It's not easy being a super cool guy. To be a cool person, you have to be individualistic, don't care what other people think, and treat other people with kindness and respect for them without looking too overwhelming. But if you really want to be cool, you have to pay attention to your appearance, develop a unique and attractive personality, and project a cool impression to the world. If you want to know how to be a super cool guy, just follow these steps.
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Method 1 of 3: Developing a Cool Personality
Step 1. Be yourself
Appearance is important, but not as important as being yourself. Learn how to worry less about being looked down upon and you should be more concerned with having fun, joking, talking about your interests, and doing what you want to do. If you can make everyone laugh, you're a good start.
- Don't be shy about letting others see your uniqueness. If your hobby is keeping birds, that's cool. But if you want to hide the hobby, you're not cool at all.
- Don't hide your hometown. If you're from the Java region and have a Javanese accent, don't try to hide it just because you live in Jakarta. Others will appreciate your differences.
- Don't be indifferent. If you really want to know who won last night's baseball game, show it. Don't act like you don't care about anything just to be cool.
- Always be myself. You can try to improve some parts of your personality, but being authentic means you're not afraid to be yourself.
Step 2. Be charming
If you want to be a really cool guy, you have to know how to wow everyone with your presence. A charming person will walk into a room with confidence and be able to speak to everyone he meets in a relaxed, humorous way, and with a smile on his face. You have to be able to please an 80-year-old woman or make an 80-year-old man laugh out loud; In order to be a very charming person, you need a magic touch that makes other people feel comfortable in your presence.
- To charm someone, show your interest in them rather than keep talking about yourself. Ask about the person's interests or feelings and nod your head while maintaining eye contact to show that you care.
- To charm someone, remember the person's name the next time you see them, and say their name the next time you see them.
- Don't be hard to laugh. Charming people always laugh or make other people laugh. Don't be afraid to joke with someone who can take your jokes.
Step 3. Be funny and smart
Being funny and smart is part of being a cool person. If you want to be a really cool guy, you have to be able to make other people laugh, be good at talking, and maintain light, funny jokes with everyone you pass. To be funny and smart, you have to be smart, and you have to offer sharp and witty comments at the right time.
- If someone says something funny, don't just laugh - reply to the joke with a funny comment.
- Watch other funny and smart people you admire, from comedians to your funny uncle, to see if you can learn their tricks.
- You need perfect timing to be funny and smart. Tell your jokes while everyone is listening and tell them loud enough for everyone to hear. If you make a joke in a low voice or while someone else is talking, your joke won't sound cool if you repeat it.
Step 4. Be a social being
Don't be fooled by the movies. Cool men don't pose with their motorbikes in the parking lot until they are surrounded by women. Contact other people, make plans, take risks, and make friends you can trust and respect. If you're a social being and hang out with lots of people, you'll look cool because your friends come from all walks of life.
- Accept invitations to you. Don't turn down other people's invitations just because you don't think coming to the place will look "cool".
- Don't “always be a social being. While it's great to hang out with other people, give yourself time to do your own thing and develop your personality.
- Be friendly to everyone. Don't just be a social being and be nice to cool people-truly cool people get along with just about anyone.
Step 5. Be confident
You can be very handsome, but girls won't be attracted to you if you talk shyly or have a stooped posture. Lift your chin and stick out your chest, and look everyone in the eye. Improve your self-esteem to get rid of the problems you have with insecurity. This is not a quick process, but other people will not respect you until you can respect yourself.
- Walk with your chin up, showing that you are proud of yourself.
- Speak clearly and slowly so that the other person can hear what you are saying.
- Make eye contact when talking to someone. Eye contact shows that you are comfortable with yourself.
- Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself. This shows that you are very confident. You don't have to be self-deprecating to laugh at yourself once in a while.
Step 6. Show your interest in other people
Who wants to hear someone talk about themselves over and over again? Find out what your friends are interested in or are working on and ask about it. This will give you a reputation as someone who cares and is considerate.
- When you talk to someone, ask, "How are you?". This shows that you really care about the person.
- Ask someone about their interests. People love to talk about their interests, and will think you're a cool person for asking.
