When it comes to flirting, the most important thing to do is pay attention to the needs of the person you're trying to seduce and move from one stage to the next appropriately. If you want to seduce a woman, take the time to get to know her better, create the right atmosphere, and take things slowly as you begin to bring physical touch between you and her.
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Part 1 of 3: Preparing All the Necessary Things
Step 1. Do it slowly
In terms of seduction, determining the right time is the most important thing. One of the things that makes someone want someone else is anticipation. When you meet a woman who is attracted to you, take things slowly. Wait a minute before you approach him and start by listening more than talking. Don't point out your goals directly as that might not be fun. Do it slowly, at least for the beginning.
Step 2. Wear clothes that make you look attractive
If you want to make a woman aware of you, you have to dress as well as possible. Wear nice clothes if you expect to meet the woman you're interested in at a bar, party, or other event.
- Choose clothes that are nice and neat. If you doubt your outfit looks boring, head to a department store. You can ask a sales consultant to help you choose clothes that look neat for your body.
- Remember, being yourself is a sexy thing. Try to look good in your own style. So don't shave your beard if you like having it or wear a suit if that's your style. You won't feel good if you don't just be yourself. This can be felt by a partner easily, and confidence is the key in seduction.
- Take a shower before you go and consider wearing a little cologne. Too much cologne can be overpowering, but a bit of a quality scent can help.
Step 3. Listen to him
When you approach a woman, try to listen to her. People are usually more attracted to people who are attracted to them. Instead of bragging about your accomplishments and talking about your own story, try listening to it.
- Try to ask more questions than answer. Simple questions are good for an early stage. Try asking "What is your job?" and "Where did you live when you were little?"
- Show that you are always listening. Smile and nod your head, then make comments like "hey" or "Yeah." Ask follow-up questions too. Ask for explanations or further details about the story and personal information.
- Sexual attraction is tied to a person's personality. Getting to know someone well can increase your sexual feelings for someone. If you do manage to seduce a woman in the end, you will probably enjoy sexual acts with her more if you get to know her well.
Step 4. Be a confident person
Confidence is what attracts other people. By feeling good about yourself, you can attract people to be close to you. When you interact with the woman you want, try to do it with confidence.
- Remember, there is a very fine line between a confident person and an egomaniac. Dominating a conversation with the intention of bragging is unpleasant. However, you can brag about your profession, where you come from, or any other personal details the woman you're flirting with might ask.
- Make him laugh. Most people are attracted to people who have a good sense of humor. Try telling him jokes when the two of you meet to see if you can impress him with your comedic side.
Step 5. Use body language to seduce her
Direct, confident body language can signal your interest. Try to use cues to show that you are attracted to him and want to be in physical contact with him.
- Stand tall. Keep your head looking straight ahead and your shoulders straight. Do not fold your arms or hold the drink in front of your chest. Give cues of any kind to show that you feel confident.
- Find a way to break the boundaries of touch in a flirty way. Hold her hand to take her around the bar or where you meet her. Give him guidance by placing your hands on the back of his waist. Try to make him feel comfortable with your touch slowly.
Step 6. Try to come up with appropriate rants
Slanderous words can be detrimental. However, if you choose a rant that is not overused or dirty, it can enhance your charm and attract women.
- Research shows that this is the perfect situation for you to show off your good qualities--and this situation can be helped by a little bit of bragging. Women don't like slanderous remarks in the form of empty compliments or sexually suggestive. Women are more attracted to gibberish that allows them to learn something about a stranger, so that that person can appear different from other people who may also be compatible with him. For example, if you're a nurse, you might try spitting things out like, "Wow, this party doesn't seem lively, doesn't it? As a nurse, I'm telling you this party was dead when I got here." Or, if you're a firefighter, you could try spitting things out like, "It's hot in here or is it just me? As a firefighter, I think you're the cause of the fire here."
- If you want to choose a rant, think of a witty one that can bring out an aspect of your personality or life. Make a rant related to your work, if it's interesting, or you can also choose things that relate to hobbies or positive qualities about yourself. However, don't finish the conversation with just gibberish. Research indicates that gibberish will produce the best results when followed by chat.
Part 2 of 3: Creating Atmosphere
Step 1. Try to take advantage of the smell
When you invite a woman into your home, a good smell is the key to successfully seducing a woman. Try to leave the window open for a few hours before he arrives, so the unpleasant odor can escape. Turn on some fragrances. Choose a scent that's comfortable and less overpowering, such as light vanilla or something else, such as sandalwood. Try to find out first about the things he likes. Try inserting a question about his favorite smell into the conversation. Ask him what kind of perfume or body wash he likes so you can get an idea of what smells he likes.
Step 2. Try to make use of music
A little music can help to put him in the right mood. Remember, focus on him, not you. Choose the type of music he likes, but in a soft, soothing, sensual tone.
- Ask about his taste in music first. Try to play music from a group he likes, but choose a slower song. The fast pop tone puts a person in a mood that makes him want to dance more than do sexual things.
- A classic choice like a Barry White song runs the risk of impressing your taste buds on him. Make sure that you choose modern songs so your partner doesn't get bored.
Step 3. Use decorations
Atmosphere is important when it comes to seduction. Try to create an atmosphere with a few decorations.
- Candles and lighting arrangements to match the mood can be very useful. If you sleep with someone for the first time, they may feel insecure. By dimming the light and using a candle, you can help him feel more comfortable undressing. Candles are also considered a romantic and exciting thing for many people.
- Try to clean the house before he comes. A nice and clean home can make you look like a neat and responsible person, and this can excite a lot of people.
Part 3 of 3: Start Physical Touch
Step 1. Start touching it
Try to start touching it. When you are trying to start something new, take it slow. Start touching her by sitting close, then placing your hands on her knees or shoulders. Again, when it comes to flirting, the most important thing is speed. Doing everything in a hurry can take away his desire.
- The first kiss should be gentle, more than just a peck, but not a full kiss. Make him want more. Try to figure out his kissing style too. How does he kiss you back? From his kisses, you can guess what kind of kiss he likes.
- If you're trying to seduce a woman you've been with for a long time, try to start things like this in the most unlikely of places. People are used to doing things in a routine when they are in a long term relationship, and this can be boring. Try making out in the kitchen or taking a shower with your wife or boyfriend.
Step 2. Focus on the sensitive parts of her body
The sensitive zone is the part of the body that stimulates sexual desire when touched, kissed, licked, or caressed. Not everyone has the same sensitive zones, but certain body parts tend to be sensitive for most women.
- The neck and ears have many nerve endings, and they are generally not touched regularly. Both parts may respond well to kisses, sucks, licks, or gentle bites.
- The head and soles of the feet are sensitive areas for many people. A gentle massage on the head or soles of the feet might help you take things to the next level.
- When kissing, focus on the lips. Try licking, biting, and sucking on his lips.
- The abdomen, lower back, and inner thighs are also sensitive to touch. Most women get sexual desire when these parts are touched.
Step 3. Continue the process slowly
When it comes to flirting, the most important thing is to keep the momentum going. Doing it in a hurry can make your partner feel uncomfortable or even lose desire. As you move from one stage to the next, take it slow. Pay attention to what he wants and what makes him happy. Try to adapt to his needs so that the experience you get is satisfying for both of you. Every now and then, stop and ask if what you're doing makes him feel good, then pay close attention to his answers.
Warning
- Make sure that your partner is confident and interested in moving on to the next stages. Every now and then, stop and ask him if what you're doing is okay with him.
- Practice safe sex. Use a condom, especially if you sleep with someone you don't know.
