Planning to attend a party but not sure what to do at it? You are not alone! In fact, many people are afraid or reluctant to attend parties, especially if this is their first experience. However, understand that attending parties is one of the most common activities to do to expand your social network. Therefore, it's best to try to overcome the inconvenience that arises because chances are, you will still have to attend dozens of parties and social events in the future!
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Method 1 of 3: Socialize
Step 1. Come to a party with your friends
The best way to ensure your comfort is to attend parties with people you know. That way, you and them can accompany and supervise each other. Instead, invite them to go together instead of agreeing to meet at the party location. If you choose the second option, there is a chance that you will be stuck alone for a while until your friend arrives.
If your friend is very extroverted and friendly, chances are he has a greater desire to socialize than you. On the other hand, if your friend is more introverted and reserved, he or she will most likely choose to stay alone and not socialize with anyone
Step 2. Come to the party location
Once you arrive at the party location, don't be shy to knock on the door and declare your presence. Make sure you also say hello to the host of the party, if you have one. Once inside the house, scan the entire room for someone you know. If necessary, enter each room to find the whereabouts of people whose figures are familiar to you.
- Introduce yourself by saying, “Hello, I'm Jill. How are you?" Be yourself so others can give you a positive response.
- If there is a person who is not close enough, but has had a conversation with you, don't hesitate to approach him. However, don't interrupt anyone's conversation, okay?
- If none of your friends show up yet, try to remain nonchalant and not seem desperate to have a chat or get other people's attention. Usually, teenagers choose to smoke to avoid awkward situations. However, don't do it! Besides not being good for your health, you are also prone to getting stuck in an addiction that is difficult to overcome. Instead, try shifting your mind to an interesting article to read on your phone.
Step 3. Introduce yourself to someone whose existence you are aware of
There's no need to be embarrassed if you don't know anyone at the party! Try scanning the entire room for people who seem less busy or not in conversation with other people. Then, create opportunities to start a chat with those in a similar situation. If you manage to have an interesting conversation, chances are that your presence will start to be noticed by other guests, you know!
- Start by introducing yourself and explaining that you are aware of his existence. After that, move on to topics that can connect you.
- Increase conversational interest by asking questions about her past, such as, "Have you lived anywhere else before?" or “What were you doing last week?”
Step 4. Interact with your friends
One of the easiest ways to socialize at a party is to hang out with people you know. This is a powerful strategy because other guests will generally enter your circle of friends in turn. If a new person arrives, don't forget to introduce yourself.
Get close to your friends, but don't feel the burden of following their movements through the night. In fact, you can find the attraction of a party when you explore independently, you know
Step 5. Exchange cell phone numbers with someone
Sometimes, you will find it easier to socialize if you have a goal, such as getting someone's cell phone number. Many people do this for the purpose of dating, but the truth is you can also do it with the aim of making new friends. After meeting a new person, keep asking questions until you and he can both enjoy each other's company.
- Not everyone is sociable, and this situation is perfectly normal. Therefore, try to have specific goals to improve your social skills.
- One way to get someone's cell phone number is to take them out on a trip at a different time. For example, you could ask, "Hey, wanna watch football together next week?"
Method 2 of 3: Actively Engage
Step 1. Dance and dance
Generally, the dance floor is the perfect place for party guests to have fun. Ideally, no one should be embarrassed to dance in the middle of a party. If shame and discomfort fill your mind, don't start the dance show. However, if the event is initiated by another guest, join even if it's just for one song.
- Dance floors are generally a great place to socialize and meet new people. By joining in, you can always compliment the dancing style of someone you may not know.
- Move your body to the music and don't fight the urges. In fact, dancing and dancing will feel easier if you want to feel the rhythm that beats and moves along with it.
Step 2. Consumption of alcohol
Don't be surprised if the party host will serve up alcoholic drinks! If offered one of them, feel free to drink it if you want. However, drink with the aim of relaxing a little and opening lines of communication with other people, not to get drunk. If you don't want to drink, don't do it but respect the other person's decision to drink.
- If you are underage, don't drink alcohol! Children and underage teens are at a higher risk of consuming too much alcohol and ending up in the hospital or having worse problems afterwards. In addition, you are also prone to having problems with law enforcement because of it.
