Kissing can be a romantic moment that will never be forgotten. However, if you're a guy and have never kissed a girl, the moments leading up to kissing can be pretty scary. Read on for some of these tried and tested tips for having a memorable first kiss with a girl - even if you've never kissed before. Happy kissing!
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Method 1 of 4: Practice
Step 1. Use the back of your hand
Practice using the back of your hand in the privacy of your own room or when you're alone so it doesn't look weird because you're basically kissing yourself.
- To do this, you have to open your mouth about the width of your index finger when placed sideways in front of your mouth.
- Place your lips gently on the back of your hand. You can move your lips in a circular motion, or pretend that you are gently sucking the liquid out of a fruit, such as a plum.
Step 2. Stand in front of the mirror and pretend that he is in front of you
Practice opening your lips in a circular motion.
You can also use your tongue, as if you were pressing the soft flesh of the fruit
Method 2 of 4: Show That You're Ready
Step 1. Use eye gaze
Make a signal by looking into his eyes, looking at his lips, then looking back into his eyes to show your readiness.
Step 2. Sit very close to her to show affection and build intimacy
If he's nervous and you feel like the time is right to kiss him, surprising him with a kiss might lessen his nervousness and leave him-and you-a happy surprise!
Step 3. Do seduction before kissing
Touch his hand gently while speaking; praise the eyes or the hair; or look into his eyes with passion. Never underestimate the power of a simple touch to set the mood for the perfect first kiss. Touching your lover will break down the barriers that separate the two of you and pave the way for a more intimate relationship, namely kissing.
Step 4. Make eye contact until you kiss
Lock his gaze with your eyes and don't close your eyes until you kiss. Locking his gaze is the best way to ask him for a kiss.
Method 3 of 4: Watch For Signs That He Will Kiss Back
Step 1. Pay attention to the obvious nonverbal cues from your lover
Some signs that indicate readiness can prevent you from making the wrong move:
- He often stares at your lips.
- He started talking about kissing, or any topic related to kissing. Is he talking about how he never gets a memorable kiss? Does he reveal that he appreciates people who can give him a memorable kiss? If so, it's time you pursed your lips and honor it with a kiss.
- He was silent, as if expecting a kiss, especially at the end of a date. Make sure there's no other reason he's obviously stopped and is waiting.
- If he seems comfortable and seems to like the intimacy with you then consider it okay to kiss him.
Method 4 of 4: Ask If He Wants To Be Kissed
Step 1. Just ask
Since you've never kissed before, you may have a hard time reading nonverbal cues from your partner.
Step 2. Be creative and ask questions in a way that makes him comfortable
Some suggestions include:
- I want to kiss you right now…
- I want to show you how much you mean to me…
- Can I give you a goodnight kiss?
Tips
- Use appropriate body language. Don't keep your arms crossed over your chest or keep your hands in your pockets when you're about to kiss or you'll appear distant. Place your hand on his neck or cheek and make eye contact.
- Keep your mouth clean: Brush your teeth, rinse your mouth, and chew gum. Don't eat strong-smelling food before kissing. If you've already done so, prepare mints to get rid of the smell. Blow into your hands to check for bad breath-you won't regret it!
- Set a rhythm. You don't have to rub your lover's face all over!
- Relax and let your instincts take over. What you absolutely don't want is a clumsy and failed attempt at kissing.
- Treat your lips by keeping them soft with a lip balm. Make sure your lips are not dry or chapped.
- Take him alone. If you're at a party or in a crowded place, find a place where you can get some privacy. What you absolutely don't want is added pressure from people watching you.
- Don't start and end the kiss too soon. Take your time and enjoy the moment-most girls don't like to feel rushed.
- If you both want to do it, this will happen. Just take a breath and everything will work itself out.
Warning
- Be realistic in expecting your "first kiss." It may not be the greatest of kisses, but over time, kissing your sweetheart will feel more and more natural. The more often you kiss your lover, the better you will be at kissing them.
- You don't have to say you never kissed unless the time required it, or your boyfriend asked. It's something that can be shared after the moment has passed-not before.
- Make sure he really likes you. There was nothing more embarrassing than intending to kiss someone, but he dodged it. There's a big difference between a shy girl and a girl who sees you as a friend.
