Getting your daughter's first bra can cause mixed feelings for both you and your daughter. Most girls get their first bra when their breasts start to grow or other girls their age are already wearing one. Talk to your daughter about the first bra she will wear and why. This will help in the initial process of getting your first bra. You can buy your daughter's first bra by observing the development of her breasts, always considering your daughter's feelings, and getting the right and fitting bra.
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Method 1 of 3: Getting Bra
Step 1. Remind your daughter that breasts are different
Talk to your daughter about the type of bra she likes. If she doesn't want to, tell her a bra that fits her breast size and shape. Tell your daughter that everyone is different, so she can better accept her changing body shape.
Explain to your daughter that everyone's breasts are different and she may need a different bra than yours. Tell him that each breast may be different in size and shape. This is normal
Step 2. Buy a bra online if your daughter is shy
If your daughter is shy, order some bras online with her. Let him try it at home so he can make a final decision. Giving your daughter a chance to decide where she can buy a bra will make this exhilarating and thrilling moment even more enjoyable.
Step 3. Enjoy bra shopping with your daughter
Make buying your daughter's first bra an exciting time for both of you. Just you and your daughter shopping for bras together to maintain her privacy, and treat her as the star of the day. Make bra shopping a fun moment so that your daughter is more comfortable with the changes that occur in her body.
Step 4. Have a professional measured
Look for a local store that has a section that specializes in selling underwear or that specializes in selling bras. Ask the shop staff to take your daughter's size. Make sure your daughter gets a bra of the right size so that she feels comfortable and even stylish when she puts on her first bra.
Ask your daughter carefully before you start shopping if she is comfortable in her size. If he feels comfortable, then you make a schedule. For example, “Mimi, Mrs. Karla is a professional bra maker. Mama ordered her a bra once and a lot of girls your age ordered her one. Usually she has lots of ideas about cute and nice bras. Would you like to order her a bra?”
Step 5. Select several bras to buy
Show your daughter that she has a wide range of bra styles to choose from. For young girls, bras to choose from include a sports bra (sport bra), bralette, or an unlined bra with an extra cup. Ask your daughter to choose several bras she wants according to her size. Then, let him try to find out which one he likes best.
Try not to immediately reject the bra of choice. Remember, your daughter is growing and exploring herself. Perhaps the lacy red bralette the other girls wore
Step 6. Decide on the type of bra together
Ask your daughter which bra she likes and why. Buy him a bra or two that you both agree on.
For example, “You like this black lacy bralette and bright pink sports bra, right, Citra? Why do those two bras appeal to you? How about choosing a cream or white lacy bralette so you can match it with any outfit?” or “How about we try a bra with added foam for a few months? That way, you'll get used to wearing a layer of bra under your clothes."
Method 2 of 3: Observing Breast Development
Step 1. Examine her breast buds
Observe your daughter's chest when she is 9 or 10 years old. It is at this time that girls generally begin to experience thelarche or breast development. Ask your daughter if she feels small bulges on each breast called “breast buds”, has pain, or has tenderness in her chest.
- Discuss breast buds with your daughter carefully and attentively. For example, “Kiki, Bu Ageng once said that Dina's breasts have started to grow. You may have experienced it. But if you haven't, that's okay. You may feel that there are slight bulges in your chest called breast buds. It's not a disease; it means your breasts are starting to grow too. You can ask Mama any time. Mama will keep this conversation for just the two of us.”
- Be aware that each breast bud can develop at a different rate. This is normal.
Step 2. Look for other signs of puberty
Girls usually start puberty between the ages of 8 and 13. Recognize the signs your daughter is experiencing so you know when she bought her a bra for the first time. Pay attention to the following signs of puberty your daughter is experiencing:
- Changes in body shape.
- The growth of hair on the body.
- Changes in behavior and emotions.
Step 3. Consult your daughter's doctor
If you don't see any signs of breast development or your daughter is embarrassed, schedule an appointment with your doctor. Let your daughter talk to the doctor herself. They can then invite or meet with you as well to discuss your daughter's development. Ask if they think your daughter needs a bra and how to start talking about the matter with her.
Method 3 of 3: Be Sensitive to Your Daughter's Needs
Step 1. Ask your daughter if she wants a bra
Talk to your daughter when you are alone with her. Talk about bras by asking questions, not by directing them. A relaxed and open chat will let you know if your daughter is comfortable getting her first bra.
For example, “Ema, I saw Lina wearing a sports bra while exercising a few days ago. You want a bra like that too?” Your daughter's answer can be a clue to you whether she is ready to wear a bra
Step 2. Answer your daughter's questions honestly
Show your daughter that she can ask anything about her body changes. Be honest about breast health issues and whether she needs to wear a bra. Discuss openly about breast development with your daughter. That way, buying her first bra will be easier.
- Answer the question as simply as possible. Don't use difficult terms like “thelarche”, “mammogram”, or “breast tissue”. Instead say, “Your breasts start to develop until you are 14 years old, Sinta. Your breasts can grow and shrink with age, weight, and even when you have a baby.”
- Be honest if you don't know the answer to the question. For example, “Sorry Isabel, I don't know the answer. How about we call Doctor Martina and find out the answer? Are there any other difficult questions about your breasts?”
Step 3. Consider peer pressure
Pay attention to whether your daughter's friends wear bras, it's peer pressure on her. Think about your daughter's desire for a bra based on physical and emotional factors. A girl will feel traumatized if she doesn't wear a bra while her friends have.
Remember, your daughter may want to look like her friends when she changes clothes during gym hours or when she's staying over at a friend's house
Step 4. Allow your daughter to make her own decisions
After you've discussed the pros and cons of getting a bra, let your daughter know that she has the final say. Support whatever decision she makes and help her find a bra that fits and she likes. Giving your daughter the opportunity to make decisions allows her to gain control over her own body during this exciting and thrilling time.
For example, “Yosefin, the decision is yours. We can have fun the next time we buy your first bra. However, if you choose to wait, that's okay. Tell Mama when you're ready."
Step 5. Respect your daughter's privacy
Don't announce to your family members or friends that your daughter will be wearing a bra for the first time. He can be embarrassed if others know he is growing. Also let him know that he can trust you if he has questions about his body.
