When you're too young to drive a car, the urge to travel to different places may be frustrating. You have to depend on your parents to take you anywhere. Using a few different methods, you'll have good luck convincing your parents to take you wherever you want.
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Method 1 of 2: Use Your Persuasive Ability
Step 1. Explain to your parents that there is a good reason why you should leave
Sometimes, you need to ask your parents to drive you somewhere for school or club-related reasons. Your parents may be more willing to take you to these types of events, which can be good for you.
- If you need your parents to drive you to school for a meeting, concert, or club meeting, explain to them that this is school related. Say that you have a band concert or drama club meeting. Most parents will be happy if you are involved in extra-curricular activities and they will want to support you. If you need to go to the library to meet with classmates as part of a group project, make sure your parents understand that this is an assignment to be graded.
- If you want to go to a gym, let them know. Explain to them that you have to attend a rehearsal and need a ride.
Step 2. Emphasize how important your presence in this activity is
If your parents are unwilling to accompany you regardless of the explanation given, emphasize how important your attendance is at the activity. Sometimes, letting your parents know how important something is to you can be persuasive.
- If you need to go to a friend's house to study, tell your parents that you are afraid of failing your science test if you don't borrow a friend's notebook and ask them to teach you.
- If you need to go to rehearsal, explain that skipping practice sessions will get you kicked out of the team, keep you from playing, or keep you out of concerts later.
Step 3. Give your parents your schedule
If you have a lot of after-school activities or sports practice, share your schedule with your parents. This schedule should detail the days of practice or meetings, the exact time for pick up and drop off, and the location. Giving parents a schedule like this will allow them to plan a pick-up and drop-off schedule for you, so you don't have to keep asking them to drop you off all the time.
Step 4. Ask politely
Sometimes, you just want your parents to drive you to the store to buy a new game, or to a friend's house to spend the night. You don't have an urgent need to leave, and schoolwork or place on the team isn't a factor in this case either. If this is the situation, ask your parents politely. Being more mature, respectful, and polite to parents instead of being rude, whining, and demanding will yield better results.
Step 5. Stay calm
If your parents say no, don't get angry right away. Getting emotional, acting angry, and yelling are very unpersuasive techniques. This can anger your parents and lead them to believe that you are still immature.
Try to refrain from accusing your parents of being unfair. If you believe they are being unfair, then tell them calmly. Accusation, anger, or crying will make it harder for you to reach your goal of getting a ride
Step 6. Ask parents when they are in a good mood
Make sure you approach your parents at the right time. Don't talk to them right away after they get home from work, when they're in a hurry, or when they're stressed or in a bad mood. Choosing to say so at times like this will result in them giving a negative answer, and perhaps the answer has absolutely nothing to do with you. Therefore, ask them when they have free time and everyone is relaxed.
- As a suggestion, ask your parents if they have time to talk to you. Asked, "Mom, can I talk for a minute?" or “Dad, may I ask you something?”
- Another good option is to ask them at family dinners. Since everyone will be sitting at the table to eat, you have some time to discuss your request, and everyone should be in a good, relaxed mood.
Step 7. Show appreciation and gratitude
Demanding your parents do something for you can lead to disaster. Therefore, express your appreciation for what they do. Don't limit the appreciation to just what they did for you when you asked for it. Thank them for things they do without you asking, like cooking dinner every day, driving you to school, and buying school uniforms.
- Make sure you are sincere in expressing your gratitude and appreciation. Don't be sarcastic or pretend. Parents may be able to see all that, thus fueling their anger.
- Try saying, “I know Mom/Dad has dropped me off and picked me up from school, and I really appreciate that. This is so much better than having to take the bus” or “I really appreciate Mom/Dad for taking the time after work to take me to baseball practice. I love baseball, and I appreciate Mom/Dad for taking me there.” Letting parents know that they are appreciated will pay off well. This will also help you get whatever you asked for afterwards.
Step 8. Give parents time to think
Instead of demanding a direct answer, let the parent think about it. Maybe they should check their schedule, see if they can rearrange some of the appointments they made, or something. Some other parents may just want to make a rational, well-thought-out decision. Urging parents to piss them off and say no.
