Marriage is an exciting prospect for a couple in love, but it can also seem big and scary. Read the steps below to prepare yourself to propose, plan the ceremony, and get married.
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Method 1 of 3: Apply and Plan
Step 1. Plan ahead before applying
Your future wife should (hopefully) be surprised, delighted, and somewhat off-balance with your proposal. This is the romantic moment most people have been waiting for, so plan ahead so that everything goes smoothly. Think about the right place and time, as well as the words spoken. Think about things that your boyfriend likes in particular, such as favorite restaurants, activities, and/or music, but for some reason rarely enjoys. Use this as a background element to make a memorable wedding proposal.
Short and simple words carry more power than long and flowery words. If you want to make a big impact with your words, plan to speak clearly and from the heart
Step 2. Buy an engagement ring
Since you are about to propose, it is your responsibility to buy the engagement ring beforehand. Think about what your boyfriend likes and doesn't like. If there's a piece of jewelry you can check out, do so and avoid gemstones and colors that have little or no in your partner's current collection.
- You can ask your partner about the engagement ring specifically, but make sure you do this long before you actually buy the ring, so he or she forgets about it.
- Don't feel like you have to spend huge sums of money on an engagement ring. What is more important is what the ring symbolizes. Plus, the wedding itself is likely to cost you even more.
Step 3. Ask your lover to marry you
With the ring ready, start your day or night together. Show your best attitude, and keep the atmosphere always happy and cheerful. When the time comes, kneel in front of your partner, take out your ring, and say it. With any luck, you'll get a "yes!"
Apply publicly, if you can. The presence of multiple witnesses proves to your lover that you are ready to marry no matter what other people think. People around you will love the show too
Step 4. Start planning the wedding
Once the night is over and you're engaged, don't waste time planning your wedding ceremony and honeymoon. Even a simple wedding ceremony takes time and space. Most people also want a more formal ceremony, which requires event planning skills and a lot of money. Don't forget to make a gift list, if you want your guests to bring wedding gifts.
Plan your wedding with your lover. Involve parents and legal guardians as well. More often than not, they will be happy to help plan and finance the event
Method 2 of 3: Simple Ceremony
Step 1. Choose a time and place
As a general rule, don't get married right after the engagement is announced. Instead, enjoy being engaged for some time. With any luck, this is the only time you will be engaged in this life. Once you and your partner agree on a day, find a penghulu, pastor, priest, or official who has the authority to marry you. Call and make an appointment ahead of time, this will give them something fun to look forward to for the day.
Step 2. Get ready
Just come to the wedding venue sooner, and bring at least one witness. Dress up or not, it's up to you. No one but the two of you, the marriage officer, and the witness will be there to see.
Step 3. Tie the wedding cord
Follow the ceremony and say your wedding vows. Kiss your partner after the ceremony is over! Usually, you can choose to get a marriage book on the same day. The cost may vary by region, but is usually not very expensive. The marriage certificate provides legal proof of your marriage to be used for any purpose. Once you get it, you don't have to renew it again.
Method 3 of 3: Grand Ceremony
Step 1. Choose a place
Most people might want a wedding at a place of worship, but if you and your partner want to go somewhere else, that doesn't mean you don't have a choice. In addition to chapels and meeting rooms that can be rented, city parks, family homes, and even cruise ships can be viable options. There are even people who get married while skydiving! Discuss costs and personal options with your loved one and choose a place that works for both of you.
Step 2. Choose a theme
For some who adhere strictly to one of the old churches, the details of the ceremony will more or less follow tradition. For others, it's time to pick and choose. Remember to consider what you like and don't like. This is a serious and life-changing event, so plan it so that it reflects your values and beliefs. That doesn't mean you can't have fun choosing a fantastic theme, but don't forget the essential nature of the day.
- Marriages based on ancestral culture can be fun, especially when both parties share the same background, or both parties are from very different backgrounds but are willing to compromise. You're free to change a little bit, especially if you don't want to do everything based on true ancestral wedding traditions. Mixing a band with a harpist, for example.
- Weddings based on the same interests and style can be executed quickly and enjoyed by all parties involved, as such weddings provide an easy way to take a standard tradition and change it up a bit for a smart new execution. The main thing to watch out for is cost: Gothic weddings and video game themes may seem diametrical and opposite, but they both cost more than a simple ceremony.
Step 3. Hire people who can help
These are not always professional, like wedding planners, but they are actually very helpful, if you can afford it. Otherwise, ask your friends or family to find someone who can help plan things like seating arrangements and help put up bouquets, ribbons, tables, and other elements the night before the wedding. For tasks that take more time or are more complicated, offer a small fee.
Trust the people who help you. When there are questions or problems, they will come to you. Instead of keeping an eye on them, why don't you do or help out with other work?
Step 4. Set it up as early as possible
Usually, you won't be able to arrange things for your wedding until that day comes, but that doesn't mean you can't get up before dawn and work on it. In some cases, you can start preparing one day or even days in advance. If you are lucky enough to have this option, take it. Preparing for a wedding is a grueling task.
Step 5. Go with the flow
Once the ceremony begins and the wedding takes place, you and your partner are the center of attention, not only everyone present but also anyone who walks by (if the wedding is taking place outdoors) and notices what's going on. This is not the time to be complaining about mistakes or cursing at others, nor is it the time to be upset when things don't go perfectly. Instead, be a shining example to those around you. Sorry for all the problems and difficulties that arise. Remain calm with a smiling face, no matter what, whether during the ceremony or reception. Your parents and friends will be impressed and will remember the event fondly.
