The process of transitioning from childhood to adolescence is a difficult time for your child. As they enter their teens, your child will face raging hormones, increased responsibilities, and the social dynamics of high school. All of this may seem like a huge burden, but your teen shouldn't just stay at home, not doing homework, or skipping homework. Teenagers' laziness can generally be corrected by establishing and enforcing clear rules, motivating them to complete homework and other commitments, and discussing issues or problems that arise at school or at home.
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Method 1 of 3: Communicating with Your Teenager
Step 1. Listen to him patiently
Avoid assuming or interrupting your child when he or she is talking. Invite him to talk about his life by asking about lessons at school or recent exams. Record his answers and let him talk.
- Have a two-way discussion. If you show that you care about their thoughts and opinions, they will be more confident to be open and honest with you. Let him ask questions and let him think.
- Good conversation starter: "How was it at school?" "How was your ball practice?" "It's a fun party, isn't it?"
- Let your child know that you care and want to hear his or her story. "You can always talk to Mama/Papa if there's a problem." "Papa / Mama want to hear you, really." "If you talk, Papa/Mama wants to hear."
Step 2. Ask your child's sleep schedule
Many teens seem lazy or distracted, but they're just not getting enough sleep. Unlike adults, teens are biologically more likely to go to bed late and wake up later (mid-morning rather than early-morning). If your teen is forced to get up at 7 or 8 in the morning to go to school and study, his natural sleep cycle will be disrupted. He will appear lazy, disoriented, and unmotivated, and show symptoms of sleep deprivation. To avoid this, your child needs to sleep at the right time in order to achieve the 8 hours of sleep needed per day. The 8 hours of sleep can recharge the body's energy so that it is ready to go through the day.
Talk about your child's regular sleep patterns and hours. Your child's natural sleep cycle will be helped by consistent bedtimes every day (including weekends). His body will get enough rest. For example, if your child has to wake up at 7 am, 5 days per week, your child needs to go to bed at 10:30 pm to get enough 8 hours of sleep. Encourage him to follow this sleep pattern consistently, including on weekends, so that his sleep pattern is not disturbed
Step 3. Explain why he needs to complete the task and fulfill his commitments
Many teenagers are lazy when asked to do homework because they do not understand the reason/importance behind the task. They might think like this: So what if I don't take out the trash or clean the room? What is the importance? As a parent, it's your job to make it clear that there are things you really don't want to do, and sometimes you'd rather do something else. However, these tasks do need to be completed, so that you become a responsible member of the family.
Show how important cooperation between each family member is to complete household chores fairly. Explain that you don't always like doing homework either, but that they do need to be done so that everyone can benefit. This way, your teen will hopefully understand the reasoning behind the homework. He will be motivated to do his part as a member of the family
Step 4. Find out other problems that may exist at home or school
Laziness can arise as a symptom of other problems, such as lack of sleep, depression, stress, or other internal conflicts. If your teen seems lazier than usual and is showing signs of depression or anxiety, talk about it.
If you are concerned about your child's symptoms of depression or anxiety, talk to a psychiatrist, doctor, or counselor
Method 2 of 3: Creating Ground Rules for Teenagers
Step 1. Make a picket schedule
You can teach responsibility, as well as teach commitment completion, to your teen by giving them assignments to do. Your child will need to get off the couch and do what needs to be done. List the tasks that need to be done, then make a picket schedule for each task to each youth member/other person in the home. Examples of tasks that need to be done:
- Cleaning room
- Cleaning the bathroom
- Washing clothes
- Sweeping common areas
- Sweeping or mopping the floor
Step 2. Limit the use of video games and computers
Many teenagers are distracted and lazy because of their computers, smartphones, or video games. Prohibition of the use of such tools can lead to conflict or conflict. It's a good idea to set a specific time limit for each of these tools. For example, at dinner, there are no smartphones at the dinner table, or video games are not allowed after 10 pm. This way, he can focus his time and attention on schoolwork or homework. Your teen also has time to sleep and doesn't stay up all night in front of the computer.
You also need to set a good example by following the same rules. At dinner, do not bring your cell phone if your child is not allowed to bring a cell phone. Also limit your use of television or video games until 10 pm. Your child will notice that you are also following the rules you have set for him
Step 3. Enforce consequences for negative behavior
If your child refuses to do homework or doesn't follow your boundaries, be clear and firm about the punishment, whether it's a light sentence (such as being detained for one night) or a more severe one (reduced pocket money, no television use). or computer for a week, or absorb for some time.
- As the adult in this relationship, you need to enforce the rules you've made and enforce the consequences for breaking them. Your child may be sad or angry, but he will understand the consequences of his actions and will think twice before breaking a rule or neglecting an assignment.
- Avoid overreacting and punishing your child for minor problems. The level of punishment your child receives should be commensurate with the problem he is causing.
Step 4. Don't get overly angry or take negative comments seriously
Your teen will likely resist your initial attempts to enforce rules and assign tasks. You need to prepare yourself for the chaos that will occur. Don't be overly angry and avoid yelling at your child. Respond to your child in a relaxed and positive manner. Your child will have more respect for parents who are able to control themselves.
If your child neglects a task you asked for, there is a more effective solution than taking your child's cell phone or computer. Simply ask your child to do the task, then wait in place for him to leave his phone or computer and do the task you asked him to do. He'll think you're annoying, but he'll realize you won't stop bothering him until he stops being lazy. This kind of motivation is usually more powerful than prohibiting or yelling
Method 3 of 3: Motivate Your Child
Step 1. Pay attention to your child's use of time
Watch what he does when he is lazy. Does he play computer all day? Reading a book and not doing his homework? Maybe he spends more time on his cell phone, calling his friends, neglecting chores, homework, and other responsibilities. Before you can motivate your child, you need to know the source of his laziness. That way, you can understand his way of thinking and see the pattern of his laziness.
Step 2. Use a reward system
Once you understand your child's lazy behavior, use that pattern of laziness to design a reward system for him. For example, maybe your teen likes to chat with his friends on his cell phone. Tell him that he can play on his phone after finishing the day's household chores. He will view "playing on the phone" as a reward after completing homework. Or, if your child spends time in front of the computer, limit your child's use of the computer until he finishes preparing dinner or cleaning the room.
The tasks you use as a pathway to rewards should be described specifically so that he feels immediately appreciated and motivated to complete all of them. The award needs to be in line with what your teen likes for the effect to be more pronounced
Step 3. Pay your child for homework
Teenagers generally want to earn money, especially if they don't receive pocket money from their parents. Give your child the opportunity to earn money by working on special projects around the house. That way, your child will get up off the couch and do something productive.
You can hire your teen to paint old walls or tidy up the garage. Give him work outside the house, such as tidying the lawn or mowing the lawn to motivate him to be outside and avoid distractions in the house
Step 4. Get your child to try extracurricular activities or sports
Pay attention to your child's skills, such as his talent for theatre, his interest in basketball or the computer. Invite him to participate in the school theater, basketball team, or computer club at school. This way, your teen will be motivated to spend time on something he enjoys doing while developing his talents and skills.
Step 5. Do volunteer activities with your child
One great way to spend time with your child is to volunteer with them. Think about what volunteer work activities you can do together.
For example, you could volunteer for a few hours at a nearby abandoned animal shelter or event. You can also join activities in volunteer organizations
Step 6. Congratulations on your child's achievement
After your child has shown his motivation by achieving something or getting a high score on a test, praise him. You show that you care about his hard work and productivity.
