Having a crush on someone can sometimes be a difficult thing to live with, especially if you feel like they're not aware of your presence. While there's no secret recipe for getting his attention, there are some important things you can do to make sure he's aware of your presence. First, you need to show your best side. This means, look your best, be active and positive, and reflect self-confidence. After that, try to find a situation where you can talk to him so he realizes how unique and interesting you are.
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Method 1 of 3: Getting His Attention
Step 1. Take more time to organize your appearance
Take an extra 10-15 minutes to get your best performance ready before you meet her. In fact, small things can turn you from an ordinary person to a charming person. Not only will your best look catch your crush's attention, but it will also give you the extra confidence you need to approach him.
- Watch your hair. Keep in mind that even a quick comb can make a big difference. In addition, (especially) for women, straightening or curling hair can provide additional confidence.
- If you wear make-up, make sure you wear it properly and that your make-up lasts all day long.
- Also make sure you take care of your body as a whole by getting enough sleep and taking care of your skin so that you look fresh and healthy.
Step 2. Show a different look
Wearing clothes that are different from other people is a great way to get his attention. This is all the more effective, especially if you're in an environment with people who have relatively similar dress tastes.
- If other students at school dress similarly or wear uniforms, try wearing a catchy necklace or a cool pair of sneakers to grab your crush's attention.
- If you're in a work environment, wear something different, but still seem polite and appropriate. For example, you could wear a collared shirt with an interesting pattern or a shiny headband.
Step 3. Wear red clothes
If red is your favorite color, show it in your clothes. Several studies have shown that both men and women are more attracted to people who wear red. Wear a red dress or shirt to attract attention. If you don't like red clothes, choose something else with a bright color so that you stand out from the crowd.
Step 4. Don't overdo it when it comes to dressing
When you're trying to impress him, sometimes it's easy for you to overdo it. You do need to look presentable and attractive, but don't forget to wear the right clothes or according to the situation.
- For example, if your crush is taking a yoga class, don't wear "classy" clothes, as if you were walking on the red carpet.
- Remember that anything in excess is not good. The same applies to the use of perfume and cologne.
Step 5. Make sure your crush sees you
Do your best so that he can always see you. If you are in the same class with him, try sitting near or in front of him. If you run into him at the gym, try working out nearby. Keep doing this until you are sure he has seen you and is aware of your presence.
Don't do this until your crush sees you too often. Remember that there is a difference between trying to make him notice your presence and stalking him
Step 6. Try to get involved in activities frequently
Engage in activities that are followed by him. If you go to the same school as her, try joining a sports team or extracurricular activities she participates in. If you meet him at a volunteer activity or group, spend more time in that activity or group. Greater engagement allows him to see you more often. In addition, you will appear as a person who is full of enthusiasm and wants to help. Both of these are certainly interesting characters.
Method 2 of 3: Making Contact
Step 1. Meet his friends
If you're too nervous to talk to him, try talking to his friends. If one of your friends knows their friends, meet them and have a chat. If you don't have any connections with her friends, try meeting one or two of her friends by chatting about things that you both enjoy or share, such as classwork or a particular project.
- You can easily start conversations, such as “So, when is the deadline for the final English class assignment?”
- If you end up chatting a lot with his friends, you can quickly meet and spend time with your crush. Making friends with his friends is a great way to get him interested.
- Don't talk about your feelings to his friends. If you immediately ask about him after meeting his friends, there's a good chance they'll find out that you like him. Try to be more calm and relaxed.
Step 2. Show nonverbal persuasion
If you're nervous about approaching her, there are things you can do to get her attention and show interest.
- Show eye contact and smile. Eye contact and a smile can show that you are friendly and welcoming, but make sure you don't overdo it. If your crush doesn't respond at first, don't keep making eye contact or smiling at him.
- If you are a girl, play with your hair, especially if you have long hair. Twist your hair with your fingers or part it to the side. Catching attention with your hair is a way to highlight one of your assets.
Step 3. Start a conversation
If you've never spoken to him before, it's time to give it a try. Find an excuse to talk to him, especially when there aren't many people around so you don't get distracted. If you don't know him, talk about something related to an activity you both share.
- For example, if you are standing in line to get/buy something, you might ask, “Hey, do you think this is taking too long?” If you're in the break room at work, you can say, “Hey. Have you tried the cookies Susan brought? It feels so good!"
- Asking questions is a great way to start a conversation. For example, if you're in the same class as her, you might ask, “Hey. What was the homework that was given by Mr. Budi?”
- You can also ask for help. Asking your crush for help, whether opening cans/jars, carrying heavy bags, or doing housework, can be a great way to start a conversation with them. In addition, it can also make him feel good about himself. Of course, this can be a good way to make your first interaction with him feel positive.
Step 4. Talk about the things you are both interested in
Once you start chatting with him, talk about whatever you both enjoy. Usually, a person is attracted to people who share the same interests. Therefore, talking about common interests is a fun way to strengthen the relationship.