Tell them they don't need to answer right away. Say, "Don't answer right away, but I was wondering…" or "I want you to think about this before answering."
Step 9. Ask one of the parents
If you have two parents, approach the one with whom you feel closer or who you think will be more likely to agree to your request. Tell him your request, and see what happens.
- If both of your parents have said no, approach one of them. Ask them to explain why they said no. Then ask if there is anything you can do to change their minds. Maybe you can try to explain your request again slowly, and focus on the reasons why the request is important to you.
- Remember, don't try to make fun of your parents with each other. This will end very badly for you.
Step 10. Don't assume your parents have unlimited free time
Remember, parents are very busy with various jobs, obligations, and often with other children. Perhaps the reason why they refuse your request is not because they don't want you to go or because they can't drive you, but because they don't have the time.
Step 11. Don't give up
Keep asking your parents to drive you. Whenever you ask, remember to remain calm and respectful. Just because they can't drive you to a friend's house this week doesn't mean they won't next week.
Don't irritate them. If they've said they won't drive you to the store, don't push them. This will irritate them so much that they will never want to drive you anywhere
Step 12. Give them a reason to fulfill your request
Think about whether you should ask your parents to drive you. Have you behaved well? Do you respect and obey your parents, or have you misbehaved and caused them stress? Have you done your homework, school-given homework, and did your best at school? Think about your parents dropping you off as a gift because you have behaved well. Parents may take this into account when making a decision.
Method 2 of 2: Conferring with Parents
Step 1. Suggest to your parents that you will do something in return
Make a deal with the parents. Tell them if they drive you to the store you will wash the dishes after dinner. Since they've taken the time to drive you, offer to do something that will ease their work for the day.
Offer the parents that you will do something in return before you ask them to drive you. If you want them to drive you to the dance on Saturday night, offer to do your laundry on Thursday to let them know you've kept your word
Step 2. Do something nice before you ask
You have nothing to lose if you seduce your parents a little. Clean the bedroom, finish homework, or vacuum before you ask them to drive you. This may help to put you on their good side and show them that you really want to leave.
By completing housework and schoolwork before you ask, you will put yourself in an advantageous position. If you ask your parents to take you somewhere and they ask, “Have you finished your homework?” or “Have you cleaned the room?”, you can say yes
Step 3. Offer to pay for gas
If gas money is an issue, offer your parents that you'll pay the gas fare. Use pocket money or money from delivering newspapers to pay for it. Doing so will make you look responsible and willing to take on some of the responsibility in order to get delivered.
Never offer to pay them after dropping you off. Doing so will make you look like you're bribing them, or make them feel like they're a taxi driver. This is not what you want
Step 4. Suggest parents to take turns picking up with other friends' parents
If you're trying to get rides to frequent events, such as rehearsals, meetings, or dress rehearsals, suggest that your parents arrange a pick-up. Your parents can come along with some other friends' parents. Determine a pick-up schedule that will benefit everyone. That way, you'll get a ride to the various events you need, your parents will give you a ride, but the responsibilities are split between several people.
Step 5. Compromise
One of the best negotiating strategies is to compromise. Maybe your parents can't drive you to the movies this week, but they can next week. This may not be exactly what you want, but it does mean your parents aren't completely against it. Your parents are still willing to drop you off, so accept it gratefully.
Other compromises might determine where you should go. If you need to go to practice, or go to the store, a friend's house, and the movies, your parents probably won't have time to drive you to all of these places. If your parents offer to drive you to the gym and one other place, then compromise with them
Tips
- Try to find other ways to travel, such as taking the bus, bicycle, walking, or asking a friend to pick you up.
- Accept that sometimes your parents will refuse your request, regardless of what persuasion technique you use. It does not matter. Just let it go, no need to scowl, and try again at a later date.
- Don't just be selfish. Don't expect your parents to drive you wherever and whenever you want. Respect what they have to do and where they need to go just as you would expect them to understand your request.
