How To Forget People You Never Dated

2024 Author: Jason Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-19 22:11

Forgetting someone after a breakup is hard enough, but forgetting someone you never had is even more difficult. You must address the issue boldly and honestly before you try to forget about it.

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Part 1 of 3: Dealing with Problems

Step 1. Acknowledge the feelings you have

You know that you have feelings for that person. If you don't really admit how big the feeling is, you have to admit it before you start to forget it. Ignore the strength of your enemy – the enemy here is your affection which will only make it harder for you to finally forget it.

• Even though you never dated him, you have wasted your time, energy and emotions on this person you love. The depth of your feelings probably describes it.
• Acknowledging how deeply you feel may bring down your self-esteem, but it will actually help you rather than allowing yourself to keep denying it.

Step 2. Tell yourself the truth

There are two facts you need to acknowledge. First, someone you love doesn't know how you feel. Second, your situation is no different from those of those with the same fate as you.

• Your feelings are actually one sided. Even if you know this, honestly convincing yourself of it will be one of the hardest parts of getting over it. You may want to think that something can happen between the two of you, but the fact is that your feelings are only one sided.
• Others may have experienced what you are going through right now. The good news is that this means that you are not alone and that you can endure like those who have experienced it. The bad news is that your situation is not an exception to forgetting it. You may think that you can make other people fall in love with you, but contrary to what novels and movies suggest, this is usually very rare in real life. Your situation is more likely to follow a real-life storyline than life in a fictional world.

Step 3. Realize that the person is not right for you

Falling in love with someone is a very pleasant feeling, but at some point, it will hurt you more than it makes you happy. Letting your feelings go will make you a happier person.

Ask yourself if you're honestly happy with how you feel right now. The possible answer to that question is, if you've read an article on how to get over someone you've never dated, then the answer is “no”. If you're not happy, then the best thing you need to do is forget about it so you can be happy again

Step 4. Stop wishing

Someone you like may say or do something that you really misunderstood at times, but the misunderstanding that the other person did you might expect to happen because you really expected it. If what he's doing isn't showing any concern at all, don't convince yourself that he's showing little interest in you.

Most guys will be honest if they like you too. Girls are more likely to give mixed signs a lot, so if you're quite frank about how you feel and the girl you like doesn't respond well, she may not be interested in you

Step 5. Remember the memories you have

You must have interacted, and you will probably allow yourself to believe that the interaction between you indicates something that could possibly happen. Think back and be honest with yourself whether the interaction between you can make him interested in you or not.

Treat the memories you have with him the same way you interact with him right now

Part 2 of 3: End Everything

Step 1. Stop obsessing over the little things

If you and someone you like interacted in the past, you should probably interact now. You have to stop letting your thoughts stay on him because of the interactions that are taking place between you.

• His smile or greeting will stay on your mind for hours if you continue to allow it.

  

• When you realize that you are too obsessed with this, you need to turn your attention to something else.

Step 2. Put some distance between you two, or the same as “take your eyes off and take your mind off”

You don't have to decide anything about someone you like, but as long as you decide to forget about it, you should put some distance between the two of you.

• It's more difficult if someone you like is a classmate, a coworker, or someone you see often. And it's even more difficult if someone you like is a close friend of yours.

• If you can't really decide anything to do with it, at least give yourself some distance on anything that has to do with it. If you purposely walk down the street with him so you can see him, for example, choose another way so you don't run into him.

  

Step 3. Stop letting your world revolve around the person you like

Stop trying to match the interests or routines of your crush. Allow yourself to return to your previous life before the person you liked came into your life.

• If you convince yourself that you like something just because you feel like it, be honest with yourself and try to ignore it again.
• Stop redesigning your schedule or moving your schedule around so you can see the person you like, and stop doing things to make them happy.

Step 4. Look at your crush objectively

Make your affection for him objective and be honest with yourself if your crush makes a mistake.

• This doesn't mean that you have to hate the person you like, especially if that person is a very nice person. This means that you have to be aware of the mistakes they make and convince yourself that the person you like is not the definition of perfection.

