Even though you really love your parents, sometimes it feels like you always let them down. By understanding their expectations of you and adjusting your behavior to meet those expectations, you can improve your relationship with your parents and help reduce unnecessary conflict and stress.
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Part 1 of 4: Succeeding in School
Step 1. Prioritize homework
Get in the habit of starting work as soon as you get home. Not only will you learn to respect your parents, but your time in the evening will also be free to do various other activities.
- If you have a question about an assignment, ask for help. Parents will be happy if you show initiative.
- Understand the rules about homework. It is important to discuss any of your questions regarding the rules regarding homework.
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Know the rules about where, when, whether your friends can visit, etc. The following are some basic questions:
- Time: What time does homework start to be done and what time is considered too late to start doing it? Can you take a break in between doing homework?
- Where: Where can homework be done and is it okay to turn on the television or music while doing homework?
- People: Can you guys come to do homework together?
Step 2. Don't let technology distract you
Many of today's problems are rooted in technology. Whether it's due to overuse or abuse (ie including using it at inappropriate times such as during school time); Technology can be the source of many problems and disappointments.
- Turn off your smartphone at school. While this step is a rule in most schools, make sure your phone is off throughout the day.
- When it comes to social media; there are a number of major obstacles for parents and teens. While it can be useful, social media has also been shown to have some bad effects.
- Part of succeeding in school is learning to get along with your friends. Using social media in a way that negatively affects others at school is something you should avoid.
Step 3. Come to school
It is clear that attending school is the first step to success academically.
- Many schools already have strict rules to prevent students from skipping classes, so make sure you follow your rules.
- Whether it's by showing up on time or not leaving early, it's important that you attend school.
Part 2 of 4: Following the Rules at Home
Step 1. Obey the curfew
While you may not like it, you should know if your parents have a curfew and what time you should be home. Discuss the penalties given for violating the curfew.
- It is important to understand both the rules and the consequences of not following them.
- If you don't agree on your curfew, ask your parents to consider two different curfews - one that works on the evenings on school days and one that's a little later on the weekends.
- Remember that your parents are concerned about your safety. If you need further explanation of why they set up a curfew, politely ask your parents to explain.
- Get home on time, if not a few minutes early. If you're going home late because of an unexpected problem or something beyond your control, let your parents know.
- Give them an estimated time to get home if you're going to be late and don't put it off until the deadline you need to get home before calling home.
- Be honest. Don't make up excuses why you haven't been home if you're just trying to spend more time with your friends. Your parents will find out!
Step 2. Finish your homework
While this may not be something you enjoy doing in your free time, chances are your parents expect you to do your homework. Whether it's cleaning the room or taking care of the family pet; You must know what is required of you.
- The question of who is in charge of a teenager's room has divided parents and teens for ages. This is the time to work things out with your parents by understanding their point of view about your room. How often should the room be cleaned? Can it be a little messy?
- Understand the chronology for completing your homework. For example, if you are asked to take care of a family pet, discuss how often it should be fed and taken for walks.
- If you are very busy with schoolwork or extracurricular activities, you should find out if there is flexibility in your homework. If so, know who should take over your responsibilities and how long in advance you should ask for help.
- Do your job without being asked. Whether it's cleaning the room before mom asks for it, or refilling the dog food bowl before dad orders it, start doing your chores without being asked.
- Adding homework to your afternoon routine can help. You can start doing your homework in about half an hour. This move will still give you plenty of time at night, and will also keep your parents happy!
Step 3. Respect the rules at home
As a teenager, it is important that you respect the ground rules of your parents. Remember, you live in their house. Invite your friends to obey the rules in your house too.
Regardless of whether it's taking off your shoes indoors or eating at 6pm every night; don't feel bad about asking your friends to follow the rules when they come to visit. Your parents will really appreciate your efforts to guide your friends
Step 4. Set ground rules for your boyfriend
Even if you don't have one now, someday you will have a lover. It is important that you understand your parents' rules so as not to disappoint them.
- You should discuss when and where appropriate places to hang out with your lover at home.
- Discuss what kind of dating is appropriate for your age.
Step 5. Don't take drugs and alcohol
While there are many reasons not to use drugs and alcohol, often children choose not to use them for fear of disappointing their parents and/or a result of a positive influence in their lives. Even more importantly, both substances are illegal! Avoid getting into trouble with the law AND your parents by not using drugs and alcohol!
Part 3 of 4: Spending Time with Family
Step 1. Attend a family meal
This may happen daily, weekly or even monthly, but whenever this activity takes place don't forget to attend for a family meal.
- Dinner provides an opportunity for families to share stories, relax and recharge with the aim of developing a sense of who you are as a family.
- Don't skip family mealtimes to hang out with your friends. They can wait to see you.
Step 2. Focus on your family when you are with them
3,700 text messages per month or 125 per day are sent and received by teenagers. Most likely, many of those messages you received while at home.
Save your smartphone, turn off your music and really spend time with your family
Step 3. Participate in various family activities
Spending time together gives you a much better chance to have quality experiences together.
- Spending time together helps foster open dialogue and better communication. The more time you spend with your family, the easier it will be to talk to your parents.
- You'll also create some great memories together that you can talk about for years to come.
Part 4 of 4: Motivate Yourself
Step 1. Find different ways to earn money
Asking parents for money is a real hassle, at least that's how some (49%) of teens feel. Take the initiative to find a side job such as babysitting or cleaning a neighbor's garden.
- There are many ways to make money as a teenager.
- Having financial independence will help you feel better about yourself.
Step 2. Do what makes you happy
There is nothing a parent likes more than seeing their child happy. What's more, you will feel a sensation of pride in each of your achievements.
- Always keep your actions within the limits of the laws and house rules. For example, if you like to travel, don't go on long trips without asking permission. Try to plan a weekend trip with the family instead. If you are already in college, you can apply for a study abroad program.
- For high school age kids, if you like theater, try joining a play at school. Maybe you like drawing, so talk to your parents about adding an extra art class to your schedule.
Step 3. Be proud of who you are
Although not always, there are parents who have unreasonable expectations or hurt their children emotionally. Learning to be proud of who you are and what you have achieved is important for developing self-esteem, apart from your parents.
Tips
- Learn to be quiet and listen to your parents every now and then.
- Do whatever you can to help your parents. Remember how much they have done for you.
- Try not to argue with your parents. They only want the best for you.