Step 7. Be a positive person
You don't have to give everyone the thumbs up or grin like an idiot to be positive. Being a positive person means being passionate, looking for the good in everything, and talking about things that make you happy rather than clouding the air. No one likes people who are negative and complaining all the time, so you should avoid such behavior as much as possible. Instead, focus on the positive because you'll see how quickly other people will think you're cool.
- Every time you hear yourself say something negative, say three positive things to counter your negative words.
- It's okay to complain or be negative once in a while if you're really feeling angry or upset. However, don't let it become a habit.
- If the other person is emitting negative energy, you can also make that person feel better by making them see the positive side of things and making them laugh. People will appreciate your ability to make it better. That's a really cool thing.
Step 8. Don't insult other people
You might think it's cool to sneer at other people who aren't as cool as you or call others "cowards" because they don't live up to your cool standards. But insulting other people won't make you look any better-on the contrary, it will make you look insecure and desperate to make other people look so bad that people will see you as cool.
Instead of insulting other people, you can prank or joke with your friends. They will prank you back and you will both have a great time. This is better than spreading a cloud of negativity
Method 2 of 3: Developing Interest
Step 1. Read a book
Read some books. Always have a good book you are reading at home with you. Books can be a great topic and can invite conversation at parties. Plus, someone who loves to read always looks attractive. The more you read, the broader your knowledge will be, and the more your perspective on the world will expand.
- If other people say you are a nerd, ignore it and laugh. Everything looks cool if you make it cool.
- Reading will also make it easier for you to talk to a wide variety of people, not just narrow-minded social circles. Really cool people can talk to just about anyone.
Step 2. Stay insightful about what's happening
You don't have to read several newspapers every day, but having a basic understanding of what's going on in the world will earn you a reputation for being intelligent and insightful. Both qualities are attractive qualities. This process can be as simple as opening Google News and reading the two or three biggest stories each day.
- You don't have to sound like a know-it-all when you bring up something interesting and relevant. Others will think you're a cool person for taking the time to think about the world-not just yourself.
- If you don't know what's going on in the world, you'll look confused-and that's not cool.
Step 3. Be physically active
Having a healthy and active body is really cool. Even if you're not a big athlete, going to the gym or running can improve blood flow and improve your shape. Being physically active will also develop self-confidence which can make you a really cool person.
- Exercise is also a good way to make new friends and socialize with other people. Join a sports team or two at your school, and see how many new friends you make.
- Being physically active can also make your body release endorphins that will make you feel better, improve your mood, and make you seem more interesting to hang out with.
Step 4. Pursue your interests
Whether joining a club at school or taking a scriptwriting course in your community, doing something you love not only makes you look more attractive, it can help you meet new friends. Don't be shy about pursuing your interests, even if some of the things you enjoy aren't considered "cool."
If you join a club, you can land a chairmanship sometime in the future, and that's really cool
Step 5. Learn a new skill
The more things you can do, the cooler you'll look. Learn how to repair a car, build a table, finish a deck, or even cook the perfect steak. If you have a skill, not only will you be useful to others, but other people will also think that you are cool by taking the initiative to do something.
When you master a skill, you teach it to others. That's just cool
Step 6. Develop interest with your own business
While certain interests, such as team sports, can be better developed if done in a group, part of being cool is when you can spend time learning something on your own. Anyone who can spend time alone and even likes spending time alone is cooler than someone who always wants to hang out with other people.
- Spend time learning how to play the guitar, a new language, or just journaling. This can help you figure out who you are and you'll be cooler when you do it.
- If you are around at any time, people will look down on you. However, if you are sometimes busy with your own activities, other people will appreciate you more when you are with them.
Method 3 of 3: Making a Good Impression
Step 1. Have proper body language
While being cool has to come from within, other people can make assumptions about you if your body language indicates that you don't trust and believe in yourself. To have cool body language, stand up straight, lift your chin, and spread your shoulders. It can show that you are proud of yourself.
- Don't stoop because you'll look scared.
- Don't cross your arms in front of your chest as this will make you look uncomfortable and insecure. Instead, place your hands at your sides or use your hands to signal when you speak.
