Want to travel with your dearest friends but you don't get the blessing of your mother? Don't give up right away! Try to stay calm and follow the powerful steps listed in this article!
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Method 1 of 3: Make Him Trust You
Step 1. Be honest about your plan
A mother's greatest fear is when her child is hurt. That is why they tend to say “No” when their children want to do an activity (especially an activity that is new and unfamiliar to them). If you want to allay those fears, all you need to do is explain your plan in as much detail as possible. After that, reassure your mother that she has nothing to worry about. Show that your activity is very safe and positive to do; also show that you have prepared a detailed plan. If your mother knew that the risk was minimal, she would most likely give her permission easily!
Know well what you are talking about. If you are going to watch a movie at the cinema, you should at least know the appropriate age standard to watch the film. If you are a minor and want to watch an adult film, don't mention the title of the film unless asked; simply describe the genre (eg, comedy or horror)
Step 2. Show your enthusiasm
Show your mother that the activities you are about to do can really improve the quality of your life. If you want to go to a concert, explain to him that you can get invaluable life experiences from there. If you want to come home late, explain to your mother that you will use the extra time to do something productive. If you want to spend more time with your friends, explain to your mother that you need to enrich your social life. If you want to buy shoes, explain to your mother that your old shoes are very old and almost broken.
Step 3. Don't lie
Every now and then, your lies may go unnoticed; but sooner or later, your mother will find out. As a result, he would refuse to give his permission in the future. Of course you don't have to give all the details; but at least, give a clear picture of the activities you will do.
Step 4. Reassure your mother that you will be home on time
Plus, your mom will want to know how you're getting home and who's dropping you off. Explain your detailed plans as well as your return time to him; when doing it, always remind your mother that you always come home on time.
Step 5. Make a plan to manage the bad things that might happen
Every mother will feel more relieved when she sees her child has planned everything well. Therefore, try to think carefully about any negative situation that might occur, and explain that you have a plan to manage it. For example, if your friend can't drive you home, come up with a back-up plan that will make your mom relieved.
Step 6. Remind your mother when you won her trust
If you've done a lot of positive things, remind your mother. For example, say that you always do your homework and get good grades in school. Also convey that you always help him with the house and come home on time. If you have done something to break your mother's trust, try to restore her trust at least a few weeks before asking her permission.
Step 7. Remind your mom that life only lasts once
Try saying, “You told me about a concert that changed your life, right? Mother was my age at the time, you know. . Also convey that your teenage years are coming to an end without you realizing it, and that you still have plenty of time to have fun before you grow up and leave the house. Trust me, your mom will start to feel emotional and nostalgic; after hearing that, surely he will give his permission soon!
Method 2 of 3: Showing Your Worth
Step 1. Improve your academic performance
If you do your homework diligently and get good grades, your mother will have no reason to say "No." Therefore, make sure you always give the best performance in academic and non-academic fields; Show your mom that you deserve her permission!
Step 2. Finish your homework
Lighten your mom's burden by helping her clean the house, wash the dishes, mow the lawn, walk the dog, and do other household chores. Remember, you will ask something from your mother; there's nothing wrong with giving her something in advance, right? Do this regularly for at least a few weeks before you ask for permission.
Step 3. Come home on time
One of the keys to success in asking your parents' permission is to be someone you can rely on. If you lie to your parents and always come home late, chances are that they won't make your wish come true easily. Be a reliable person and always keep your promises. For example, if you promise to clean your room on Saturday, don't break it! Sooner or later, your mother will see that you are someone to rely on.
Step 4. Try cooking or baking a cake
Trust me, your mom will be totally surprised and impressed if you take over the kitchen and cook something for your family. Not good at cooking? Do not worry. Try to get up early and cook a very simple menu like fried eggs or pancakes. You can also make time in the afternoon to bake a large portion of cake. This method may sound strange, but in fact it is very powerful and worth trying! Make sure you wash all the cooking utensils afterwards.
