You may really love your husband, even though you may not always show it. If you want to let her know how much she means to you, you have to know what to say to make her feel loved – and remember that actions are far more important than words. You can try to pamper him less and make him see that you love him for himself, and your life wouldn't be the same without him.
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Part 1 of 4: Doing the Right Thing
Step 1. Give him a little help
One way to show your husband that you really love him is to give him a little help. This lets him see how much you care about him. If your husband has a busy week at work or just has a tough day, making a little effort to help him out during his daily life can really show your husband that you love him and care about him.
- While you don't have to help him do everything, getting the right help at the right time can really show your husband how much you care about him. Here are some ideas for what you can do:
- Bring his lunch to work in case your husband forgets to bring it.
- Buy coffee and fresh cookies in the morning if your husband has an important day at his office.
- Buy the book your husband wants.
- Help your husband with simple household chores, such as doing the laundry or walking the dog when he has a tough week.
- Call the maintenance staff he's been putting off for a week.
Step 2. Make time for a dinner date
Don't just watch a movie at home with the kids or just plan a date night during the day on the same day you use for your company picnic.
- Make an effort to clear days on your calendar just for you and your husband so you can get back to being alone. Even if you think you're too busy for a traditional date night, it's an important way to show your husband that you love him.
- A date night doesn't always have to be a romantic dinner and a movie. Think about the type of date night that your husband might have a lot of fun with. You can go visit a brewery in your city or watch a fun sporting event in the evening.
- If you plan in advance at least a few date nights per month on your calendar, this will show your husband that you love him and want to put in more effort.
- Make yourself look good on your date night and show him that you really care. Take the time to do your hair, make up, and wear jewelry, so your husband can see that you are treating this date as a special occasion.
Step 3. Give him a massage
Sometimes, the best way to show your love is through your actions. If your husband has had a long day at the office, or even if he looks a little tired, take the time to massage his neck, back, shoulders, or, if you really love him, massage his feet.
Step 4. Lay him down and massage his back so that it is no longer stiff
This can be a great way to show your love, or a great way to get into foreplay.
- If you do this when he least expects it, the results can be very satisfying. If he's just sitting at his desk, looking at some paperwork, or reading a magazine on the couch, give him a sneak massage attack.
- Massage gently, especially the feet, if you've never done it before. Your husband may be more amused than you think.
Step 5. Make an effort to be close to his family
If you really want to show your husband that you love him, you have to make him see that you are determined to have a positive relationship with his family, even if you don't usually stay close to them.
- Even if his mother greets you like an angry poodle, you should make every effort to try to be friendly with the family. Don't talk bad about his family. It is important for your husband to see that his love is more important to you than the fact that you have nothing in common with his brother/sister.
- Sometimes it seems almost impossible for you to get along with your in-laws. But, if you at least try, your husband will see that he really means a lot to you.
- Try to get closer to his family, whether you call them, invite them to lunch, or send flowers for birthdays and important occasions.
Step 6. Start a new adventure together
Another way to show your husband love is by going on adventures together to keep your relationship fresh. This can be done by trying scuba-diving, biking along the California coast, or even taking a salsa dance class together. Whatever you do, make sure you make an effort to keep things feeling new and fun.
- The fact that you don't just go through the old stuff every day can show your husband how much you love him.
- Make sure you stick to some of your favorite traditions. If you want to show your husband that you love him, keep going to your favorite restaurant once a month, watching your favorite shows together, and watching your old favorite band (even if the band isn't as good as it used to be). Do whatever it takes as long as you can still enjoy the moment.
- You don't have to try too hard to try too many new things. If you do, you will look overdone. Try to do a completely new thing or two together every month, whether it's hiking a mountain or cooking pasta from scratch, and build on all of these new things.
Step 7. Keep the bed business interesting
While making love isn't the only thing that can show you how you feel, making your bedroom time more passionate and enjoyable can let your husband see that you really care about him.
