to compliments about your personality that you don't think are appropriate
If someone compliments you for having very good luck when you were successful, don't say thank you. If you thank him for a compliment like this, you indirectly agree with what he said that you did not succeed because of hard work.