- In fact, social anxiety is prone to make someone drunk when partying. Be aware of this phenomenon and always consume alcohol in reasonable portions and at a slow tempo.
- Drink as much water as possible between drinking alcohol. Because alcohol can dehydrate the body, you should also consume as much water as possible to overcome these risks.
- Don't drink alcohol just to socialize and look good in other people's eyes. Be careful, the risk of getting too drunk will generally lie before your eyes!
Step 3. Invite the guests present to play the game
For example, you can bring a box of cards in case someone wants to play cards. The card game that is commonly played in the middle of a party is poker or "Circle of Death". Apart from that, you can also provide other game ideas, such as hide and seek, four corners, or board games like Twister. After all, parties are indeed a means for you to relax and have fun, right?
Don't be shy about coming up with game ideas! Chances are, at least one or two people will agree with your idea
Method 3 of 3: Keeping Responsibility
Step 1. Get permission to attend the party
If you still live with a parent or adult guardian, don't forget to ask their permission to attend the party. If the rules imposed by your parents are very strict, you will most likely need to bend some facts to get permission. However, never lie to them, okay! Tell everything honestly and openly because lying can get you punished. Make sure the host has also confirmed your invitation beforehand. If you find it difficult to get parental consent, try the following methods:
Reassure your parents that you will only be attending the party for a few hours. To allay their concerns, let them know that the party is being held under adult supervision. Or, let them know that some of your close friends are also in attendance so you and they can keep an eye on each other. Also promise not to do illegal activities, such as consuming alcohol prematurely
Step 2. Wear appropriate clothing
Make sure the clothes you wear feel comfortable on your body and can make you feel confident! Don't be afraid to choose the style of dress and makeup you want. Most parties are informally themed, but there are also parties that carry a specific theme and ask guests to dress up according to that theme.
If you are going to the party with your closest friends, try to match your dress style with them. By doing so, surely your presence will be more recognized by other guests, you know. As a result, they will not hesitate to invite you to chat
Step 3. Arrive at the party location safely
Be careful when driving to the party location! In fact, many parties are held just to accommodate children and minors who want to consume alcohol. If you bring your own vehicle, consider these facts before leaving. There's nothing wrong with taking a taxi or public transportation to avoid things that are not desirable. After all, your parents will also respect the decision that is actually more responsible.
Step 4. Clean your food and drink containers
Appreciate the host by helping clean up your trash, as well as someone else's if you want. Remember, the house is shared by your friend, or even with his family. Therefore, show your gratitude by helping clean the house.
This behavior may be seen and imitated by other guests present, you know
Step 5. Do whatever it takes, including alcohol, in moderation
Monitor and count the number of drinks you consume when partying. You can't control the behavior of consuming other people's alcohol. However, you can always stand by to help those who seem too drunk and need help. In fact, young or inexperienced drinkers often consume excessive amounts of alcohol. Therefore, if someone seems too drunk and needs your help, do so. That's why, you can't get too drunk either!
- If someone seems too drunk, try telling a friend to help him out.
- Be careful that you don't cross the line of someone who is too drunk. In fact, many people have the ability to remain independent even when they are drunk!
- If you catch someone committing violence or rape, immediately report it to the host and take concrete action. If necessary, enlist the help of several other people to stop the negative behavior! Worst case scenario, you may have to call the police or threaten to do so.
Step 6. Go home when you want
There's no need to feel compelled to stay until the party is over. In other words, go home whenever you want. Ideally, someone should only party for an hour and then leave immediately after. However, not everyone considers this behavior ideal. Therefore, do what is best for you! As much as possible, don't leave any trash or damage at the party venue. Respect the host and clean up your food or drink before leaving.
Warning
- Always pour your own drink. Never accept drinks from strangers because the true intentions of others are unpredictable.
- Never ride in a car driven by a drunk person.
- If you don't like or don't feel comfortable partying, don't do it. Trust me, you're not the only one who feels this way and can still have fun in other ways!
- If you are a minor, don't drink alcohol! Be careful, children and adolescents are generally more difficult to control their alcohol consumption. As a result, you are also susceptible to poisoning or even death, especially if you have never consumed large amounts of alcohol before. In addition, you can also get into trouble with the authorities and go to jail, especially if you later force yourself to drive drunk. Since taking drugs can also cause similar problems, you should also avoid them.
