To get a guy to ask you out on a date, you need to subtly let him know that you want to get to know him better, and signal that you're ready to date. There are several things you can do to let him know that you want him to ask you out, from using positive body language to telling him your schedule. If you want to know how to get a guy to ask you out on a date quickly, just follow these easy steps.
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Method 1 of 3: Let Him Know You Are Interested In Him
Step 1. Use your body
Your body language will let him know that you see him as more than just a friend. There are a few little tricks that can help show her that you want her to ask you out on a date. Here's what you can do:
- Maintain eye contact. Look into her eyes long enough to make her smile then look in a different direction. Make sure he clearly knows that he has your attention.
- Play with your hair all the time. Try to make it seem exciting, and like you like him, not like you're feeling nervous.
- Whether you're sitting up straight or standing, you should lean toward him and keep your arms by your side or use your arms to signal, so that he feels your body "open" to communicate.
- Look at the floor every now and then. This will make you look charming and polite.
Step 2. Flirt with the opposite sex
Flirting with the opposite sex is a great way to improve your relationship and show that you want him to ask you out on a date. You can make subtle flirting and signal that you want to date without being too flashy.
- Speak softly. This will make you appear more attractive and will make the guy lean over to talk to you.
- Look for subtle ways to compliment him. Let him know that he is attractive or that he looks good without being flashy.
- Wear sexy clothes. Show a little cleavage or wear clothes that show off the most beautiful parts of your body. You can still do it without looking too much while still getting the guy's attention.
- Flirt with him. On a whim, joke about one of her interests or a unique part of the outfit she's currently wearing.
- Remember to take it lightly. Seducing the opposite sex should be done gently.
Step 3. Get to know him better
If you want him to know that you are interested in going on a date, then you have to show that you are interested in him personally. You don't have to set up an interview to show that you care about him and what he enjoys doing. Here are things that can be done:
- Ask a few questions about his interests. It doesn't interfere with personal freedom and men like to talk about what interests them.
- Men love to talk about sports to anyone who wants to listen to them. If you happen to like sports or have studied his favorite team, ask what he thinks about the team's performance this season. Then you can step up and ask him if he plays a sport.
- Show that his opinion matters. Ask him what he thinks about a controversial new film or a political issue that has been widely reported in the media. But don't pick a topic that's so controversial that you're both involved in an argument.
Method 2 of 3: Gesture
Step 1. Use the common interests of both of you to your advantage
If you have some interests in common, then you have even more reasons to go on a date. Once you get to know the guy and know that you both have some things in common, you can use that as an excuse to move your relationship closer.
- Music is a perfect general interest. If you like the same band, you can talk about the band and maybe mention that they will be having a concert soon. See if he asks you to go to a concert with him. Cultivate your interests so he has more reasons to ask you out.
- See if you both like the same sports team. If you both really like the same sports team, talk about the team and casually ask if he's played the sport recently.
- Use food as a talking point. If you both happen to mention that you both like a certain food, you can ask him if he's ever been to a new restaurant that serves that food.
Step 2. Ask your friend to give some cues
Friends can also help him ask you out on a date without being too flashy. If your friend makes comments at the right time, it can influence him to ask you out on a date. Here's how friends can help you lure the guy you have a crush on:
- One of your friends can subtly tease him and ask when he'll have the courage to ask you out. Just make sure it doesn't look like you're telling a friend to do this.
- If you're always around the guy, have a friend say, "Wow, this is my favorite partner." This will be weird, but it will let him know that people see the two of you as a couple.
- Have a friend casually mention you in conversation to see how they react. If he reacts positively, the friend can tell you that the two of you should try to get to know each other better.
Step 3. Talk about your plans
If you know a way to casually talk about your plans, whether it's a plan to go to a fun concert, a party, or just a drink between classes, this will be an easy way for him to join in. If you mention something that sounds interesting to him, it will lead to a casual event that could lead to a date.
- If you're going to a fun party on the weekend, mention it. He may want to join in, especially if some friends you both know are going to the party.
- If you happen to run into him, you can tell him you're going for a walk or grab a snack, and he might want to come along.
- If the two of you are walking back to class or an activity, find a subtle way of saying that you're hungry or want something to drink, and he may invite you over for a meal or a drink.
- Let him know if you're going to do something fun in the next few weeks. If you have plans to visit a bar, restaurant, movie theater, or concert, he may want to come with you when the time comes.
Step 4. Let him know your schedule
Letting the guy know what your schedule is like is different by talking about your plans. If you tell him what your schedule is like, he's more likely to ask you out if your schedule fits together or if he knows you have some free time. Try not to look too busy or he will feel that you don't have time to date. On the other hand, don't look like you have too much free time so that you seem like you have nothing to do.
- If you're both taking the same classes, let him know when you have time between classes. If he knows you have a few hours of free time between classes, he might take you out for lunch.
- If you pass by your favorite bar or restaurant, you can casually say, "I love that place. I always go there on Wednesdays." It's a subtle way of letting him know he'd better come along.
- If you have some free time this weekend, let him know. Say, "I've been busy the past three weekends. I really wanted to do something fun and relaxing this weekend."
- If you have a favorite coffee shop, tell him that it is where you are a few times a week. Lure him by saying that the place has some of the best coffee drinks in the area or suggesting one of his specialty drinks.
Method 3 of 3: Knowing What Not to Do
Step 1. Avoid the friend zone
You have to make sure that the guy doesn't put you in the friend zone and that you don't do that to him either. There are several things you can do to draw the line between "just friends" and "friends who want more."
- If he's trying to treat you like the rest of his friends, don't let that happen. Make it clear that you are not in that place just to be his friend. If he invites you to go out with a group of his friends, look good, as if you were dressed for a date.
- Pay attention to how he asks you for advice. If he's always asking you what he should do for other girls, then he probably sees you as just a friend. Change the conversation and show him that you are a girl he can turn to as a lover.
Step 2. Avoid letting him know how much you want to go out with him
There's a difference between signaling that you want him to ask you out and being really flashy about how much you want to go out with him. If you're too flashy, then your desires will be obvious, and you won't seem too attractive anymore.
- Avoid texting, calling, waving too excitedly, or paying too much attention to her. He will be overwhelmed and you better stay calm.
- Avoid constantly asking about when you're going out together again. If he doesn't respond, then he probably doesn't want it.
- Avoid talking about how much time you have on the weekends or how flexible your schedule is. Better yet, talk about all the fun plans you make. He should feel like he has to find time in your busy schedule if he wants to see you, not like you're waiting to do something nice.
Step 3. Don't wait too long
If you really want a guy to ask you out on a date, but you feel like you've been constantly signaling him to know that you want to go on a date, then there are two things you can do.
- Get on with your life. If you've made it clear that you want him to ask you out on a date but he still won't act, he probably isn't very interested in you and should find someone who is more deserving of your affection.
- Ask him out on a date. If he's a shy person but you feel that he wants to get to know you better, be brave and ask him out. If you feel nervous about this, ask him to go with you in a larger group of friends first.
Tips
- If he says he doesn't know when you ask what kind of girl he likes, then he likely has feelings for you, but isn't sure if he likes you or how he should express it.
- Avoid talking to her, texting her, or calling her constantly, as you may only be driving her away from you.
- He may not like you. If so, then don't force him to go out with you. After all, there were many other men. Also, you never know when the two of you might meet again.