- Make sure you're in the mood to do it and that you're not just doing it to complete things on your list, and take the time to explore your husband's body in a sensual and fun way.
- It's never too late to try a new position or make love in a new place (as long as you feel comfortable about it). This can be a good way to show your husband how much you care about him.
- If you don't feel corny about this easily, wear sexy underwear. There is nothing wrong with this.
- You can use massage oil or body lotion which can make the atmosphere more sensual.
- Ask your husband what he wants from you, and encourage him not to hold back. As long as you're still comfortable, your husband will know how much you love him – just make sure you get it back too.
Step 8. Respect her freedom
You may think that the only way to show your husband how much you love him is to draw closer to him, but sometimes, the best way to show how much you care about him is to give him the space he needs and deserves.
- Let him go out with his close friends, encourage him to go camping with his brothers/sisters, and don't get upset when he prefers to spend an afternoon reading or exercising over dinner with you.
- While he should still make time for you, you don't need to hold him back, or he'll end up feeling more constrained than loved.
- Letting your husband have his own life and spending time with his friends is a very healthy thing. In fact, spending more time alone will make you appreciate each other more than when you are together.
- Do not be jealous. If you have no reason to be jealous, give your husband the respect he deserves by not calling him every two seconds when he's out with friends, or giving him a disapproving glance every time he talks to another woman.
Step 9. Do what he likes once in a while
While you don't have to be obsessed with his favorite baseball team or favorite band all the time, if you want to show that you love him, you have to show an interest in what he cares about. Do this together if he likes it too.
- If he's been trying to take you out to a New York Knicks basketball game for years, buy him a ticket for his birthday. If he ever wants you to try brewing your own beer together, spend Sundays having fun in the kitchen instead of showing your distaste.
- While you don't have to be one of those couples who do everything at the same time, if you want to show that you love him, you have to make an effort to appreciate the things he likes, at least once.
- Your relationship can only grow stronger if you introduce your husband to other things that you are also passionate about. While you shouldn't force her to go to yoga with you, you can find something she might also like, like the new Thai restaurant you frequent with your friends.
Part 2 of 4: Saying the Right Thing
Step 1. Encourage him
Sometimes, the best way to let your husband see how much you love him is through your words. Do this by making him feel good about a new project he's working on, his new job interview, or about working things out with his dad.
- Be by his side to make him feel good about himself rather than make him sad for no reason. Let him see that you think he is an extraordinary man with unlimited potential; sometimes, what you say can make him feel better about himself than about anything else.
- Say something like, “You are very good with people. I'm sure you don't need to be nervous. I think you will like working on this new project.” Words like this can make him feel more confident in his actions.
- You could also say, “You are very determined and I have no doubt you will be able to run this marathon. You are the hardest worker I have ever known.”
Step 2. Tell him you love him
Saying "I love you" is sometimes the best way. Make an effort to tell your husband that you love him at least once a day and look him in the eye when you say it, so he knows you mean it.
- Make eye contact and stop doing anything to get this message across instead of just saying “Love you!” as an obligation.
- Love him and let him know that he is truly loved.
- While telling your husband that you love him is the most effective way, saying these words over the phone or email can also make him feel more loved.
- Don't just say "I love you" when you're on a date or going through tough things. Sometimes, saying it for no reason will give the best results.
Step 3. Give sweet compliments
Take time to compliment your husband. This will also make him feel loved. Tell him how handsome he looks in his new clothes, tell him that he always knows how to make you laugh, and tell him that he is very friendly to new people.
- Find a way to make him think he's really special, and do your best to make sure your compliments are genuine and you're not saying it just to please him.
- If you have kids, make sure your kids hear you praise their dad, so they know how amazing he is. Here are examples of other things you can say to show how much you love him:
- “You were the most handsome boy at the party. I'm so proud to be by your side."
- “You are very good at taking care of children. I don't know how you do it."
- “You always know what to say to make me feel better. You're talented."
