You really want to go on vacation with your friends, but aren't sure if your parents will give you permission. They may be concerned about your safety and the cost of your vacation, especially if it's your first time going on a "big" vacation trip. The best way to get permission from your parents is to manage the plan and convince them as best you can. Create a comprehensive itinerary or itinerary, as well as an overall cost estimate. After that, meet your parents and explain the details of the vacation trip, as well as the reason you were allowed to go on vacation. You may need to compromise, but with the right steps, you can enjoy life's exciting adventures!
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Part 1 of 3: Making a Plan
Step 1. Define your goals
Before talking to your parents, you and your friends need to get together and determine the details of the trip. The most important thing to determine is the destination of the vacation. Even though you already know your destination, make sure you know exactly the area or area you are going to visit. If you plan to visit several places, make sure you know their locations and the distance from one destination to another.
- For example, even if you know that you want to visit Bali, you can narrow your visit to Kuta and Nusa Dua.
- If you and your friends disagree about a vacation destination, try to strike a deal. If your parents know that you and your friends have different opinions or desires, there's a good chance they won't give you permission.
Step 2. Determine the duration of the vacation
After selecting a vacation destination, determine the duration, including travel time. Make sure you and your friends have checked the calendar and chose a definite departure and return date.
Check your friends' schedules and choose a time that suits everyone
Step 3. Create a daily agenda
Write a complete daily plan that includes destinations during your vacation. This is important to remember, especially if you are planning to visit several cities or countries. You need to know the date or day for each location. In addition, determine the main activity that will be carried out each day.
- For example, you could write one of the days/entries on your schedule like this: “Monday, 12 September: Third day in Yogyakarta. Visit to Prambanan Temple and UGM. Dinner at Malioboro.”
- Listen to your friends' opinions and make a deal when planning activities.
Step 4. Determine the transportation to be used
After determining the destination for each day of the vacation, you can find out which transportation to use from one place to another. If you have to travel long distances, you may need to use air transportation. After that, determine how to get from one place to another based on the plan that has been made. Record the transportation costs that need to be incurred.
At this stage, don't buy tickets right away. Just write down the estimated price of the ticket that must be purchased
Step 5. Find a place to stay
Decide where to stay for each day of the vacation. Ask your friends if they know someone who can accommodate you in your destination city/country. Also, check hotel and hostel prices, and take note of some accommodation options.
Try to choose an economical option. However, don't just stay in an unsafe or trusted place just because it's cheap
Step 6. Estimate the overall cost
Add up transportation and lodging costs. After that, add the estimated funds that need to be spent each day for food and souvenirs. Include additional costs in case of an emergency at any time. The amount obtained is an estimate of the overall costs that must be incurred for your vacation trip.
Keep extra money in your budget as an emergency fund. This way, you can show your parents that you are responsible and capable of being on guard. This can help you convince your parents to let you go
Step 7. Make an itinerary
You can take notes or type the plan on your computer. This plan should contain everything you've considered and group it by day. Each day should include the main activities, as well as the cost of lodging and the type of transportation to be used.
This itinerary shows your parents that you've really considered and thought about your vacation preparations, and gives them an idea of what you're going to do while on vacation. This way, you can convince them to give you permission
Part 2 of 3: Talking to Your Parents
Step 1. Introduce your friends to your parents
Make sure your parents know your friends before you share your plans. Take your friends home several times so your parents get to know them and understand that your friends are responsible.
- If your parents have never met your friends, try taking your friends over to dinner and introducing them to your parents first. After that, you can invite to your house several times.
- Your parents must be worried. They will feel more at ease when they let you travel with someone they know rather than someone they don't know at all.
Step 2. Find the right moment to talk to your parents
Don't just propose your vacation idea. Find a good time to talk and explain your plans to your parents. It's a good idea to let them know that you want to discuss something and ask them what the time is right for them.
It would be better if you tell your plans to your parents without being accompanied by other friends. They may feel more comfortable and agree with your plans if you're the only one talking, especially if your parents don't know your friends well
Step 3. Propose your vacation itinerary
After you and your parents meet, let them know that you want to go on vacation. Show that you really want to go on vacation and are excited about the plan, and say that you've wanted it for a long time. In addition, also mention friends who will go on vacation with you.