Step 5. Be a really good boy
For example, try asking your mother how she was that day. Chances are, your mother will too; so why not try to do the same and see the results? Your mother will likely feel touched and will find it easier to give permission afterwards. If you feel comfortable, try increasing the intensity by telling him things that happen in your daily life and telling him what's on your mind. Chances are, your mom will feel more confident about letting you make your own decisions afterwards.
Method 3 of 3: Show Your Maturity
Step 1. Do something to “finance” your activities
If you want to go to the movies or buy a new toy, try offering to help your mom with the housework. Think of it as replacing the money your mother gave you to watch a movie or buy a toy. If you are willing to do it, surely your mother will feel very impressed and it will be easier for her to give her permission.
Step 2. Compromise if necessary
Let's say you really want to go to a party, but your mother insists on refusing to give permission because she doesn't want you to come home late at night. If that's the case, why won't you compromise to go home early? If you manage to keep your promise, chances are your mother will increase her tolerance further in the future.
Step 3. Don't say, “But everyone left
This sentence is a mainstay sentence for teenagers, but often does not have any effect on parents. Generally, parents will not pay attention to this fact; therefore, only say that line if you are asking permission to do something that everyone is following. Before asking for permission, write down a list of people your mother trusts and goes with. Make sure you ask your friends for help the next time your mother calls them or their parents.
Step 4. Don't beg
Doing so will only make you look immature and reinforce your mother's decision not to give her permission. If you want your mother to say "Yes," pleading in front of her will only make her more upset. If all your efforts are not paying off, try making your mother feel guilty by playing a simple psychological game. For example, you could say, “Okay, that's okay. I love you, Mom.", then leave your mother. After seeing your maturity in responding to his refusal, surely your mother will be more moved to give permission afterwards.
Step 5. Make your mom laugh
Lighten up the mood by cracking jokes or teasing your mom. Even if you're upset about not being given permission, at least try to crack a simple joke; sometimes, this method can change the situation 180°! Show that your mother's rejection doesn't necessarily end your world; also show that you are able to deal with it maturely. Who knows, permission will be granted as your mother's mood improves.
Step 6. Don't forget to say "I love you"
Trust me, this sentence works like a powerful mantra that can make your mother happy in an instant. Make sure you say it sincerely, even when you are angry. Even though it only consists of three words, never underestimate its power!
Step 7. If the above methods don't work, try asking your dad for permission
Tips
- Know when it's time to defend yourself when you and your parents are arguing.
- If all your efforts fail, try to let the situation go. Divert your disappointment by doing other activities and don't constantly ask your parents for permission. Maybe they will suddenly give their permission if you seem to be able to accept the decision wisely.
- Try to do whatever your parents ask.
- Understand that every parent wants the best for their child; Don't overreact if your mom refuses to give permission for something negative.
- Spend as much time as possible with him.
- No matter how angry or upset you are, don't show your anger in front of your mother. Showing your immaturity will only further prevent him from giving permission.
- Remind your mother of the times when she promised something but broke it because she forgot.
- Do not lie! Lying may seem like the easy way out, but it's actually very risky to do and risk breaking your parents' trust forever.
- After your dad refuses to give him permission, don't keep trying to ask his permission. Your attitude can make your parents even more angry and reluctant to give permission.
- Complete all your homework well; chances are, your mother will give her permission because she feels guilty for you.
Warning
- Never lie to him or you will lost his trust.
- Make sure you don't ask permission when your mother is in a bad mood.
- Make sure you never break a promise to him.
- Don't just be nice when you want something. Apart from being disrespectful, your mother will surely be aware of your hidden intentions.
- Never beg your mother for permission (especially in front of your friends); most parents consider it an “attention seeking” behavior that would embarrass them.
- Don't argue or fight with them; you will only make things worse.
- If you don't want to upset your mother, don't interrupt her.
- In exchange for the permission granted, be willing to fulfill one wish of your mother.