- “I am so grateful to be with someone who reads a lot. It's great to be with someone who is passionate about the world."
Step 4. Ask your husband's day
Making an effort to show that you want to know how your husband's day can show how much you love him.
- When the two of you get home after work, or if you spend the weekend apart, ask questions as you see them. This is important to make sure that he is having a good day and that you show an interest in what he is doing.
- While you don't have to interrogate him or ask about every little thing, taking the time to find out how his day will show your husband that you really love him.
- If you find out he's having an important day, like a big presentation at work or a reunion with friends he hasn't seen in a long time, make sure you ask questions to let him know you care about him.
- When you ask him how his day was, don't just ask him to pass by, but stop doing whatever you're doing to make him see that this means a lot to you.
Step 5. Send some sweet short messages
Another way to show your husband that you love him is to send him a sweet text to show you care about him. As long as it's sincere and makes her smile, you're well on your way to making her feel loved even more.
- Just tell him how much you love him, tell him how much fun you had in bed last night, or tell him you're looking forward to a date night. These things can make him feel that he means a lot to you.
- If you're not a big fan of texting, texting her at the most unexpected time can really have a big effect.
- While you shouldn't just show how much you care about them via text messages, they can be an effective addition.
Step 6. Practice open communication
If you want your husband to see that you love him, you have to show that you are willing to talk to him about anything, and that you enjoy having an honest and open conversation with him.
- If your husband wants to discuss something important, take away anything that could distract you, take the time to really listen to what he has to say, and respond when it's your turn to talk. Make sure that he sees your view of the situation, in the most respectful way possible.
- Making the effort to actually talk to him instead of being passive aggressive or having a short talk with him will really show how much you love him.
- Listening is a big part of communication. Just hearing what he has to say without bothering him or disagreeing with him can have a huge effect on your relationship.
- Be as honest as you can. While white lies will never hurt her, make sure you're not keeping secrets from her or making her feel like she's being kicked out of your life.
Step 7. Compromise
Another great way to show your love for your husband is to compromise on things that are important to both of you. Find a way to occasionally get what you want, and occasionally give him what he wants, and compromise when there's something both of you might get. Compromise is an important part of showing love because it will let your husband know that you really care about his happiness.
- Strong communication is also important because it will allow you to understand what your husband thinks is important, and what he is willing to give up.
- Try to be balanced. For example, let him choose where to eat dinner, when you can choose a movie to watch together at the cinema.
- Understand that feeling happy is often more important than feeling right. Always getting what you want isn't important either. When you give him what he wants, there's no need to hate him. For example, if you're willing to go with your husband to his big family event, instead of going to your friend's birthday, don't frown the whole time, or he'll think you're not willing to compromise at all.
Step 8. Say sorry
To show your husband that you love him, you have to put your pride aside and apologize when you've done something wrong. Stop doing whatever you're doing, look him in the eye, and say you're really sorry for what you did and that you're really sorry and promise not to do it again.
- Let him see that hurting or making him sad really had an effect on you, and that you really love him and that you're really sorry for what happened. Your husband will see how much you love him because he will be amazed that you can humble yourself and admit your mistakes.
- Remember that while apologizing is important, it's even more important to do your own thing. If you apologize for being mean to his friends, you really should try not to do it again.
Part 3 of 4: Be Creative
Step 1. Write a message on the bathroom mirror
While your husband is in the shower, go into the bathroom and write “I love you” on the steamy mirror. He will have a pleasant surprise waiting for him when he finishes bathing.
- As long as you don't scare him as you sneak into the bathroom, he'll be touched by this sweet and creative move.
- If you don't think the steam approach won't work, write a message in a post-it and stick it on the bathroom mirror, so it's the first thing she sees when she wakes up.
Step 2. Make him a love-themed breakfast on the bed
Everyone deserves to be pampered with a few breakfast sessions in bed once in a while. Whether it's his birthday, Valentine's Day, your anniversary, or just a random day where you want to show him how much he means to you, you need to get up early and make him a love-themed breakfast that shows how much he means to you.