- Don't move around nervously or fix clothes, as this will make you look insecure.
Step 2. Keep yourself clean
Have you ever met a cool guy who sweats, smells, and never brushes his teeth? Of course not. Shower every day, use deodorant to cover up body odor, brush your teeth twice a day, and wash your hair regularly. Carry mint gum with you everywhere to get rid of bad breath. Make sure you wash clothes regularly.
Step 3. Take care of your skin
Wash your face with warm water and apply moisturizer afterwards. If you have dry skin, moisturize with a product specifically for dry skin. Do not use scented products if your skin is sensitive. For oily or combination skin, use a non-alcoholic moisturizer designed for oily/combination skin. For acne problems, Clearasil offers a number of products from face washes to acne creams.
Pay attention to food and drink consumption. A healthy diet and drinking lots of water is also very good for your skin. Greasy and fatty foods will make your skin feel oilier too
Step 4. Be assertive
Don't be afraid to take up space when you're sitting or moving. Don't be afraid to speak up, even if it creates social pressure. As you speak, slow down your words to show that you value what you are saying and are not worried about being interrupted. Make good eye contact and be fearless.
At the same time, know when to let other people be the center of attention. You can't 100% highlight yourself all the time
Step 5. Have a cool style
Make sure all your clothes feel right and look good on you. Try to find a color or pattern that looks especially good on your skin tone, and wear it often. Even simple clothes like T-shirts and jeans are okay as long as they fit you well.
- If you must shop for clothes, invest in a few more expensive clothes that are of high quality instead of buying lots of cheap clothes that look ordinary.
- Experiment with different styles, and try to find a style that reflects your strengths and identity, whether it's “preppy”, “rock” or “hipster” style.
- Having a cool style means wearing what you like no matter how silly you might look. If other people make fun of your clothes and you stop wearing them just to please other people, you're not a cool person.
Step 6. Style your hair
Just because you have nice clothes doesn't mean you can forget about your hair. Make sure your hair is styled in a style that fits, is comfortable, and easy to manage. Shampoo regularly, and if your hair is short, try a different hairstyle.
If you have to get your hair cut or you want a new hairstyle, it's best to spend some money on hiring a professional stylist once, take photos of the hairstyles he has done, and sample the results of his hairdo at a cheaper place later on. If he does your hair the way you like, ask him to teach you how to do it
Step 7. Don't forget to smile
You may think that smiling is uncool, or think that those who smile broadly for no reason are just idiots, but it's actually the opposite. If you are nice and smile at people, they will feel welcome and want to get to know you better. If you're too cool to say hello to them, you'll be leaning your chin alone in the corner of the room while everyone else is having fun.
A smile makes a lasting impression. Even if other people don't really know you, they will like you if you smile at them. If you don't smile, they'll think you're a snob or a grouch before they really get to know you
Tips
- Don't be afraid to be anything. Be spontaneous!
- Making someone smile not only looks cool but will attract women. A guy with a good sense of humor is a really cool guy.
- Girls love hanging out with cool guys because cool guys make them feel good, laugh, and smile.
- Do not smoke. Girls hate cigarette smoke hitting their faces. Cigarettes cause bad breath, and make your clothes smell like cigarettes and are very unhealthy.
- Do something in your style that makes you stand out, without going overboard.
- The number one rule for being a cool person is knowing that you are the best. You don't have to say it, but show others that you are confident and they will follow you.
- Don't change your personality when you're with several different women. Try to stay true to yourself, but show some of your personality that's different.
- Try to be unique by wearing your own style. Be friendly and kind to others.
- Being a style icon is cool too.
Warning
- Do not engage in hostility and competition. The best solution is to ignore drama like this and turn to something more useful.
- It's okay to copy someone else's style, but only as a way of developing your own style. You can use your own style or behavior that you get from watching other people, but in the end, you have to choose what you want to make your own style.
- Cool guys don't insult other people to feel more confident. Although such people will become popular at some point, they will lose friends and respect.
- Don't seduce every girl you meet. This will bring you a negative reputation.
- Know that not everyone will like you. That's normal. You can't please everyone. Just make sure you accept people who reject you for whatever reason.
