After the date has passed, how do you feel? Happy? Annoyed? Mediocre? Or is it odd? Before taking any attitude or decision, consider your feelings carefully. Make sure you also get to know the feeling of the date by asking him to communicate privately. Follow the complete tips below, yes!
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Method 1 of 3: Reflecting on the First Date
Step 1. Remember, this is just a date
People tend to make assumptions too soon after the first date is over. Remember, this is only a date, and the date only lasts once. Don't be too quick to determine your feelings and make decisions. Regardless of how you feel during the date, it's still not wise to make judgments on one date.
- If your attraction to him is not that great, don't immediately decide that the two of you aren't meant to be. Unless your date's aura or behavior is really negative, consider giving him a second chance.
- If the date is fun, you shouldn't get too caught up in the euphoria either. Remember, a date only lasts once; chances are, he doesn't even have the same interests as you. Don't rush into your expectations or think too far ahead!
Step 2. Don't worry too much about everything
It's important to analyze each other's feelings after the first date, but don't overdo it. For example, don't think about the meaning of every touch, hug, or other body language. There are times when a date's gestures or body language are part of his character or habit; there are times when these movements do not mean anything.
For example, if he's constantly texting at dinner, you might assume that he's a person who doesn't respect other people. However, if he's only doing it once, it's possible he's checking the time or waiting for an important call. Don't think too much about it
Step 3. Decide if you want to go on a second date with him
Sometimes, you are confused about what you really want. If you feel uncomfortable or not having fun during the date (or if you don't feel right with the woman), don't force yourself to ask her out again. But if your first date was fun enough, there's nothing wrong with asking him out on a second date.
Step 4. Observe the potential negativity in your date
Sometimes, you can realize the negative potential from the very beginning of the dating process. If your date is behaving badly, rudely, or disrespectfully, then he or she isn't worth pursuing.
- It's possible that he rolls his eyes when he hears your story or laughs at your serious comments. It's also possible that he is too passive in the conversation or makes you feel uncomfortable throughout the date.
- Trust your instincts. If the woman emits a negative aura, do not continue the relationship with her.
Step 5. Think about how much interest you feel
If you're really not interested in him, there's no point in asking him out again. But remember, there are times when a person doesn't feel any interest at once because he's already overtaken by a sense of nervousness. If you find the woman attractive, there's nothing wrong with watching your attraction develop through a second date.
Method 2 of 3: Communicating Post-Dating
Step 1. Send a light message confirming that your date was fun
This is best if you are interested in dating him again. There's no need to over-design messages; just say, “Yesterday was really fun, you know. I hope we can go together again sometime!"
- No need to wait days to send the message. Instead, you can do it right after the date ends or the next day.
- You can also check to see if he gets home safely as soon as the date ends. These actions show that you care about their safety and security; surely, after that both of you will be helped to continue the conversation via cellphone.
- If your date is going well, try texting within 24 hours of the date ending. Do not worry; there's nothing wrong with opening up space to interact further with it. For example, you could say, “Hello, how are you? Last night was so much fun. If you have time, would you like to go have coffee with me on Tuesday?”
Step 2. Interact with him casually in cyberspace
Do this only if the two of you are already connected on social media. For example, you can reply to his tweets on Twitter or send him a post on Facebook to show your interest. Show that you think about him and want to travel with him again.
If the two of you are not yet connected on social media, it's best not to suddenly send a friend invitation to his Facebook page
Step 3. If you like him, try asking him out again sometime
If you want to see him again, be direct. Remember, love is not a game; so you shouldn't be stalling for any reason. Show your interest without seeming desperate or possessive! The method? Try sending him a message that says, “Last night was really fun, you know. Can we meet again when you're free?"
Step 4. Communicate politely and respectfully if you don't feel comfortable with him
If you decide to discontinue the relationship with him, tell him immediately. This step is especially important if he seems to like you! One way to do this is to send him a message 24 hours after the date that says, “It's great to be traveling with you. But I'm sorry, I feel we are not compatible."
If you feel a discrepancy, chances are he will too. However, if you're not sure how he feels, try asking politely the night after the date. For example, you might say, “Today was a very good day. But I feel like we don't get along, huh. What do you think?"
Step 5. Accept the rejection
Unfortunately, the possibility of one-sided clapping will always exist. If he refuses your second date, it means he's not really interested in you. Even though it hurts, try to accept the rejection gracefully. In a text message, thank him for letting you know about the refusal; also convey that you always wish him the best.
For example, try saying, “Thank you for explaining how you really feel. Hope you find the best man, huh!"
Method 3 of 3: Avoiding Common Mistakes
Step 1. Don't keep texting him
If your date isn't responding to your texts (or if he's giving you very short replies), he's likely annoyed by the string of messages you're sending. If he's the one initiating the conversation, of course you're welcome to respond. However, if he seems reluctant to continue the conversation with you, it's a good idea to end the texting process. Don't look too eager to continue the relationship with him; trust me, this attitude will only scare him away from you.
Step 2. Don't call him
These days, talking on the phone is less common (except for those who are dating or in a professional relationship). It's best to contact him via text message instead of the phone.
However, if you don't use a smartphone, calling it is a legal thing to do. You can also call her if your date prefers to communicate by phone instead of text message
Step 3. Stay away from social media
Again, you can interact with them if you already follow each other on social media. After all, social media is the easiest way to learn about a person's personality, right? However, if the two of you are not yet connected on social media, don't send friend invites on Facebook, Twitter, and/or Instagram. Also avoid the habit of checking social media; such actions are prone to making you assume and jump to the wrong conclusions. Trust me, the best way to get to know someone better is to talk to them.
Be careful with the information you post on social media. Remember, the story of your first date with someone is not for public consumption; therefore, it is best not to post any information related to your dating activities on social media
Step 4. Stay in touch with other potential partners
Even though your first date with a woman was a success, you're still not in a formal relationship with her. If at the same time you are also in touch with other potential women, do not immediately cut off contact with them. At least you have other options if your relationship doesn't go as expected.
