There's probably nothing more magical than a perfectly executed kiss. On the other hand, there could be little more unattractive than a sticky, wet, rough kiss with no rhythm or finesse. While mastering how to kiss takes a lot of practice with the right people, there are several approaches you can take to become a better kisser. Follow the suggestions below on basic techniques for great kissing and find out how you can improve your skills in the kissing game.
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Method 1 of 4: Studying Techniques
Step 1. Take a slow approach
Lean slowly to build dramatic anticipation. The more you and your partner feel the desire to kiss, the more intense it will feel when your lips finally meet.
- Start with small kisses and work your way up to deeper and more intense kisses. By starting with small kisses, it will be easier for you to slowly enter into intimacy with your partner.
- Take a breath between kisses to stare at each other without touching their lips. You can keep your hands on your partner's hips or shoulders, or run your hands over your partner's face in a gentle caress. By looking into your partner's eyes, you can show him that you are truly absorbed in him as a unique person.
Step 2. Saliva is only for your pet dog
There's nothing worse than a juicy wet kiss. There is not any. Aside from making you look like you don't know what you're doing, no one wants to have their face wet with your drool. Okay, maybe just a little drool.
- Don't open your mouth too wide. The wide mouth approach can make you drool over your precious partner's face.
- Swallow often. Don't forget to swallow excess saliva when kissing. Your saliva should flow, but not on your partner's face.
Step 3. Gently purse your lips
You need to form round lips pursed, but avoid pursed lips too tight. If you purse your lips too tightly in a kissing face that is too forward, your lips will lose their tenderness and won't be pleasant to kiss (For women: this is the same as the kissing face you make when you put lipstick on).
Step 4. Tilt your head slightly to the left or right
Most people who are right-handed will find it more natural to tilt their head to the right, and left-handers will tend to tilt to the left. What's important is that you and your partner tilt your head in the same direction (that is, both right or left), which will create a mirror effect and allow you to lock your partner's lips together.
- Smooth transition between tilting the head to the right and to the left. You can make the kiss more interesting by changing the motion from side to side every few kisses. Transition must occur at the end of one kiss and the beginning of another.
- Don't move your head from side to side too often. It will create a rough rhythm and can cause discomfort for both people involved.
Step 5. Use your tongue for a french kiss
Gently and lightly brush your tongue on your partner's lower lip, tongue, and gums. Start very gently and then slowly increase the pressure and speed as your partner begins to reciprocate the tongue action.
- Don't put your entire tongue in your partner's mouth, you only need to use the front third of the tongue. Make quick sweeping motions and keep your tongue moving. Letting your tongue limp in your partner's mouth is not sexy.
- This is where kisses can get really wet. Make sure you swallow often to avoid too much saliva building up in your mouth and spilling into your partner's mouth. There is a fine line between sexy and wet.
Step 6. End the kiss with a romantic stare
Pull your lips every now and then to put some distance between you and your partner then look into each other's eyes. Intermittent pauses can make the kiss much more intense once you bring your lips back together. Plus, there's no better way to show someone you really care than to look them in the eye gently.
Step 7. Get creative
Try a biting/sucking/kissing/licking combination to keep the kiss fresh and exciting.
- Try the "suck" motion. Kiss your partner's upper lip while your partner bites and sucks on your lower lip, alternating.
- Break your kiss with small bites. A sensual bite on your partner's lower lip can disrupt the rhythm of the kiss in a nice way. Be careful not to bite his lip too hard, you're not trying to eat his face.
- Mix small kisses and kisses that are deeper and more passionate. This will add variety and allow you to rest between intense kissing sessions.
Method 2 of 4: Using Whole Body
Step 1. Pay attention to your partner's body language
Kissing isn't just about watching your lips and your partner's lips doing. Your entire body must be involved in the kissing action to achieve the most sensual and pleasurable experience possible. The way your partner moves his body while kissing tells a lot about how he feels and thinks about your kiss.
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Positive signs to look for:
Your partner pulls you closer, squeezes you with their hands, kisses and caresses you with intense pressure, breaks into random smiles and giggles, or sighs a lot. If you notice your partner reacting specifically to a certain action, make sure you take note of it. Your partner will appreciate the attention and will definitely notice that you are making an impressive effort to understand what makes them happy.
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Negative signs to look for:
Your partner pulls away, doesn't touch you at all with their hands, barely moves their lips or tries to close their lips as much as possible to force you to stop.
