It's normal to have a crush on someone. However, getting to know him and making him like you takes a lot of effort. Also, you can't force other people to love you. Love is a magical thing. However, there are several ways you can follow to increase the chances that your crush will love you back.
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Method 1 of 3: Communicating with Your Loved One
Step 1. Start a conversation
Chat is the most effective way to get to know someone and find out if they share your interests. By starting a conversation or simply making small talk, you can tell if he's interested in you or not. Make sure the chat stays interesting!
- Have small talk with him periodically, and occasionally talk about more serious things or have longer chats. If the conversation naturally deepens and you start sharing your secrets or dreams with him, the two of you will bond. Listen to what he has to say and respond with empathy. Make sure the topic of conversation is not always related or related to you.
- Maybe you need to tell me what really happened. You need to consider it when the time is right. Tell him about your true feelings. Be honest about it and don't hide anything. Make sure when you want to do it, it's just the two of you and you express your feelings as casually as possible (not stiff).
- If you go to the same school as her, try to join the same social circle as her. Always give her a smile, but don't give her an overly excited smile. Give him enough smiles for him to return and walk towards you. Ask about their Snapchat, Instagram, or Facebook profiles so you don't appear to be trying too hard to get close to them, but still get detailed information about them.
Step 2. Send him seduction signals and watch his response
Try to send signals, both with words and body language. With these signs of attraction, he can tell (whether consciously or not) that you like him. Maybe he's interested in you too.
- Give small hints with your body language. Sometimes, you give him clues subconsciously. See if your crush does the same. Try to be open to him and don't hesitate to show your fragile side. You need to let him know (without words) that he is someone special to you.
- Try to laugh a lot. Show him a little seduction. Say his name. People are usually happy when his name is mentioned. Don't forget to give him a compliment.
- Give him a spoiled touch. Make sure you don't touch it in a "terrible" way. You can try touching his arm. Such physical interactions show that you want to date him, even though he may not want to date you. Just touch his shoulder, give him a high five or even a hug before parting ways. Bite your lips, give her a sweet smile when she teases you, stroke her hair (this tip always works), and throw in more winks for her.
Step 3. Make eye contact
Nonverbal interactions like this usually just happen. Getting someone's attention is hard, as is keeping their attention on you. If you want someone to notice you, make eye contact with them for a short period of time. This can be compared to playing with a pet and swinging a string in front of his face. To attract his attention, of course you need to pull the thread.
- When you make eye contact, it doesn't mean you have to keep staring at him. It can make him feel horrified. To make eye contact with him, cast your gaze on him and give him a smile, then lower your head or cast your gaze the other way in embarrassment. It shows him that you like him, without making him cringe
- Eye contact also reflects confidence. This is an interesting aspect for most people because confidence can build intimacy. Some studies show that people who are in love show a lot of eye contact.
Method 2 of 3: Interacting with your idol
Step 1. Be her best friend and make sure you see or hang out with her more often
It is not uncommon for two friends / best friends to like and fall in love with each other after being friends for a long time. By knowing his hobbies, interests and things he hates, you can increase your chances of becoming his partner.
- Try chatting with him as a friend first. When you approach him, he will only see you as someone who likes him. This can be a problem if it turns out that he doesn't like you because he may not be interested in getting to know you better. Therefore, be his friend first before pursuing your love.
- Make sure he feels comfortable with you when the two of you spend time together or communicate. Get to know him better and let him get to know you (eg find out what you like/dislike, etc.). This step can show whether you are compatible with him or not.
Step 2. Spend more time with her
Try taking a walk with him. Maybe right now, isn't the time for you to spend time alone with him, but you can take him and a friend or two to the park or visit the house and play a game. This way, you can meet and interact with each other in a more natural setting.
- Do activities together. The more you interact with him, the more he will think about you. There is no need to think about this anymore.
- In the end, you can ask him if he wants to do some casual activities alone with you. Maybe you can take her out for a workout or watch a movie. Find out what he's interested in and use that information as suggestions for choosing activities to do together.
Step 3. Don't be too hasty and push yourself
Apart from being in an unhappy and forced relationship, if you are in a hurry to express your feelings, you can also destroy the existing relationship. The worst thing is that you can lose him as your best friend. Therefore, be patient.
- Being too clingy and clingy is one of the things a person doesn't like in a relationship. Give him space and let the relationship run naturally.