- Make sure he's not busy and in a bad mood for a delicious treat, and you'll show your husband how much you love him. If you have children, ask them to help you serve them to your husband.
- Heart-shaped pancakes with strawberries cut in half can be a cute way to show him how much he means to you.
- If he prefers bacon and eggs, you can make him a smiley face using the eggs for his eyes and bacon for his mouth, and make him laugh at how hard you try.
- If you really want to emphasize the romance, make some chocolate-covered strawberries and serve as a side dish or toss them on top of the Belgian waffle.
- If you want to look cute, make an Egg Benedict with a heart-shaped hollandaise-sauce on top.
Step 3. Send a message of love through the post office
Getting a love letter from his wife will be more romantic for your husband than handling junk mail and regular bills.
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Take the time to write a long, sweet letter explaining how much he means to you, and try to arrange a time for him to receive it before your date night or other important events. He's the one who has to check the mailbox that day, and you have to make sure you don't get caught.
This will be a great way to show him you love him in a new and creative way
- Have you ever written a love letter to your husband before? If not, this can be an original and fun way to take your relationship to a new level.
Step 4. Plan a fun weekend getaway
Another way to show your husband that you love him is to try a different look for the weekend.
- While you don't have to spend a lot of money or go far, just going on a mountain hike, visiting a wine town, or spending some time relaxing on the beach can help you show your husband how much you love him in a new light.
- While you can't always walk away, it can be a very different step change, and can make him see how much he means to you.
- If you're too confused about where to go, try to think of something that will grab her attention more than a romantic getaway. Of course, you may think that mountain climbing is romantic, but if he prefers urban life, you should plan an urban adventure.
Step 5. Go camping in the backyard
You may not have the time and energy to go on a camping vacation, or you may not feel like exploring the wilderness. Backyard camping can be a fun and silly way to show your husband how much you love him – and a great way to get the kids involved, if you have kids. Put a tent in your backyard together, roast some hot dogs over the campfire, and have S'mores for dessert and you're well on your way to getting your groove back.
Your husband may be reluctant to do this at first, but you can reassure him that it can be an easy and fun way to go on an adventure together. If possible, set up a game like ring toss or even Frisbee. This can create a more exciting holiday atmosphere
Step 6. Dress up really if you're going out with her
- While you don't always have to dress up until nine o'clock at night to show how much you love him, you can really push your love life and show how much you love him if you make the effort to dress up every time you go out for special occasions with him.
- Dine at a fine restaurant, go see the opera, or even head to your favorite local bar and dress up for a fun night out.
- How often do you wear formal clothes? While this may not be something you can do all the time, wearing your favorite dress and high heels, and seeing your husband in a suit, can make you feel more loved and feel more romantic. In the end, this will let your husband see how much you love him.
Part 4 of 4: Be Receptive and Responsive
Step 1. Know when your husband is trying to show that he loves you
Some guys have a funny way of showing it. Make sure you respond.
- For example, you don't need to talk excitedly about the new metal board cover he bought you on the spur of the moment, but if he remembers buying it in a color you like, show him your love, at least by complimenting him on his good memory..
- If you can't imagine your husband doing anything in these steps for "you," know that it's natural to work on your side. Marriage is a partnership, the two people in it must work together, and there is something that must be given and received by both parties.
Tips
- Some people feel that showing love during sex is not erotic. They are wrong. Allowing your erotic and sexy sides to be seen at the same time is a great way to give your husband an intimate experience while showing your love for him. So, find a sexy outfit with zippers and fur, and surprise her.
- If your husband has extreme desires that you cannot fulfill, such as wanting to have sex several times each day, it is a good idea to seek professional guidance. This isn't meant to tell you that their desires are wrong, but that you may need some creative help and guidance in order to stay happy together.
- Make sure the sexual relationship only involves the two of you. Other women or pornography can do bad things.
