Admitting that you have a problem can be difficult. If you've come to this page, then it's likely that you're feeling the discomfort associated with your celebrity obsession. You may feel embarrassed or weird about being too busy thinking about every single thing a celebrity does. People tend to adore celebrities. When that cult develops into thoughts and behaviors that affect someone's life, you must take action. Stopping or reducing the severity of your difficulty level can be easily achieved.
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Method 1 of 3: Analyzing the Situation
Step 1. Research who this celebrity is by identifying the qualities that appeal to you
Now it's time to sit down and make a list. You are related to this person for a reason. Maybe physical attraction isn't the only reason you feel attracted to him.
- We often see qualities of a celebrity that are not in our lives, but we wish they were. Perhaps that quality is being kind to everyone he meets, and you feel that most people in your life are not nice.
- You need to remember that celebrities present a persona to the world-an idealized version that is a mask-of themselves without any more basic and real-world characteristics. Usually you won't see celebrities having bad days or private moments. It can damage the image/personal brand that has been built.
Step 2. Summarize the "what" impact on other relationships in your life because of the obsession
Obsessions are considered abnormal because they have a negative impact on a person's capacity to love and be a productive part of society. Your mind can be so full of celebrity thoughts that you don't have room to think about anything else.
- Are you shutting down instead of participating in events?
- Do you have a high temper with family or friends when you hear that your obsession has done something upsetting?
- Do you feel depressed or anxious around other people and shut yourself off in order to re-establish a bond with the object of your obsession. This is a natural emotion for people who have an obsession with celebrities.
Step 3. Analyze the "why" you think you have this obsession
According to research, celebrity obsession can serve two functions: mentoring and personal identity. Are you feeling lonely and need someone who understands you? Or maybe you like the way the celebrity carries himself and you want to be like him.
Clinical psychologists think of obsession as an attachment to an object, person, or activity. Obsessions, literally psychologically defined as thoughts, concepts, images or impulses that persist, and produce significant fear, suffering or discomfort
Step 4. Ask yourself "when" you experienced these thoughts and feelings about this celebrity
Is there a basis in the real world? Do you imagine yourself spending time with celebrities; but "really" believe it will happen? Do you pretend to know what he thinks about a certain person or situation? Have you forgotten that you can't read other people's minds?
- Have you had a meaningful one-on-one interaction with this person that would possibly allow a healthy relationship to develop? If not, you should be aware of the fact that you envision the relationship as something that goes far beyond the "regular" relationship.
- Researcher and professor Brian Spitz Berg of the School of Communication at San Diego State University indicates that social media communication with celebrities via Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram can make fans feel special, as if the celebrity was just talking to that person. This can give you confusion.
- One-way relationships are considered parasocial, meaning that one person extends emotional energy, interest and time, while the other, a persona, is completely unaware of that party's existence. Most celebrity obsessions fall into this category.
Step 5. Summarize how this obsession with this person helps meet your needs
We all have emotional needs that we want and need to meet: the need to be loved: the need to be owned; the need to feel safe are some of them. Are you satisfied with your obsession to the point of sacrificing opportunities for the satisfaction of interacting with people in the real world?
Introspection is a way of trying to directly access the processes within yourself. When you find out how and why you react to the people or things around you, you will be able to help yourself overcome many personal difficulties. Only you can do your best to find answers to the questions above. The analysis can be difficult, but it can put you on a clean path to change
Method 2 of 3: Bringing Change
Step 1. Identify the level of your obsession
If you're honest with yourself at this point, you may be able to determine the level of your obsession. Knowing what category you put yourself in can be helpful. The more aware you are of your own behavior, the more likely you are to be ready to make changes in your thoughts and interpretations.
- Research has identified three distinct dimensions of celebrity worship. In these three categories, what is your level?:
- A. Entertainment-social: relates to the attitude of an individual who is attracted to celebrities because they appear to have the ability to entertain and become the social focus in conversations with like-minded people.
- B. Intense-personal: relates to individuals who have intensive and compulsive feelings towards celebrities.
- C. Borderline pathological: relates to individuals who exhibit uncontrollable behaviors and fantasies associated with celebrities.
Step 2. Seek professional help to help identify the behavior you want to change if you find it difficult to do it yourself
There are psychologists and psychiatrists in your area and can be found through the Indonesian Association of Psychiatrists
Step 3. Sign a behavior agreement and ask a family member or friend to witness it
This agreement will allow you to state your goals and time frame. Signing a document symbolizes a commitment to make a change and break away from your obsession with celebrities.
Step 4. Expand your interests
Life sometimes becomes unbalanced. If you focus too much on one thing, chances are you're limiting yourself to opportunities. If you spend most days, weeks or months obsessing over a celebrity, you're missing out on a lot of experiences that may be valuable.
- In a time when knowledge from around the world is available around the clock, you can explore a new subject every day of the year and never run out of materials and things to do or people to meet.
- Find three activities you'd like to learn more about or participate in. You won't know if you like something unless you try it. This will give you a healthy distraction and help build new, meaningful relationships with other people.
- Tell family members and friends that you are trying to find new things to do to learn more about the world. If you feel comfortable telling them about your efforts to stop the obsession, do so. People may give you advice that you haven't thought of.
Method 3 of 3: Creating a Balanced Life
Step 1. Calculate the amount of time you spend online
Many people spend a significant amount of time in the virtual world of computers and social media spaces focusing solely on celebrities. This can make it difficult for you to develop the social skill set to participate in actual social interactions.
Research shows that people who learn social skills will experience a positive impact on emotional-social development and behavior
Step 2. Determine whether you need to stop activities related to the focus of your obsession
For some, it is best to stop all activity suddenly, and for others it is necessary to reduce exposure gradually. Whatever you decide, you will need to devise a strategy to increase your chances of achieving your goals.
- Research in the British Journal of Health Psychology concluded that people who expressed an intention to achieve their goals were more successful than those who did not.
- Choose a day to start. Giving yourself a deadline will help to focus your efforts.
- Make sure you have family and friends ready to support you.
- Get rid of objects that remind you of your obsession. This could include putting things in boxes and donating them, or storing them in a shed or garage. This will help you formalize and “get rid of” your thoughts and feelings and put you on a new path. This way, you will also eliminate any potential triggers.
- If you make a mistake and find yourself in the middle of an obsession again, make adjustments in the hard parts and start over. You can do it.
Step 3. Limit a reasonable amount of time to stay aware of the celebrity's achievements (eg:
30 minutes a month). With the average American consuming about fifteen and a half hours of traditional and digital media per person each day; You are likely to get some shocking news. But just live it.
Step 4. Meet new people by joining a group, volunteering, or working
It is possible to find people who will meet your needs and are willing and able to build a real relationship with you. There are hundreds of opportunities to help others, and it's common knowledge that we feel happy when we help others. If you want to better cope with the stress of making changes to yourself, help others.
Step 5. Create a balance between time spent in in-person and one-on-one activities, as well as online activities
Life is meant to be truly lived. Limiting yourself to the online world will not allow you to build the true life you want and deserve.
Chances are you will create and enjoy an extraordinary life without the help of a celebrity. They're probably too busy for that, and so are you
Tips
- You can remain a celebrity fan without becoming obsessed.
- Be bold in new situations and when meeting new people. You can do it.
- Developing new habits can take time, so be patient.
- Gaining knowledge about human behavior can help you in a number of ways.
- Be comfortable refusing someone who invites you to participate in activities that might destroy your ongoing efforts to improve your life.
