Crying in front of someone who scolds you is a very embarrassing experience. In addition, your reputation can be tarnished because of it! As a human being, crying over an upsetting situation is a natural reaction; in fact, some people are used to responding to any problems they experience with tears. If you're someone who cries a lot (and if you're determined to break the habit), check out this article for some tips!
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Method 1 of 3: Holding Your Tears
Step 1. Pinch the skin between the thumb and forefinger of your hand
Make sure you apply a pinch that is firm enough to be painful, but not too strong so as not to leave a mark. Undoubtedly, the pain will divert your desire to cry.
You can also pinch your nostrils to block the tear ducts whenever you want to cry
Step 2. Take a deep breath
Whenever you feel emotional, try to take deep breaths. Breathing deeply will make your body calmer, as well as being able to take your mind off anyone who is yelling at you. Supposedly, doing so will eliminate your urge to cry.
Step 3. Avert your eyes
Try not to stare at the person yelling at you; for example, you can focus on your desk, your hands, or whatever object is in front of you. Breaking eye contact with the person can help restore self-control.
Step 4. Back off
Distance yourself from the person yelling at you by stepping back or leaning against the back of a chair. Controlling territory can make you feel superior and not want to cry.
Step 5. Remove yourself from the situation
If you really can't help but cry, try to get away from the situation for whatever reason. For example, you might admit that you aren't feeling well or that you can't have a productive discussion. After that, go to a private place to cool down.
- Say something like, “I'm really having a hard time discussing it with you. We can talk later, but now I have to stop chatting with you for a while.”
- The bathroom is usually the safest place to escape.
- Take a walk outside to clear your mind. In addition, you can also restore self-control by exercising.
Method 2 of 3: Maintaining Self Image
Step 1. Find a private place
Get into your car, office, bathroom, or other place with minimal distractions. If you feel the need to cry, put all your tears out there. Take as much time as you can to cool off!
If you still want to cry, don't force yourself to stop. Trust me, unfinished crying will keep your tears flowing even if you try to stop them
Step 2. Treat swollen eyes
Pat cold water under your eyes to reduce puffiness. If you want, you can also compress it with ice cubes wrapped in a handkerchief.
If possible, try wrapping a plastic bag of peas in a paper towel and using it to compress your face. Alternatively, you can also compress the eyes with stale green tea bags
Step 3. Use eye drops like Visine to treat your reddened eyes
Use at least one to two drops for each eye; should, your eye color will return to clear in 10-15 minutes.
- Don't use eye drops too often! In fact, the recommended time is several times a week (not every day!), because using too much eye drops can actually make your eyes redder.
- If you use contact lenses, make sure the eye drops you use are safe for contact lens users.
Step 4. Fix your makeup
If you're wearing makeup, take a few minutes to fix it. Remove smudged eye makeup and use foundation or concealer to hide areas of redness after crying. After that, fix the mascara, blush, and other makeup that was damaged when you cry.
If you cry a lot, try keeping a small emergency box of makeup in your desk drawer or bag
Method 3 of 3: Dealing with Conflict
Step 1. Tell others that you cry easily
If you often react to things by crying, try first to explain the situation to your boss, coworkers, relatives, and friends. Emphasize that the situation is normal for you so they don't have to overdo it.
For example, you might say, “I'm one of those people who cry easily. So don't worry if you see me crying, okay? That's very normal for me. I've been trying to control it, really, and honestly it only takes me a few minutes to calm down if that situation happens again."
Step 2. Talk to the person who snapped at you
Once you've calmed down, try asking the person to have a private talk with you. Explain the problem and apologize if you made a mistake. After that, explain how you felt when you heard her yell and ask her to control herself more in the future.
Say something like, “Suddenly being yelled at just makes me confused, you know. That's why I'm having a hard time finding a solution to our previous problem. Next time, can we have a more relaxed discussion?”
Step 3. Think about why a problem can make you cry
Ask yourself how you really feel when someone yells at you. If you can identify the root of the crying, you'll likely find it easier to find a way to deal with it.
- If your adrenaline is rising fast, try squeezing a rubber ball to release the tension in your body.
- If you feel inferior when someone yells at you, try to remember that that person is also a human being and can make mistakes; chances are, he doesn't even have the right to snap at you.
Step 4. Look for other strategies
Think about what other options you can do or say when someone gets angry or yells at you. As you implement the new strategy, try to imagine yourself able to deal with the situation calmly and in control.
For example, if your boss always yells at you, imagine saying, “I'm sorry you don't like this. I promise to find a solution soon. But next time, can we have a more calm discussion? I'm having a hard time understanding what you mean when you're always shouting."
Step 5. Deal with stress in a healthy way
Someone who is chronically stressed will cry more easily when faced with difficult situations. For that, managing stress in a positive way is one powerful way to relieve your crying habit; for example, you can spend a fair amount of time doing various fun activities each day.
Some positive ways to deal with stress are doing yoga, meditating, calling a close friend, taking a walk outside, or listening to relaxing music. Make sure you try this whenever you feel stressed or frustrated
Step 6. Consult a health counselor
If crying is affecting your relationships with other people and/or worsening your performance at school or work, seek help from a mental health professional immediately. A professional counselor or therapist can help find the reason behind your crying habit and stop it.
Step 7. If you are reluctant to consult a counselor, try telling your closest friends or relatives
Try to open up to the people closest to you; surely, afterwards you will be helped to be more open to yourself. If you don't want to share your problems with others, you will likely have a hard time realizing the urgency of the problem. Do not worry; true friends will definitely try to calm you down, instead of just sitting around and watching you suffer.