Step 2. Caress your partner's neck, ears and face
Light massage on this sensitive area can be very arousing. Run your fingers lightly and move your thumb gently in a sweeping motion over the area.
Step 3. Grip your partner's arms, shoulders and back
You can be a little rougher in this area. The firm squeezing movement on the partner's body will send chills throughout his body. If you dare, squeeze his ass a little. You can tell where he likes to be touched by his body language.
Step 4. Place your hands on your shoulders or around your partner's waist
Gently move your fingers and/or thumb back and forth in a swinging motion to show him you're there.
- Although women generally put their hands on men's shoulders and men generally wrap their arms around women's waists, practically your position will depend on the height difference between you and your partner.
- That is, the position of laying hands is not so important, the most important thing is respect for each other.
Step 5. Use your forefinger or thumb to lift your partner's chin when you look him in the eye
Then continue with the kiss. A brief moment of visual appreciation coupled with a light touch can be a lot of fun.
Step 6. Gently tug on your partner's hair by running your fingers through the hair on the back of his head just above his neck
This light tug is actually saying "I want you."
Method 3 of 4: Avoiding Bad Breath
Step 1. Drink a lot
Dry mouth can cause bad breath and sticky lips. Make sure you drink enough water every day to make sure your lips are soft and your breath is kissable.
Step 2. Avoid trigger foods and drinks that can cause bad breath
More importantly, don't take your partner on a date to a restaurant that serves bad breath foods. Some common trigger foods are:
- Garlic
- Red onion
- Tuna or sardines
- Spicy food
- Coffee
- Alcohol
Step 3. Brush your teeth and floss twice a day
Although this information is already known to many people, there are some people who neglect to accept the basic premise of body hygiene. Make sure you brush your teeth and use dental floss to remove any bacteria that have accumulated in your mouth. Bacteria cause bad breath. Rinse with mouthwash for added freshness.
Step 4. Eat candy or chew gum
Especially after consuming any food, make sure you eat candy or chew gum before kissing someone. If you choose gum, make sure you throw it away before you start kissing. Your partner doesn't want to eat old gum, and chewing gum can also make you choke on kissing.
Method 4 of 4: Prepping Lips
Step 1. Apply lip balm several times a day
Lip balm, especially products that contain shea butter or other hydrating oils, are great for treating dry lips. While you generally don't have a problem with dry lips, lip balm can still make your lips more inviting.
- While they may taste good, avoid lip balms with artificial scents, flavors, and/or colors. These additives can make lips dry.
- Common brands of natural lip balm include: Burt's Bees, Carmex, Chapstick, C. O. Bigelow, Nivea, Softlips, EOS, and Banana Boat.
- Just before you kiss your partner, apply a menthol-based lip balm. Menthol activates the body's cold receptors, and when you make contact with your partner, you and your partner will feel a tingling sensation throughout your body.
- Use a lip balm that contains at least SPF 15 when outdoors to protect your lips from harmful UV rays.
Step 2. Use an exfoliating scrub once a week
You can make an exfoliating scrub using sugar or brown sugar and additional liquid. Olive oil, coconut oil, and honey can be used in addition to a sugar scrub.
- You can apply multiple layers of scrub on your lips and scrub in small circular motions with a toothbrush for extra exfoliation.
- Make sure you're not scrubbing too hard, you just want to remove the dead skin, not chafing the skin.
Step 3. Eat a diet rich in fruits, vegetables, and nuts
Vitamins B, C and omega-3 fatty acids are very healthy for your skin. Make sure you get enough of this important vitamin to keep your lips soft and healthy.
Tips
- Close your eyes when kissing. Open eyes can be scary.
- Try not to think too much, just go with the flow.
- Focus on the moment. Don't let your mind wander while kissing.
- Don't put on lipstick before you kiss a guy. Men usually don't like having their face stained with lipstick.
- Apply lip balm with a good taste before kissing.
- Don't think too much about it, otherwise it will spoil the moment.
Warning
- Don't open your mouth too wide.
- Don't breathe through your mouth when kissing, breathe through your nose.
- Do not choose a restaurant with smelly and spicy food for a date if you are planning to kiss your partner.
- Be careful using the whole body when kissing someone, things can escalate towards something sexual pretty quickly. If you are ready to do so, make sure you take the necessary precautions.
- Don't bite or grip your partner too tightly when kissing. It can spoil the mood, and it can hurt!
