Prom (school farewell party) is the last party before graduation and is usually the most awaited moment by students. However, proms can prove to be either an amazing or a terrifying experience. Maybe you finally managed to get the girl of your dreams to go out with you, but what do you have to do to make it happen? This article will give you some tips to make sure you both have fun while making you a good date.
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Part 1 of 3: Getting Ready
Step 1. Help him make a plan
Prom doesn't just consist of dancing. You should also consider transportation, photos, dinners, after-prom parties, and more. Offer to help with planning preparations, not just sharing ideas, but showing him that you care.
- Talk to him are you going to the prom with another group of friends or just the two of you? Planning with a larger group takes more time and effort because it involves a lot of people.
- Decide when is a good time to take photos and have dinner, and when you plan to arrive at the party venue and when to leave.
Step 2. Think about transportation problems
Decide whether to rent a car, take an online taxi (eg Uber) or pick up the girl of your dreams in your own car. Maybe you really love your car, but maybe he wants something different, like renting a certain car (which may be more expensive).
- If you decide to use your own car, fill up the gas tank the day before so you won't be late.
- Make sure you clean the car thoroughly, both interior and exterior of the car.
- If you rent a car, make sure you understand the procedure. Do you have to return it on time or can you extend the rental period if needed.
- Whatever transportation option you choose, you should get out of the vehicle to pick up the girl you love and hold the door to let her in first.
Step 3. Wear impressive clothes
Girls usually spend a lot of time and thought looking for the right dress and they expect their partner to look as cool as they are. Prom is considered a formal event, make sure you dress well on this occasion.
- Wear a nice suit or tuxedo to make sure you look formal enough.
- Try to know the color of the couple's dress so you can create harmony in small details such as handkerchiefs, ties, and socks.
- Keep your body clean for the night by showering, shaving, going to the hairdresser and putting on some perfume (to taste).
Step 4. Bring the corsage
A corsage is a small bouquet of flowers that is presented to a couple to show respect. Usually they will pin it on the left shoulder or worn on the left wrist if the dress has thin straps or no straps at all.
- Boutonniere is the same flower arrangement, but smaller in size and pinned on a men's suit. It's usually the woman who gives the couple a boutonniere and it usually goes well with the corsage (though not necessarily).
- Try to match the corsage with the color of the couple's dress or choose a neutral color such as peach, white, or pink.
- A variety of flowers can be used depending on style and budget, including roses, lilies, carnations, and orchids.
- Florists usually receive a large number of orders during the prom season. So, it would be better if you order the corsage 1-2 weeks before the D-Day to make sure the florist has enough time to make the flower bouquet to order. Even if ordered in advance, we recommend that you pick it up the day before the prom.
- Make sure the flowers retain their freshness. For that, spray with water, place in a container, put in the refrigerator, and use a protector that can be purchased at a florist.
Step 5. Come on time
Lots to do before getting to the party venue, try to arrive on time. Your image will be very bad in the eyes of the girl of your dreams (and her parents) if you arrive late.
- Make travel routes and alternative routes to anticipate traffic jams. Study your schedule in advance so you know exactly when to leave the house to get to your destination on time.
- If you're often late, find out what's hindering your journey. Do you have a tight deadline? Are you easily distracted? Or are you trying to do too much work at once? This way, you can manage your time more realistically and learn to deal with your tendency to be late.
- Leave early. It's best not to leave too close to your schedule so you have some leeway for the unexpected.
Step 6. Make activities after prom
Proms only last for 2-4 hours so many people plan activities after prom to have more fun. Discuss with your partner to make a suitable plan. Do you have to return the rental car? Do you have to change clothes? Do you need to bring equipment for the night?
- To keep students safe, many schools hold after-prom activities at local entertainment centers, such as amusement parks, and so on. Don't forget to ask how long the event is, the price of admission, and how you're getting there.
- Take a walk. If you rent a car, this can be the perfect choice to spend the remaining rental time. Visit places in the city you've never been or romantic places.
- Go to a house party. Usually there are several parties organized by several students. Before deciding to come, make sure you comply with the rules and curfews imposed by the couple's parents so that you don't put them in a difficult situation.
Part 2 of 3: Behave like a gentleman
Step 1. Act like a knight
Chivalry is known as a man's code of conduct in treating women. The best way to describe it is to be polite, respectful, and helpful to a date. For example, opening the door for him, pulling out a chair for him, or lending him a jacket if he is cold. In short, put his interests first and he will be happy.
- Chivalry is not always compatible with modern dating systems. Make sure you align your attitude with your date's response so you don't go overboard with your manners.
- Avoid some outdated ways of showing politeness, such as ordering her food, standing up every time she enters/leashes a room, or defending her honor. You're being polite enough, but remember that she's a modern, independent girl.
Step 2. Compliment him
Sincere compliments not only lighten the mood, they also help build bonds of trust and set the mood for a happy and cheerful mood. If you want to compliment her, give her a unique compliment, not a generic one, and don't make a rude or obscene compliment (especially if you're complimenting her appearance.
- Show uniqueness. Instead of saying "You have such a cute smile," look for quirky things that catch your eye, such as "I love seeing those brown freckles on your neck. It looks cute.”
- Avoid compliments about sensitive subjects like weight. Even though the comment “You look skinny in that dress” sounds like a compliment, many girls get it wrong.