  

Step 5. Tell yourself why you can't date him

Someone you like may honestly be a very nice person, but that doesn't mean that you two are perfect for each other. Convince yourself that you can't be together.

• Find reasons why a relationship can end. Incompatibility or trust is often a good starting point.
• It will really help if you become close friends with him since the relationship ended, so that after that your relationship can become a friendship.

Step 6. Tell your friends

Find some friends who can listen to you and can lend a shoulder for you to cry on. Often, your friends can help you solve problems and also help forget someone you like.

• Not everyone will understand your problem, but there will be some who will understand you.
• Your single friend will be more sympathetic to you, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you don't have to tell your friend who already has a boyfriend.

Step 7. Talk to your crush, if possible

This may be done infrequently and is not suitable for everyone. However, if your crush already knows how you feel and is hurt by the distance you've created, you may be able to tell them how you feel.

If you think that your feelings can be used to beat you or you don't want to make your relationship "weird," then you shouldn't talk about it with your crush

Part 3 of 3: Forget it

Step 1. Cry

You may not break up with him, but it will still hurt. Allow yourself to cry, get angry, and get emotional. Letting those feelings out of you is better than keeping them in your heart and mind.

• However, you should still have a limit. Allow yourself to cry for a few days or a few weeks, but don't allow yourself to be in constant sadness. If you're angry or sad, that's great for your health, but you also have to make yourself overcome this sadness.
• Avoid getting too angry with the person you like. He may be playing with your feelings on purpose, but he may not be doing it on purpose. You can't stop yourself from falling in love with him, but he also can't force his feelings to fall in love with you.

Step 2. Keep your mind distracted

You have to take your mind off the person you like, and the best way is to fill your mind with something else to get that person out of your mind.

• Physical activity exercises can distract you when you are too tired to think about your heartache.

  

• Doing things you enjoy can also take your mind off it, especially if those things are things you never did with him that you should forget about.

  

• Ask a friend for help, or take yourself out of a world where you can't forget the person you like.

  

Step 3. Raise your self-esteem

Do things that make you satisfied. Ending a relationship that you never started can damage your self-esteem because it means that the person isn't right for you. If you don't measure your self-worth, you may get caught up in thinking that you don't deserve it either.

• If you have problems with your body shape, take the opportunity to start practicing a healthy diet on a regular basis. If you are already slim, then your self-esteem will go up too.

  

• Look for healthy forms of self-development. Go to classes that you enjoy but don't formally study. Introduce yourself to something new, such as theater or opera. Make yourself into someone who is easy to make friends with anyone.

  

Step 4. Pay attention to your appearance

Make yourself look very attractive and force yourself to enter the world of people who are still single. Look, can you get some people to like you?

• You can also create an online dating profile. Even if you don't plan on meeting anyone or just choose to keep your profile for a week, having someone message you can make you feel better.

  

• One thing to avoid is to make other people fall in love with you but you don't have feelings for them. The attention you give is good, but if you play with someone's feelings, you will only give your pain to someone who doesn't know anything.

Step 5. Find new people

Let you like other people. Your feelings for him don't need to be as serious or deep as your feelings for the person you're trying to forget, but allowing yourself to be attracted to someone else will help you forget someone you like.

Make him your lover or not, it's your right, but still be careful. You can hurt yourself or someone else if you use someone as a temporary crutch for your heart

Step 6. Give it time

Trying to get over someone you've never dated won't work in just one night. Be patient and follow the process.

The amount of time you need varies depending on how deep your feelings are and how close you are to the person you like. The whole process can take weeks, months, or even years

Step 7. Ask yourself if it's a good thing to continue the relationship

If the person you like is a close friend of yours, you may not want to completely break up with them. If you think your feelings are stable enough, you can try to continue your friendship.

If the feelings you used to have for your crush resurface, think back to what you've been through. You've let go of your hurt and tried to be who you are today, and you're only opening up old wounds that you've healed