Admit it, it's not only falling in love that feels like a million, but also having a little sister. Sometimes, your little sister can be really cute and cuddly. However, not infrequently his actions make your blood boil to the top! Whenever he starts acting up, make sure you can still control yourself to deal with it, okay!
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Method 1 of 3: Controlling Yourself
Step 1. Take a deep breath
Taking deep breaths can help calm you down when your sibling is being annoying. So try to take deep breaths and count to ten before reacting to your sister's actions.
Step 2. Don't show your annoyance
Chances are, your sibling will be even more tempted to tease you if he sees you upset or angry. Therefore, try to show your annoyance in front of him! In other words, don't clench your fists, slam your bedroom door, or even yell at your sister.
Step 3. Get out of his way
If his behavior starts to irritate you, and if taking deep breaths doesn't work to get rid of your anger, leave him immediately. Go into another room and do an activity you can do alone, like reading a book or fiddling with your favorite toy. Don't worry, being alone for a while can help you calm down, really.
If your sister keeps following you into other rooms, try leaving the house to walk around the compound or drive somewhere else so she can't follow you and give you time to cool off
Step 4. Don't hit him
No matter how angry you are, never hit him! Remember, this behavior can really hurt her and get you in big trouble with your parents.
Step 5. Think before you speak
When you feel frustrated, you may be prompted to say harsh words to him. However, understand that you will regret this action in the future! Instead of doing it, try to take a deep breath and think carefully before saying the sentence that comes to your mind. This pause will help you calm down and prevent you from saying things you don't really want to say.
Method 2 of 3: Repairing Relationships
Step 1. Congratulate him
If your sister manages to do something special, feel free to congratulate her! Trust me, he will be happy that you are aware of his achievements. In addition, your mood will improve after treating him positively!
Step 2. Do activities that you and he enjoy together
Of course you don't have to spend all your time with him. However, there are times when your sibling acts out to get your attention or to spend more time with you. That's why, you can invite him to work together to improve your relationship with him. Choose an activity that you both enjoy!
For example, you can take her to watch a movie at the cinema or at home together. If you want, you can also invite him to draw, read a book, or even play your favorite game together
Step 3. Describe the behavior that bothers you
Remember, he will not stop what he is doing if he does not know where his fault lies. Therefore, if you are not angry, try to explain things that are bothering you and rest assured that these efforts will definitely improve your relationship with him.
For example, you could say, “Amy, I really don't like it when you come into my room and touch my things without my permission. Next time, please ask permission first, yes, especially some of my items are very easily damaged. See, you can do it?"
Step 4. Define ground rules
If you and your sibling get into a fight because of him, try getting him to sit down and discuss some ground rules that all parties can follow. Also convey these rules to your parents so they can help you and your sister to obey them.
For example, if your sister is always taking your things without permission, try creating a rule that says, “You must ask permission before touching my things. Otherwise, I will complain to Mom and Dad.”
Method 3 of 3: Preventing Negative Feelings from Emerging
Step 1. Try to remember the characteristics that make you feel special
For example, you may always win a running competition at school or always get good academic grades. If you realize that the root of your problem with your sibling is jealousy, try to take the time to work through the problem to improve your relationship. Whenever jealousy or resentment starts to creep in, try to remember the characteristics that make you seem more mature and special than you are. You should feel much better after that.
Step 2. Talk to your parents
Feeling jealous of your little brother? Don't hesitate to tell your parents! Trust me, they can help you to manage or even get rid of those feelings, such as by spending more time with you if you feel that you are not being cared for after your little brother is born.
Step 3. Don't rough it
No matter how big the temptation to tease him, even if he's not upsetting you, try to resist it! In other words, don't bother him or treat him badly. If you do, surely the reputation as a bad brother will stick to your forehead and worsen your relationship with him.
Tips
- If he hits your sister in public, don't respond so as not to attract the attention of those around you. After all, your parents wouldn't be able to punish him, would they, if they saw you two fighting?
- Treat him well. If your affection can be seen and felt by him, he will likely stop bothering you.
- Control your anger, especially if it upsets you. Be careful, his attitude will only get worse when he sees your anger!
- If he makes a mistake, try to get him to communicate in an adult way. In other words, don't be rude to him. Don't offend or ignore it on purpose. Trust me, he won't be able to understand your silence, and may even hate you for looking cold and hard to reach in that situation.
- If something happens to him, try to give him relevant advice and share your experience when faced with a similar situation.
- If the treatment is not pleasant, immediately stand up, take a deep breath, then walk away from him.
