Knowing if someone else has a crush on you can be difficult, but things get even more complicated when it's your close friend who likes you. Close friends are usually very comfortable with each other and may display behavior that looks like flirting. If you want to know if your friend has feelings for you, pay attention to her body language and the way she talks to you, or get up the courage and ask her directly!
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Method 1 of 3: Paying Attention to Body Language
Step 1. Pay attention to his posture when you are near him
If your friend has feelings for you, his body language may be more open and he will usually stand with his body facing you, even when he is with other groups or friends.
- If he shows a relaxed posture with his body turned toward you, this can be a sign that he is comfortable. It may also mean that he likes you or simply feels comfortable around you.
- Watch for signs of a change in his posture when he is around you. For example, if he used to be calm and relaxed, but now he's acting stiff, there's a good chance he's nervous because he has a crush on you.
- If your friend usually crosses their arms across their chest or stands away from you when they're around you, they probably don't have feelings for you. However, if he only occasionally displays such a closed posture or body language, he may be chatting with someone else or busy.
Step 2. Notice if he makes frequent eye contact with you
Eye contact is one of the most universal methods of seduction. If you're spending time with him and notice that he often looks you in the eye, there's a good chance he's attracted to you.
- Sometimes eye contact is naturally shown when someone is chatting. Therefore, pay attention to whether he makes eye contact with you more often than anyone else.
- If your friend smiles before ending eye contact with you, this can be a sign that he is interested. If you want to show him that you like him too, smile back!
- If you notice that he suddenly makes more eye contact, or can't look back at you, this may be a sign that he's starting to be interested in a romantic relationship with you.
Step 3. Find out if he often touches his face, hair or collarbone (shoulder)
If your friend has a crush on you, he will often play with his hair, touch his lips, or press his fingertips against his shoulder (collarbone). Usually, gestures like this subconsciously signify interest.
Step 4. Observe if he changes his appearance when he meets or spends time with you
If your friend usually wears casual pants and an old T-shirt when spending time together, but suddenly dresses up as if she's ready for a date when she meets you, this could be a sign that she wants to look better to impress you.
Step 5. Notice if he often imitates your behavior
When someone has a crush, often unconsciously he will imitate the behavior of the person he likes. If you feel that your friend often touches his face or crosses his legs every time you do this, this could be a sign that he is "tuning in" to his body language with your gestures or body language.
Step 6. Observe if he hugs you longer than usual
If you and your friend are used to giving each other hugs, you can tell if he's holding you longer than usual. This can be a good sign that he does have a crush on you.
- If the two of you don't usually hug each other and he suddenly starts cuddling you a lot, this could be a sign that he likes you.
- People sometimes feel awkward when they realize that they like someone. If your friend used to hug you but suddenly doesn't hug you anymore, this can actually be a sign that he likes you.
Step 7. Pay attention to how often he touches you
The more you like someone, the more often you will look for "reasons" to touch them. If you feel that your friend is always looking for excuses to touch you, maybe he likes you.
- For example, he may compliment how smooth your sweater is as it touches your arm.
- If he suddenly shows physical affection, this may mean that he likes you. On the other hand, if the two of you are showing frequent physical contact and your best friend suddenly stops touching you, she may be feeling "self-conscious" because she likes you.
- Some people are "innate" indeed often show physical contact. If your best friend often touches the other person she's talking to, then maybe the touch she gives you doesn't have any special meaning.
Method 2 of 3: Listening to Hints in Chat
Step 1. Notice how often he laughs at your jokes
You're probably such a funny person that it's nothing special when your friend laughs after hearing your best joke. However, if someone laughs after hearing every joke you tell, even a joke you don't think is funny, this may mean that they like you.
If you want to find out about this, try telling a "crunch" joke, then see if he laughs after hearing it
Step 2. Observe if he compliments you often
If your friend has a crush on you, he or she will notice every good thing about you, from your appearance to how hard you study for the history test. If you feel that he compliments you more often than usual, he may like you.
Some people generally like to give compliments. Therefore, do not get hung up on a single compliment that he throws
Step 3. See if he remembers small details about you
Memories of “unimportant” facts about you can be a good indicator that he likes you. If your friend has a crush on you, he or she will pay attention to almost everything you say.
- If you've said you liked Lays, for example, and your friend brought it to you a few weeks later, there's a good chance he likes you.
- It's possible that your friend has a good memory so this doesn't necessarily mean that she has feelings for you.
Step 4. Observe if he offers you any help
Everyone has the urge to help, especially when they like someone. If your friend is constantly offering you small favors, he may wish that the two of you were more than just friends.
- These favors do not have to be large. For example, he may offer to get you a bottle of water because you forgot to bring or buy water to drink.
- If you feel that he likes you, don't take advantage of his desire to help you. This will make you appear insensitive and inattentive.
Step 5. Watch if he tries to talk about your love life
Your friend may talk about your last crush or try to guess who you like in order to judge how you feel about them. If you tell him that you don't like anyone right now, he will feel that he has a chance to be in a relationship with you.
- If he likes you, he may feel jealous or upset when you like someone else, or suddenly shut up when your love life is discussed.
- He may never tell you that he likes someone else if he has feelings for you.
Step 6. Ask someone who knows both of you if you're still not sure
Your friend with you may be able to figure out what's going on, even if the "suspect" hasn't told him openly that he likes you.
- Try saying, "I think Milea's been treating me a little differently lately. Do you think she likes me?"
- While you can get good feedback from another friend, he or she may be unsure or unwilling to get involved in the situation.
Method 3 of 3: Taking the Next Step
Step 1. Give him a chance to express his feelings
Spend some alone time with her in a place where there are not many distractions. Try to be calm and natural so he feels comfortable opening up.
- To bring up a topic in a conversation “subtly”, tell him how much he means to you. Name a few things you like about him. This will motivate him enough to confess his feelings.
- If he says that he really values his friendship with you, but doesn't say anything else afterwards, he may want to stay with you (platonic).
Step 2. Ask directly if he doesn't tell you
If you really want to know the truth, but he still hasn't told you, don't be afraid to be honest. Keep in mind that your friend may feel "cornered" so say that he doesn't have to answer your question right away.
- Try saying, "I've been feeling lately that you want to be more than just my friend. I think it would be better for this friendship if we talked about it.”
- If he evades, immediately move on to another topic of conversation. Don't show any relief as he may be trying to hide his true feelings.
Step 3. Don't give him hope if you don't like him
If he admits that he likes you, but you don't feel the same for him, be friendly and understanding, but make it clear that you're not interested in dating him.
You can say, “I'm glad you told the truth and I'm touched, but I'm sorry that I don't feel the same way. If you want, we can remain close friends. Otherwise, I can understand it.”
Step 4. Give him space if you reject his love
Your friend may get hurt after you reject her feelings, even if you show it nicely. Give him time for his heart and self-esteem to heal.
After a week or two, try calling him back to see if he'd like to join you and your other friends for some fun together. However, it might be a good idea not to immediately invite him to spend time alone for now so he doesn't get the "wrong" signal
Step 5. Try dating if you feel you like him
In the best case scenario, your friend will confess their love for you and you will realize that you do! In a situation like this, plan a few dates, have fun together, and tell the rest of your friends!
