It can be hard to read a guy's intentions sometimes, especially from a guy you like, and expect to like you too. While you can't tell everything from body language, behavior, and words, there's a lot you can learn from there. Pay attention to the way he behaves around you, and you will begin to understand the meaning of his behavior.
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Method 1 of 3: Reading Her Body Language
Step 1. Notice if he tries to initiate the touch
While touch doesn't always guarantee that he's attracted to you or flirts with you, there are certain touches that make him more likely. You should observe a touch that is more "lovely" and more than just "friends."
- A friendly pat on the back means he's comfortable and friendly with you, but that doesn't mean he's flirting with you. It's the same with high fives, fist fights, which is a friendly touch and not a flirty touch.
- A touch of the hand or a hug that lasts longer than his friends is a touch that could be a sign he's flirting, or interested in you.
Step 2. Pay attention to the look in his eyes
Eye gaze is the biggest part of flirting. Eyesight can create sparks between two people, and this means he can't take his eyes off you. Eyes that are longer than normal are a good sign.
- He wants to stare at you, especially if he's flirting with you (this is another good sign). That way, he can see your reaction, or just admire how you look.
- If he smiles or grins at you, even better. Flirting is fun, a smile between two people can send a signal of interest.
Step 3. See how to sit or stand
Subconsciously, people often imitate the behavior of people they like. If you're with him, pay attention to whether he imitates your movements, such as drinking coffee a few moments after you do it, and so on.
- Pay attention to things like: is he sitting facing you? Does he make sure to stay within your line of sight, so he can see you? Does he come closer when you talk?
- If he's facing or looking the other way, looking away in the middle of a conversation, crossing his arms or legs, and pulling his body back, chances are he's not flirting with you.
Step 4. Notice if he raises his eyebrows while talking to you
Men often raise their eyebrows slightly upwards when talking to women they like. You need to observe the movement of his eyebrows when you are with him, and when he is with other people to see the difference.
Method 2 of 3: Pay Attention to His Speech
Step 1. Notice if he asks for your advice
A guy who likes you wants to hook up with you. This means borrowing your book, watching a movie or listening to music that you suggest. He may even use this opportunity to tease you with words, by mocking your choices.
This indicates that he values your opinion, and wants to build a deeper relationship with you. It may also mean you have good taste
Step 2. Pay attention if he taunts you
Gentle teasing is often an attempt to flirt. So, the guy who mocks you may be trying to flirt with you. This could mean gentle teasing about what you do, or making jokes about your poor ability to read directions, for example.
- He may also be making jokes around you more often than normal, as he's trying to get your attention by making you laugh. This can be done by making strange puns, or making fun of himself (for example, about his difficulty reading directions).
- Make sure he doesn't say things that hurt you. This ridicule shouldn't make you feel bad. He may try to flirt, but if he's not doing it in a good way then avoid such men.
Step 3. Notice if he compliments you
Men who are interested and want to flirt with you, will pay attention to you. Giving compliments can also be a part of flirting, especially if they're delivered with a bit of ridicule.
- He may compliment your appearance, smile, or clothes you are wearing, etc.
- He may also be complimenting things other than your appearance. Like your ability to write, tell stories, count, play video games, etc.
Step 4. Notice if he asks a "hanging" question
Questions like these will keep you talking, and allow them to chat, or flirt with you longer. Pay attention if he throws these kinds of questions into your conversation.
- Some "hanging" questions for example are: "So, you're still single because…", or "What did you do this weekend…"
- This question signals his interest in your personal relationship status, or whether he can meet you, but in a more seductive way.
Method 3 of 3: Watching His Behavior
Step 1. Notice if he is around you
Men who are interested and want to flirt with you will be there for you. Point. He won't be busy all the time, he will make time for you. Even if he shows his interest by ignoring you, he will make sure to ignore you outright.
- Remember, he'll have a hard time flirting if he's not there. If he's never there for you, chances are he's not flirting with you.
- Even if he's not physically around, he'll text, call, and make sure to attend the event you attend.
Step 2. See if he's trying to impress you
A guy who is attracted to you and wants to spend time flirting with you will probably try and wow you. When he does or says something "cool," he'll make sure you see how cool he is.
See if he tries to look better than his friends when he's around you. Performing better here means in terms of the cool things he does. He wants to dance better (and show you this). He may also try to show you a new cycling trick
Step 3. Notice if he laughs at your words
Guys who like you will laugh with you at your funny comments (even if they aren't that funny, especially if they aren't). Your teasing words will make him laugh if he likes you.
Remember, laughing mockingly is not a good sign. He may laugh when you do something stupid, but if his laughter hurts you then stay away from that kind of guy. You shouldn't flirt or do anything with the guy
Step 4. Notice if he pays attention to you
Again, an interested man will pay attention. If he treats you very well, does nice things for you, helps you, then he's most likely interested in you (especially in certain ways).
- For example: if he brings you flowers, or something just because he's thinking about you (even if it's silly), then this is a good sign.
- He may also bring you something when you are sick. This shows that he is thinking about you and this is shown by his desire to help you, especially if he has to work hard for it.
Step 5. Pay attention to how he treats you
This is very important. A guy who really likes to flirt may be flirting with you, but that's how he treats everyone. A guy who flirts with you because he's interested, will treat you differently, especially compared to his friends.
For example, even if he gives a touch of love and flowers, if he does the same thing to other men and women, then he may be flirting, but that's how he is. He did not give this treatment specifically for you
Step 6. See if he defends you
There's nothing quite like a man standing up for you. If you're arguing with someone, and this person hurts you, see if the guy will help you.
