Sending flowers is a common way to express sympathy to the family of a deceased person. In ancient times, flowers were used to anoint the dead and also to decorate graves. Now flowers are used to soothe those who are in mourning and also remind them that the soul of the deceased is still with them. Sending flowers is a good way to convey condolences to the bereaved. Flowers sent can help celebrate life, provide peace, and ease the grief of the bereaved.
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Part 1 of 2: Choosing Flowers to Send
Step 1. Know the family's requests
Some funeral announcements will ask you to make a donation to the charity that the deceased's family wants instead of sending flowers.
Some people choose to send flowers as well as make a donation. The decision is yours. However, when in doubt, following the request of the deceased's family can be the best decision
Step 2. Consider the deceased's beliefs
The most appropriate bouquet for a funeral depends on the beliefs, cultural beliefs, or religious traditions of the deceased and his family. A bouquet that fits one culture may not necessarily suit another culture. Therefore, it is very important for you to consider this before buying flowers. Here are some suggestions for flowers commonly found at religious funerals:
- Islam: the flowers allowed for Islamic funerals vary depending on the beliefs of each ummah. Therefore, it is important for you to know the wishes of the deceased's family before sending flowers.
- Catholic and Protestant: no type of flower or style of bouquet should be avoided. Almost all colors and types of flowers and bouquets are allowed.
- Mormons: although almost all flowers are allowed, avoid garlands decorated with crosses.
- Greek Orthodox Church: although almost all flowers are allowed, white flowers are preferred.
- Jews: flowers are not usually displayed in funeral homes where religious ceremonies are held for the deceased. On the other hand, sending flowers to a family member's house is more common. However, you should not bring flowers into your home that are used for "Shiva" (a period of mourning lasting seven days).
- Baha'i: almost all types of bouquets are allowed. There is no type of flower or style of bouquet that should be avoided.
- Buddha: almost all kinds of wreaths are allowed. There is no type of flower or style of bouquet that should be avoided.
- Hinduism: garlands are more common at Hindu funerals than wreaths. Ask the family of the deceased if it is possible to send a wreath to the funeral home.
Step 3. Consider your relationship with the deceased
Different types of bouquets are sent by people who have different closeness to the deceased. Take this into account when choosing a bouquet of flowers.
- Choose a casket spray (a wreath placed on a coffin) or a wreath (a round flower arrangement) if you are a close relative of the deceased. Other options that close relatives of the deceased could choose include flower arrangements for table decoration, swags (curved flower arrangements) placed behind the coffin lid, and heart-shaped flower arrangements.
- Choose a spray (interestingly arranged flowers) placed on a support or an informal flower arrangement if you are a distant relative of the deceased.
- Send a spray, wreath, a bouquet in a vase, a basket filled with flowers, or live plants if you were a close friend or coworker of the deceased. Friends can send flowers directly to the funeral home or the home of the desired family member. Business associates can send flowers to a family member's office.
Step 4. Buy flowers that reflect the personality of the deceased in his honor
Flowers can be a subtle way of honoring what the deceased loved while he was alive. Sending a unique bouquet that has a special meaning is a good way to honor the life that the deceased once lived.
- If your deceased loved the outdoors, send him a basket filled with wildflowers.
- If the deceased always wore yellow, consider sending a yellow bouquet.
- If the deceased loved gardening, consider sending plants the family can grow in the garden or outdoors in his honor. Plants planted in pots have a symbolic meaning because they will continue to live and grow.
Step 5. Choose flowers carefully
While there are no strict rules regarding the types of flowers that should be sent to funerals or funeral homes, there are some flowers that are commonly sent for funerals. Here are some flowers that have meanings that match the atmosphere of the funeral:
- Apple blossom (apple blossom): better things are coming
- Lily of the valley: happiness will return
- Ivy: eternal obedience
- Hybrid tea rose: “I will remember you”
- Rose (red): love or honor or courage
- Rose (pink): grace or good manners
- Rose (bright pink): admiration or sympathy
- In addition, some flowers may be very compatible with certain cultures. For example, chrysanthemums may fit well with families of Asian origin or ancestry.
Step 6. Consider the meaning of colors
When choosing flowers for an emotional event such as a funeral, you should consider the color of the flowers as this may be noticed by the deceased's loved ones.
- Choose white flowers to reflect peace and respect.
- Choose blue flowers to reflect comfort and serenity.
- Avoid green flowers. This flower reflects health and good fortune so it does not fit into the atmosphere of a funeral.
- Red flowers should not be chosen if the deceased is Buddhist. Instead, white flowers are preferred.
Part 2 of 2: Buying and Sending Flowers
Step 1. Contact the funeral home about the rules regarding flower delivery
For example, many funeral homes have their own rules for flower arrangements placed in vases that fall or break easily. The regulation also regulates vases made of glass. When in doubt, contact the funeral home to find out what kind of flowers the deceased's family would like. That way, you can send flowers according to their wishes.
Step 2. Visit a florist
Visiting a florist can be a good way to send the right type and style of bouquets. Florists are usually good at arranging various types of funeral bouquets. If you live in a small town or your florist is close to a funeral home, the florist may know the deceased or his family personally and may be able to offer additional advice.
- Provide the florist with information related to the deceased, including the name, date, time, and location of the funeral.
- Prepare a message for a condolence card to be sent with a bouquet of flowers. The simplest messages that are most commonly made are "Condolences" or "Condolences". However, you may be able to write a longer, more personal message.
Step 3. Send flowers through an online florist
Sending flowers through online florists has become a common and convenient thing to do instead of visiting a local florist in person. Almost all florist websites cater to ordering funeral bouquets. You can also provide information related to the deceased to the florist through the website.
Step 4. Visit https://www.floweradvisor.co.id to order support sprays and wreaths, funeral bouquets, condolence bouquets, and flower arrangements kept on coffins
This website will send orders to funerals or family homes.
- Visit https://www.indonesiaroses.com to order plants, flowers, spray, and wreath. If you want to post potted plants, the website has a beautiful collection of plants.
- Visit https://www.memeflorist.com/ and select the desired area and city. After that, select the "Board Flowers" and "Condolences" options to choose a bouquet that fits your budget and wishes.
Step 5. Decide where to send the bouquets
While most bouquets of flowers are sent directly to the funeral home where the deceased was buried prior to his burial, you can also send flowers to his family's home.
Step 6. Consider inviting someone else to make the wreath
Often the deceased's friends, such as playmates, schoolmates, or coworkers, choose to send a bouquet of flowers together. When a group of people join forces to buy a bouquet, the flowers purchased are generally larger and can be seen more clearly than other, smaller bouquets.