For example, if you were both on the school's track and field team, you might ask, "So, what do you think about your next practice?"
Step 5. Ask about him
By asking about him, you are showing him that you are interested and want to learn more about him. Since people like to talk about themselves, this can also be a good way to keep the conversation going.
For example, you could ask, "So how long have you been working here?" or “What subjects are you taking this semester?”
Step 6. Be a good listener
After asking how he's doing, you may be worried about what you'll need to say next, how you should respond, or what to do if there's a long silence in the conversation. You can handle everything by listening to what he has to say. Sometimes it's hard to listen to someone when you're too focused on how nervous you are. By listening carefully, you can take your attention away from yourself and understand what he is saying.
- Try responding to what he's saying with a meaningful follow-up question, or something that can show him that you're interested and listening to what he's saying. If he talks about a scuba diving class he took, ask how interested he is in diving, where he studied, or how long it will take him to get a diver's certificate.
- Don't think of a pause in conversation as an opportunity to change the focus of the conversation (so you can talk about yourself). In conversation, everyone has to give and take so you shouldn't spend “all” time chatting about it. However, don't get the impression that you're waiting for him to take a break so you can talk about yourself.
- By showing that you are a good listener and genuinely interested in him and what he has to say, you can make him feel comfortable when you are with him.
- If you're not too nervous, make eye contact with him to show that you're interested and listen to what he has to say. However, don't look at it too deeply because it feels too intense. Just look into his eyes once in a while.
- Show that you're listening by nodding or muttering (e.g. “Mmmm” or “Ah, yes”).
Step 7. Give him a compliment
Even though it seems superficial, everyone loves flattery. When you talk, try to compliment him on something. Compliments can also be a great way to keep the conversation going, because compliments can provide an avenue for the two of you to talk about other things.
- If you get to know him through his sporting activities, you might say, “I've seen you play soccer. You are so great!”
- You can also say, "I like your shirt," or compliment him on other aspects of his appearance.
- Give him just one compliment so you don't sound like you're licking him.
Step 8. Laugh when he jokes
Another way to compliment and connect with him is to laugh when he jokes. It shows him that you have a similar sense of humor and find him funny. Laughing together is also a great way to connect and share the fun together.
- When you laugh, you can say, "You're so funny!"
- If you want to show your seduction more, touch his arm when you laugh. This can deepen the relationship and is a way to make him feel closer to you.
Step 9. Stay connected to it
Try to keep seeing and talking to him. Whenever you see him in the hallway or elsewhere, greet him. Discuss the topic of conversation that was previously discussed. If you feel that he likes you, show a more intense flirt or, even, ask him out!
Method 3 of 3: Be Yourself
Step 1. Show your style
Watch your clothes. Make sure all your clothes reflect who you are, and not just the clothes you've had for years and don't want to get rid of. Your clothes are a great thing that you can use to express yourself and your personality. If you have a standout style, your crush can get an idea of who you are and the things you like so that he or she will be interested in chatting with you.
- If you're a guy who loves sports, try wearing your favorite team shirt. If you are a feminine and adorable female figure, accentuate that side by wearing pastel and lacy clothes.
- If you're a "rebel" person, try wearing a band t-shirt and black jeans.
- Do not follow the dress style of your idol. Just because she has a neat appearance, doesn't mean you have to dress like you're going to a classy place if that's not your style. You have to feel comfortable and be yourself in the clothes you wear.
Step 2. Get your voice out
Make sure your voice is heard when he is near you. If you are in the same class as him, participate in the class and answer the teacher's questions. Express your opinion and feedback in work or group meetings. In fact, you can also just chat with your friends when he is near you. This way, he will get a clearer picture of what you are like.
Do your best to appear cheerful and upbeat when you are around him. Naturally, a person is more attracted to people who are happy and confident. Therefore, do your best to be a positive person when he is around you
Step 3. Use social media
Using social media is a great way to connect with them indirectly. Even if your crush isn't friends with you on Facebook or doesn't follow your social media accounts, he or she can still see your posts or photos if you're in a mutual friend relationship.
- Try to build your presence on social media to show your best side. Make sure the posts and photos you upload can describe you as a positive and interesting person.
- Make sure you're not tagged in bad photos or photos that show you doing inappropriate things.
Step 4. Use body language that reflects confidence
Even if your crush makes you nervous, try to remain confident. Stand up straight and put on a relaxed smile. Don't cross your arms, look down or appear agitated. These behaviors can make you appear protective or nervous. Also, make sure your body stays pointed towards him, not in the opposite direction.
Tips
- If you feel nervous around him, take a few simple steps to ease it. By taking the time to prepare for your appearance, you can gain the additional confidence needed to take bolder steps.
- Don't feel like you need to be someone else to get his attention. By being yourself, you will eventually get the results you want.
- Don't seduce too much. It's better for you to be calmer and talk to him like when you talk to your friends rather than being too "brave".
