Lying can be a weapon for survival. You can also use this ability to play poker. However, don't use your lying skills to break the law, or to harm yourself or others. Lies can be painful, and cause stress for the people involved. While lying is acceptable in only a handful of circumstances, develop your lying skills by practicing and knowing what to avoid.
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Method 1 of 3: Constructing Lies
Step 1. Prepare reasons
Lie only if the lie is in your favor. If you limit your lies, people won't notice when you're telling the truth. People who diligently lie, like pathological liars, lie little by little so that their lies are eventually exposed. Keeping track of the lies you tell is difficult, and people won't believe you anymore after you've been caught lying repeatedly.
Step 2. Prepare a lie before you start lying
The adage "diligent base smart" seems to still apply when you want to be a big-time liar. The more often you tell a lie, the easier it will be for you to tell it. Lies that are told without preparation will be very easy to uncover because the details given will be more vague and anxiety will overwhelm the liar.
Step 3. Tell misleading facts
The more facts you can tuck into a lie, the easier it will be for you to lie. Instead of being perceived as a liar, you may just be perceived as giving a "fake" impression. Try to avoid asking questions about your lie by slipping in as many facts as possible.
Step 4. Know your target
Think like a listener. High-end liars use the same abilities as communicators. Empathize with the listener, and know what they want to hear. Pay attention to what the listener knows, and know his interests and schedule to avoid being handicapped when lying. These defects may cause the listener to be suspicious.
Step 5. Pay attention to body language
When you lie, you may feel so scared and anxious that your body language changes without realizing it. You may avoid eye contact, tremble, or fiddle with your fingers. People can read the body language, so avoid gestures that you're not used to.
Some people speak more quickly or give excessive eye contact to cover a lie. Try lying in front of a mirror so you can lie perfectly
Step 6. Prepare the emotional context
Liars generally memorize their lies in detail, but they may fall apart when the liar receives emotional questions. He might answer the question like a machine. Therefore, add emotion when designing the details of your lie.
Method 2 of 3: Avoiding Bad Body Language
Step 1. Let your lips relax
Pressure on the lips can be a negative reaction when lying. Before saying negative things, witnesses in court usually press their lips. Avoid questions by letting your lips relax after you lie.
Step 2. Inhale calmly
Breathing too fast is a sign that you are feeling tense or uncomfortable. Taking a deep breath can also be interpreted as preparation before lying.
Step 3. Don't touch your neck
Many people touch their necks, especially the curves, when feeling tense or anxious. On the other hand, some people play or fix their tie, instead of touching the neck directly.
Step 4. Turn your body towards the other person
When the conversation gets into an uncomfortable topic, you may turn your back on the other person. You might shift your seat in a chair and turn your belly away from the person accusing you of lying, or from someone you lied to. You may also create "borders" by crossing your legs, even if you maintain eye contact. Turn your torso towards the listener, especially if he or she has just asked a question that you must answer with a lie.
Step 5. Keep hands away from eyes
In difficult conversation, some people may rub their eyes or correct the position of their glasses. To prevent suspicion, place your hands in a natural, neutral position when lying.
Step 6. Don't hide your thumbs
Hiding your thumbs may indicate that you are uncomfortable or that you are lying. When someone shows empathy, their thumbs up.
Step 7. Speak normally
Changes in speech patterns and behavior can increase suspicion. When feeling anxious, a person may speak more quickly, use a higher pitch, or experience more errors. The liar may also want to convince you of his lie so that he may repeat certain details as he speaks. Avoid repeating information, and speak normally.
- When repeating information, the liar's voice may sound lower at the beginning and end of the statement. He may be trying to "read" his audience, and see if his lies are believed.
- Repetition can be difficult to read, especially when talking on a cell phone. A weak cell phone signal might cause a person to repeat what he or she has said.
Step 8. Pay attention to speech breaks
Reasonable speech breaks vary by culture. However, if you speak with pauses, you may be perceived as gathering material for lying. Saying things like "Good question!" can also be considered a delay.
Pauses during speech happen to anyone, so without a clear context, it will be very difficult to detect lies from mere speech breaks
Method 3 of 3: Keeping the Lies
Step 1. Remember the facts you said
Speak consistently. You may have a hard time tracking down a lie, depending on how big a lie you tell. Remember the details you say even if they are not asked for. Make sure you don't give different information to different people.
Step 2. Stay focused
Commit to your lies. Doubts will quickly expose the lies you are telling. At first, you may feel very scared and guilty when you lie, and your body language will rebel. However, after lying, commit to the lie. Speak the lie as if it were a fact.
Some people like the tension that comes with lying, and don't feel ashamed or guilty about it. Lying is not something that is considered common, so it is natural that you find it difficult to lie and dislike it
Step 3. Increase the pressure
If you are accused of lying, reverse the charge. Ask questions like "How come you don't believe me?" or "You did too, right?"
Step 4. Divert attention from the problem
Politicians generally use this technique to distract the public. Generally, throwing accusations is not something fun so people will look for ways to avoid it. For example, if a politician is asked a question about an economic issue, he or she may turn the conversation towards immigration. Or, if you get scolded for coming home late at night, you might even talk about your sibling traveling without a driver's license.
Step 5. Play with the accuser
Avoid responsibility after lying by looking down on or condoning the accusation, or admitting the accusation until the accuser is satisfied. If you can deflect the accusations, you will be free from tantrums.
Step 6. Pay attention to the situation when you lie
People may ask various questions to catch your lies. Make sure you design specific details and answers to the question.
Tips
- Trust the lies you tell to be a good liar.
- Lie briefly. The bigger your lie, the more details you have to remember.
Warning
- Lies can be dangerous and hurtful. You might get into trouble when you get caught.
- Do not use the ability to lie to break the law, or to harm yourself and others.