Step 4. Tell why this holiday is important to you
After saying that you want to go on vacation, explain the benefits or importance of the vacation to you. If they have any doubts or concerns about your plans, they need to know that the vacation is actually working for you. Don't say you want to go on vacation so you can party. However, make it clear that the vacation trip can improve yourself or enrich your experience.
You could say, for example, "I want to go to Bali because I've always been curious about the culture, and I also want to try speaking English with foreign tourists there."
Step 5. Show your parents your travel plans
Give them a physical copy of your itinerary, and explain the day's agenda while your parents read the plan. Also explain your plans regarding transportation and lodging that will be used. In addition, tell the main activities that will be done each day during the vacation.
- You need to make a plan as neat and complete as possible. Therefore, explain your vacation plans as chronologically as possible, without jumping from one agenda to another.
- Make sure you explain what makes each activity useful or enriching your life.
Step 6. Describe your budget
Tell your parents the required budget. Say that the existing budget is an estimate, and can still be changed or reduced. Break the budget into several parts and show the allocation of funds for transportation, lodging, and other needs.
If your parents are very financially concerned, you can say that you want to work or take on extra chores to earn money for your vacation
Step 7. Ask for their opinion
It is important for you to have a two-way conversation with your parents. After explaining your entire plan, ask for their opinion. Listen carefully to any questions or concerns they have. At this stage, your parents understand that you have planned your vacation thoroughly and wisely, and will usually give you permission.
- By asking for their opinion, your parents know that you still value their opinion. This can be a sign of maturity. As a result, there is a possibility that they will approve your vacation plans.
- If your parents disagree, be prepared to compromise so you can find an agreement.
Part 3 of 3: Compromising
Step 1. Suggest some steps you can take to save money
The proposed budget may be something your parents object to. If they're worried that your vacation plans will cost too much money, suggest some steps you can take to save money. This step includes sharing the cost of lodging with friends, using affordable transportation, or shortening the duration of the vacation.
- If you have enough savings, you can use it to pay for some of the vacation expenses so your parents don't have to spend a lot of money. If you have a lot of savings, you can even use it to pay for the entire vacation.
- You can also postpone the holiday date so you can save while waiting for that date.
Step 2. Show that you can take care of yourself
Security is another concern your parents have. Tell all the things you will do to take care of yourself. This includes vaccinations, choosing hotels (and not hostels), using multiple ways to secure passports and wallets, and grouping up with friends (and not splitting up).
Always let your parents know your location so they can rest easy and reassure you that you're okay
Step 3. Talk about communication
Your parents want to be able to keep in touch with you. Show that you will always carry your phone with you when you travel. If your parents want to call you every day, suggest an appropriate time to call and ask how you're doing.
If you want to go on vacation abroad, find out if you can use your cell phone in your destination country or rent a phone (or maybe a portable modem)
Step 4. Customize your group of friends
Your parents may not mind your wanting to take a vacation alone, but they'd be more than happy to have someone older with you. Try asking an older friend or sibling if he or she would like to join you. Your parents will feel more relaxed when they know that someone older is traveling with you, especially if they've been on vacation before.
Make sure whoever you invite is a mature person. Just because he is older, doesn't mean he can act mature and responsible
Step 5. Change their minds about your vacation destination
Your parents may feel that your vacation destination is not a safe or appropriate place. This can be something that is difficult to "trick". First, provide your parents with information about the city or country you are going to visit. Find out if any of your friends or acquaintances have been to the place, and share their experiences with your parents.
- You can also show videos about that city or country because your parents can get a clearer and more accurate picture of your vacation destination.
- If you don't succeed in changing their minds about your vacation destination, maybe you need to change your destination.
Step 6. Talk about your vacation plans with your friends and parents
Get your friends and parents together to discuss the changes you've made to your travel plans. Your parents will feel more at ease knowing that everyone has the same opinion, and that you and your friends are serious about planning your vacation.
For example, you can all have dinner together at a pizza restaurant and discuss your vacation plans there. Choose a quiet place to reduce stress and errors in message delivery
Tips
- If your parents still won't give you permission, don't throw a tantrum or act up. Even if it's annoying, try to deal with the situation calmly. If you can act mature, who knows your parents will change their minds!
- Don't feel constrained by the travel plans made. This plan is just a basic outline of what you want to go to or do. However, once you are on vacation, you can always try or take a new opportunity!
