Have you ever met a woman who was very cool and fun, but unfortunately, the moment you met her was very short and therefore, you didn't get a chance to get to know her more deeply? If you have experienced this, chances are that you have plans to contact him again. Unfortunately, contacting someone you haven't seen in a long time isn't as easy as turning your hand, and can even lead to awkwardness. Fortunately, however, there are many ways that can be done to re-establish long-lost relationships, such as by initiating contact, determining the most appropriate method for starting a conversation, and/or meeting the person in person. Want to know more information? Come on, read this article! Who knows, your friendship with him could move in a more serious direction after that, right?
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Part 1 of 3: Contacting him
Step 1. Approach him
If you run into her by accident, try to muster up the courage to walk up to her and have a chat with her. This is the most straightforward method and requires an exorbitant amount of courage. However, don't worry because armed with courage and a little luck, there shouldn't be a problem you need to worry about. When approaching him:
- Stand as straight as possible with good posture.
- Don't show your nervousness or discomfort.
- Smile.
- Make sure your clothes look clean, neat, and attractive.
- Be as relaxed as possible, as if your free time is unlimited.
Step 2. Contact him via text message
In fact, text messages are the perfect medium because he doesn't have to look at your face! After texting him, be patient and wait until he has time to respond, if he wants to, of course. Remember, your message should be short, and it shouldn't contain a date! Instead, bring up light, occasional topics, colored by jokes, and ask how he's doing.
- Basically, a text message can start with a very simple sentence like, “Hi! It's been a while, we haven't talked." Chances are, he'll admit that he doesn't remember you, so you can use this moment to introduce yourself and talk about other things afterwards.
- Send him text messages about things he might be interested in. For example, if he's really into politics, try sending him a text to tell him that you were watching the latest election results on television and suddenly thought of him.
Step 3. Contact him via social media
In fact, there are many ways you can contact him through social media. For example, you can send a short message to their social media pages, like their posts on Facebook, or comment on their posts. In addition, you can also tag him in a photo, to remind him of the good times you have spent together.
- Tag him in a photo and include an emotional caption such as, "Happy time!"
- If you decide to reach out to him on social media, try sending him a text that says something like, “Hey, it's been a while since we've seen each other and chatted. How are you today?"
Step 4. Contact him by phone
This method is actually quite aggressive and therefore prone to triggering awkwardness. However, this method is the simplest, easiest, and fastest way to reconnect with someone. Consider your preferences. Whether you want to contact him in a more direct way (like by phone) or not (like via text message or social media).
- If you decide to call her, don't forget to start the conversation with a short self-introduction. After saying your name, try saying, "I suddenly remembered the fun times we had last month, and I thought about asking how you're doing."
- If he doesn't pick up your phone, don't call him again. Instead, leave a voicemail or leave your number recorded on his phone as a missed call. After all, if he wanted to contact you, he would definitely do so.
Part 2 of 3: Starting a Conversation
Step 1. Re-introduce yourself
If you decide to meet him or contact him by phone, don't forget to reintroduce yourself, especially since he may have forgotten your name. Therefore, always start the conversation with a brief introduction, and don't forget to share how you got acquainted.
- Say something like, “Hey Ann, I'm John. At that time we were introduced to Andi."
- Don't be offended if he doesn't know your name or forgets it later.
Step 2. Use humor
Whatever medium you use to contact him, try to fill the conversation with humor. Besides being able to dilute a situation that might feel awkward, doing so will remind him of the positive values that you have. There are several ways you can use this method:
- Start the conversation with light humor that you find funny. For example, if he really likes eating Oreos, try crafting a joke based on that fact.
- Tell fashion-related jokes. For example, you could say, "I just came from the mall, didn't I, then I saw someone who really looked like you, but he wore Crocs shoes."
- Use self-deprecating humor. For example, you could say, “Uh, remember me, don't you? That you know, a guy who likes to wear cowboy shoes is super weird."
Step 3. Ask how he is
Call him and start the conversation by asking how he's been doing. If you are interested in having a romantic relationship with him, this method is actually a powerful method to use to dig up information regarding his latest status in terms of love. After all, this is a very honest and straightforward way to initiate a conversation.
- In general, you can say, "It's been a long time, we haven't talked. How are you?"
- If you and he meet at work, and one of you has changed jobs, try asking, "How has your job been lately?"
- If it's your friend who introduced you and him, make that person the topic of conversation. For example, ask if recently, he had the chance to chat again with the friend in question.
Step 4. Pretend to send the wrong message
Even if you're actually lying, there's nothing wrong with applying this method once in a while. For example, you can send a message to him, as if the message was actually addressed to someone else, such as a friend or someone you like. Make sure the content of your message is short and simple, but able to provoke his curiosity. More than likely, he'll tell you that you sent the wrong message, or pretend to be the one who "supposed" to receive your message. Whatever his response, take the opportunity to chat with him!
Sooner or later, you still have to admit that in fact, he is the person you want to talk to. After all, he probably already noticed
Part 3 of 3: Asking Him To Meet
Step 1. Invite him to an event together
Whichever way you use to contact him, try asking him to attend an event together. That way, you've managed to show interest in a non-explicit way. In addition, this method can also give him the opportunity to get to know you better in casual situations.
- For example, if you're having a party or casual event with some friends, try inviting the girl you're interested in to attend.
- If you and your friends are traveling to a casual party or event, try calling them and asking them to go with you to the event.
Step 2. Invite him to do simple activities
The easiest way to meet him is to ask him to do something fun, but casual. Remember, this step is important, especially since you don't want him to feel like he's being asked out on a date! Some examples of simple and casual activities you can do with him:
- Drink coffee with your other friends.
- Drink together at the place you are currently visiting.
- Travel to events that interest you. For example, invite him to meet after attending a concert, or invite him to attend a meeting of an organization on campus.
Step 3. Walk away from her if the response is negative
If he's constantly ignoring the calls, text messages, or text messages you leave on his social media pages, chances are he's not really interested in you. Therefore, stay away from him! Do this also if he sends signals that he is not interested in various opportunities for you. Back off, but still give him a chance to contact you. If he doesn't, it means that your feelings for him are one-sided.
