4 Ways to Get Someone to Reply to Your Messages

2024 Author: Jason Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-31 09:30

Twenty minutes ago you sent a text message to the phone of the guy you like and until now, the long-awaited reply hasn't arrived yet! Have you ever experienced similar annoying situations? From now on, stop staring at your phone screen all the time! Trust me, your annoyed look won't hasten a response. Instead, try applying some of the strategies listed in this article to manage the situation.

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Method 1 of 4: Writing the Ideal Message

Step 1. Think about who you are talking to

The way you communicate with each person is of course different and depends a lot on social hierarchy, kinship, gender, prevailing cultural norms, etc. Are you in close contact with him? Or is he a new person in your life? Determining the nature of your relationship with him can help you to establish the basis for a healthier relationship with him.

If you communicate with friends or relatives, of course, you will have more freedom of expression or make jokes without feeling awkward. Meanwhile, more formal eligibility rules apply if you're communicating with a crush, a boss at work, or a business associate. Always keep these basic etiquette in mind when drafting your message

Step 2. Think about what you are going to say

Drafting clear and meaningful text can make it easier for you to receive the response you want. Remember, everyone has their own busy schedule; If your message isn't clear or purposeful, don't be surprised if you don't receive a response. Ask yourself the following questions:

• What do I want to convey?
• Is my message purposeful?
• How will he respond to my message?

Step 3. Send a clear and purposeful message

You've tried to understand who you're talking to, what you're trying to say, and how you're going to say it. So by now, at least you know that the response has nothing to do with the content of your message; chances are, the way he responds is more influenced by his life situation or the state of your relationship.

Method 2 of 4: Getting the Interlocutor's Attention

Step 1. Ask clear and significant questions

If you only send "Hi" or "How are you?", the importance of your message will decrease and risk, you will not receive a response. From the very first message, make sure that you are specific about your goals.

Step 2. Label the message with “MANDATORY REPLY”

If you are sending emergency information or a message that requires an immediate response, capitalize the entire text and add “MANDATORY REPLY” at the beginning of the message. People tend to be driven to reply to messages with a high degree of urgency.

Step 3. Send a message that relates to the interests of the other person

For example, instead of simply asking, "Hey, how are you?", try to talk about something more specific, like his hobbies, his daily life at work, or his favorite type of music. Remember, people tend to be more interested in responding to topics that interest them.

Step 4. Use an attractive photo or moving image (GIF)

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Method 3 of 4: Communicating it Live

Step 1. The next time you meet, talk back about the message you sent him

Bring up the topic in a casual setting and give him a chance to explain.

Step 2. Tell a joke

Do not immediately give all kinds of accusations; instead, try asking these simple questions:

• How come you never reply to my messages? Very busy with your cat selling business, huh?
• Why is your response taking so long, anyway? I like talking to a statue.

Step 3. Ask the reason directly

If he's constantly dodging and doesn't want to give a straight answer, try to be more assertive. This action may make the other person feel uncomfortable and create tension. So before doing so, consider how close you are to the person, your communication patterns with them so far, and whether or not you should confront them face-to-face. If his slow response really frustrates you, confronting him head-on will help you understand the situation better. Ask questions like these:

• Why are you not responding to my message?
• Why is your response taking so long?

Step 4. Observe your body language and tone of voice

In managing conflict, make sure you take an approach that improves the situation. One of the easiest ways is to express understanding through your posture, voice, and word choice.

• Understanding the communication style of the other person is also important to do. For example, a professor might say, "I can't understand what you mean," while a classmate might say, "I don't know, Bro." Try to understand the meaning of the message, not just the way it is conveyed; surely, it will help you to understand the other person better.
• Often attempts to communicate positively are hindered by negative speech acts such as criticizing, insulting, or being defensive. Whenever you feel like doing it in a conversation, try to take a deep breath and open yourself up to understand the situation better.

Step 5. Solve the problem

People often distinguish the activity of exchanging messages with other forms of communication. In fact, the activity of exchanging messages also involves two people who share opinions, feelings, goals, and actions. This is why you will also find it difficult to exchange messages with people with whom you are having trouble communicating.

• Understand the person's perspective and try to understand their feelings. It's possible that he's having some personal issues that you need to understand. It's also possible that he's so focused on something that he doesn't have time to respond to your text messages. Whatever the reason, try to change your mindset and learn to understand the situation better; this is the first step you can take to improve communication patterns with that person.
• If one party has to apologize, be willing to apologize or listen to the other person's apology.

Step 6. Don't take the situation too seriously

Realize that “messages have not been replied to” is an issue that should not be taken too seriously.

Method 4 of 4: Understanding the Reason

Step 1. Think about your relationship with the person

Does he like you, and vice versa? If that's the case, he's likely not wanting to reply to your messages right away for fear of being seen as aggressive.

Step 2. Realize that the person also has a life of his own

It's possible that you text him while he's at work, sleeping, or watching a movie at the cinema. Remember, many people prefer not to touch their phones at certain times. Don't let your brain imagine negative possibilities! Often times, situations that you consider personal are completely unrelated to you.

Step 3. Realize that texting can reduce privacy and disguise social boundaries

This is why you often don't receive a reply if you send a message on a holiday or in the middle of the night. Remember, everyone has the right to determine when he can be reached by others. No matter how much patience you have, acknowledge the fact that you have no right to force anyone to respond to a text message you send.

Step 4. Consider technical issues

Today, almost everyone uses smartphones and laptops that have batteries. Could the phone battery run out? Could it be that the phone was damaged because it just fell? If the person isn't very familiar to you (for example, a sales agent you met at a cafe), consider the possibility that they don't have a cell phone or that they use it only for emergencies.

Step 5. Consider who the person is

While it really depends on your personal relationship with the person, there are some underlying possibilities that may keep you from receiving a response. If that person is your crush, they may not reciprocate because they're nervous or simply don't share your interests. If the person is your friend, he or she is probably busy with something else and feels you can understand how busy he is. If the person is in your family, chances are he or she is angry and doesn't want to talk to you yet.

Step 6. Consider their understanding of technology

If you're texting an elderly person, they're likely not familiar with cell phone features (they might not even know how to exchange text messages on a cell phone!). Maybe they need help getting used to the feature before it meets your expectations.

One way to help them is to involve them in group chats on messaging apps like WhatsApp or Line. Over time, they will feel more comfortable exchanging messages and responding more often. For example, you can create a group chat with your parents and siblings; help your parents to learn how to exchange messages via cell phone

Step 7. Be patient

Instead of obsessing over unanswered messages, try shifting your focus to more useful activities; anyway sooner or later your message will definitely be replied to.

Tips

• Make sure your message is clear and purposeful.
• Make sure the person knows your cell phone number. Admit it, you must be lazy to reply to messages from unknown numbers, right?
• Like exchanging messages on social media, make sure your text messages are concise and clear.
• Make sure your message looks confident and confident.
• Make sure you send the message to the correct number. Make sure you also mention your name in the text message (considering that people are reluctant to respond to messages from unfamiliar numbers).

Warning

• Don't overwhelm him with text messages. If someone doesn't respond to one or two of your text messages, he or she will likely be annoyed with five or ten text messages of the same tone.
• Don't send horrible or threatening messages just to get him to respond. Trust me, doing so will only provoke his anger and worsen an already bad situation.
• Do not use abusive or obscene language.