- Every girl likes compliments on their appearance, but avoid cheesy phrases like “sexy” or “hot.” Instead, use classic compliments like beautiful, stunning or charming.
- Don't just compliment her looks, compliment her personality too. Say something like, “You can always make me laugh,” or “You can chat about anything.”
Step 3. Talk to his parents
Even if the situation is uncomfortable, speaking politely to a date's parents demonstrates a level of maturity that will impress them. If you can have a polite conversation, your date will feel relaxed and comfortable spending the evening with you.
- Show that you are getting a good education by using words like “please” and “thank you” and calling the parents “Father” or “Mom”.
- Have a conversation with them. Don't just answer questions with "yes" or "no". Show them that you want to get to know them.
- Give them your attention. Don't be rude by reading messages on your phone or watching TV during a conversation.
Step 4. Respect your date
When a man shows that he admires a woman for more than just how she looks, then women tend to reciprocate with the same respect. If you show him that you value the qualities and abilities in his personality, it means that you are creating the atmosphere needed to make the evening unforgettable.
- Speak politely to him. Don't swear, tell dirty jokes, harass her or make sexually suggestive comments about her body.
- Don't press it. Never force a woman to do something she doesn't want. This includes drinking alcohol, having sex, or visiting places he doesn't want to go.
Part 3 of 3: Making Him Feel Special
Step 1. Don't be afraid to dance with her
Girls don't care if you're good at dancing or not. They just want to have fun. Whether you're dancing to soft music or fast music, try to sway or step from left to right to the beat, don't be too stiff.
- For a dance to soft music, place your right hand on the side of your partner's left hip or on your lower back, and let him place his right hand on your left, about shoulder level. As the leader, you can sway left and right or do a "step touch" (stepping one or two steps) to the beat of the music.
- If the position of your hands makes you nervous while dancing, you can choose the “hug dance” (dancing with each other). Men simply put their hands on their partner's hips while their hands are wrapped around your neck. The movement of the legs remains the same.
- If fast-paced music makes you nervous, you can simply move your body to the beat. Move your legs back and forth or left and right, relaxing your upper body so you can wiggle your shoulders and head, adding hand movements as well.
- Dance politely, don't make any erotic moves. You have to respect your partner.
- If that doesn't work, dancing with a group is also fun and reduces the pressure you feel. Popular group dances with choreographed moves like “Cupid Shuffle” or “Copperhead Road” are always fun choices for shy dancers.
Step 2. Spend time with his friends
Remember, prom night is not just about romance. You better hang out with friends, in addition to dating partners. If you don't have the same group of friends, make sure to spend enough time with each group of friends, not just yours.
- Even though your date is crazy about you, that doesn't mean he doesn't want to spend time with his friends too. Remember not to monopolize his time or get jealous when he chooses to dance with his girlfriends instead of you.
- Not everyone goes to prom with a partner. Let him spend time with his friends who didn't bring a partner.
- Be flexible. If you choose to go out to dinner with his friends, keep in mind that you will be meeting your own friends at the prom or even after. You both have to agree to share your time fairly with them.
Step 3. Show affection for him
Affection is small actions that show that you really care and make her feel wanted and loved. This could be as simple as holding her hand, hugging her unexpectedly, or simply smiling at her.
- When you show romantic affection (dance to soft music, kisses, etc.), make sure you are alone to make the moment special.
- Showing affection in public will be more effective if it is not overdone. Holding hands, embracing the waist, and a light kiss on the lips is fine as long as it's not overdone.
- Avoid hot kisses, touching private parts, licking or biting, and fondling his body.
Step 4. Give him attention
By paying attention to your date, you show that he or she is a priority. Keep your phone, listen to what he has to say, laugh when he tells jokes, and don't let your other friends (or worse, other girls) distract you. Show him that he is interesting and important and that you really enjoy being with him.
- Eye contact is important if you want to show interest in someone. During the conversation, make sure you're sitting facing him, not looking at the dance floor, or at your phone (even if you're nervous).
- Try to listen more than talk. When you listen and pay attention to what your date has to say, you don't have to search around for topics of conversation. The conversation will develop on its own and you will participate at the right time.
Tips
- Handle the little things ahead of time. If you use your own car, fill up the gas tank the day before, not on the way to his house. Make sure your settings are complete.
- Decide in advance what you will do. Will you put your arm around his shoulder (girls love it) or lend him your jacket while you wait outside (girls love it). Are you going to kiss him?
- Make a decision based on how close the two of you are and what you think he wants to do.
- When you see it for the first time, give a compliment, “Wow,” “You look so pretty,” or if you're shy, give a specific compliment like, “Your dress is amazing.” No matter how small a compliment you give, it will make prom night even more enjoyable.
- Do something different. Don't plan something simple. Girls like guys who think of something innovative and memorable, like giving flowers on their way out.
- Remember to thank him because he's willing to accept your invitation so it's a very pleasant evening.
- Think about his safety. Remember that you are partly responsible for his safety that night. So don't put him in a dangerous situation (like drinking alcohol) and make sure you get him home on time.
- If the night doesn't go according to plan, don't be discouraged! There are many other girls. Enjoy the prom for what it is: a special night to celebrate graduation. Congratulate yourself for being an amazing date and making the girl of your dreams feel special. Besides, you're going to college soon!