- Don't stalk your idol. Besides being rude, this is illegal (and won't make her fall in love with you). Don't seduce him too much. Don't even try to know or hear anything about it. Also, don't always be around him or force yourself to have to spend time with him. If he likes you, these things can actually turn off his feelings.
- Take walks together, have fun and chat. If you and your crush are meant to be together, the two of you will definitely be in a relationship. If not, there are many other people who can be your partner. Don't try so hard to get him to like you because love is not a game.
Step 4. Be someone he can rely on
People say that the best relationships usually start with friendship. Therefore, get to know the idol of your heart, and he will know you further. What's more important is showing him that he can trust you and come to you when he's having trouble or sadness.
- Help him whenever he needs help and show your presence at the right moment. Pay attention to his wants and needs. If he forgets to bring his lunch and you can buy him a snack or share lunch, he will really appreciate your kindness and concern
- Make him a priority, and show your presence when he needs it. Be someone he can rely on because you have to match your actions with your words. Be someone who can support him. Make him feel comfortable and proud of himself.
Step 5. Learn more about the things he is interested in
Show interest in the things he is interested in. For example, let's say your crush likes all things sports. Try watching a sports game with him so that when he starts talking about sports with his friends, you can understand what they're talking about.
- If he likes old music, ask him what his favorite song is. After that, try listening to the song and see if you can find similar songs that he might like.
- All you need to do is be yourself when you're with him, and watch how he responds. Remember to pay attention to his likes and dislikes, and be sensitive to his feelings and the things he is interested in. However, you don't necessarily have to force yourself to like things that are actually boring for you.
Method 3 of 3: Developing Yourself
Step 1. Look your best, but most importantly be yourself
Be honest with yourself and think about how neat and caring you are to yourself. Ask if you are diligent about taking care of yourself. Don't be selfish, but try to put on a good appearance.
- Show your fashion sense. You don't have to be an expert on high-end fashion, but with a modern and cool look, you can certainly attract the attention of your idol. Looking fresh and stunning is not a bad thing. Maybe you can choose a day to dress neat and cool, but make sure your style seems normal and not forced.
- Show a neat and polite appearance. If you're wearing dirty, wrinkled clothes, he may be reluctant to talk to you. If you want to buy new clothes, make sure you buy clothes in a style that suits you. Find out a style that suits your personality and can highlight your best body parts.
- Make sure your body is clean and fragrant. You may need to use a little perfume so that your body can spread its alluring scent (even if only briefly). Also use cologne/perfume and deodorant, brush your teeth and chew gum.
Step 2. Make sure you smile a lot and show a positive attitude
People want to be in a relationship with someone who is cheerful and fun, not one who has a lot of grumbling and negative views. Your attitude can have a big impact in the long run.
- People you admire and like are more likely to be nice to you if you show an open posture, smile, and greet them in a friendly manner, either by waving or smiling. Greet him in a cheerful manner, but not too much so he doesn't feel like you're stalking him. Usually, animals also behave like this to humans. Pets will be happy when they see their owners, and the owner will be happy when they see them. In fact, the owner will likely miss the pet. The same is true in human relations.
- Try to be nice to everyone and don't say bad things about other people. What you sow, that is what you will reap. The idol of your heart will see the way you treat other people. Ego and pride are not alluring things. Therefore, make sure your image is always associated with positive things.
Step 3. Believe in yourself
Don't change yourself or cover yourself up for various reasons. Your playfulness and desire to be different will usually only make other people feel reluctant to connect with you. Usually, people like little "mystery" and are attracted to confident people.
- Live your own life. The more seriously you take your own life, the more attractive you will become. And the more attractive your personality, the more your crush will be attracted to you.
- You have your own strengths, either physically (eg body shape) or intelligence (eg clever speech). Find out about your strengths and once you know them, try to develop those strengths.
- If you have to change yourself to get him to like you, he may not be the right person for you to like. Usually, feelings of love don't last more than four months, and there may be someone better for you.
Tips
- Make sure you really like it. To find out how well you know him, take some time to get to know his personality.
- Don't always make time for him. Usually, other people are happy when he has to go after someone he is coveted.
- Know and realize when you have to stop chasing him. You can't force someone to like you and don't let the same thing happen again. In fact, the more you try to get him to like you, the less likely he is to reciprocate your feelings.
