Becoming a parent is one of the most awaited moments in the life of a married couple. After learning that you are pregnant, usually the first person you want to tell is your husband or partner. However, you may want to find a special or unique way to share the happy news. With a little planning and simple preparation, you can let your husband know he's going to be a dad. That act will be a special moment that you can remember for years to come.
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Method 1 of 2: Breaking the News
Step 1. Give a pregnancy test kit with a positive result to your husband
There are many ways to give your husband a pregnancy test and surprise him. You can take a photo of it or swap the pregnancy test kit for something else. Husband will not think what to receive.
- Take a photo of the pregnancy test kit and upload it to your computer. Set as background image.
- Tell your husband that you haven't been feeling well lately. When your husband's attention is a bit distracted, say that you will take your temperature. After that, go to your husband and say you need help reading the measurement results. Instead of giving her a thermometer, place the pregnancy test kit in her hand.
- Ask your husband to sign a birthday card for a friend. Give him a pregnancy test kit instead of a ballpoint pen.
Step 2. Give your husband a special gift
That special gift will mark the happy moment when you break the news of pregnancy to your husband. A personal gift can add surprise and increase anticipation when you break the news, especially if he doesn't expect it. In addition, gifts can also be a special memory for the day.
- Make a t-shirt with a cute short message embellishment. You can make a t-shirt for anyone: for a husband, a t-shirt with the words “daddy” on it will do quite well. You can also make a t-shirt with the words “bread in the oven” or a t-shirt for another child, if you have one, that says “brother” or “sister.”
- You can also purchase souvenirs such as silver cups or silver teething rings. You can write a special message on the card that says “within a few months, we can engrave it with the name of the newest member of our family”.
- Consider something your husband likes and add it to the gift. For example, if your husband loves hiking, buy a small pair of hiking boots and a backpack with the words "for your new hiking partner."
- Buy a small ceramic piggy bank that says "Baby College Fund".
- You can hide gifts in their drawers, closet or gym bag so she can find them that day when she least expects it.
Step 3. Enjoy a special meal with added surprises
You can cook special meals yourself or go to your favorite restaurant. Use this opportunity to slip a surprise in your husband's diet or break the news of the pregnancy at the right time.
- You can cook your husband's favorite foods or special "baby" themed foods like baby corn, baby carrots, or maybe baby food.
- Or, you can visit your favorite restaurant to make the moment more special or memorable.
- You can also combine several ways to tell your husband. For example, buy a plastic baby at a party supply store and put it with food or ask the waiter to serve it with the food your husband ordered.
- What if you buy a bottle of wine and ask for a special label that says your husband is going to be a father to stick on the bottle? Or, you can create labels for the food you both cook at home.
- If your husband suggests having a glass of wine or beer after dinner, say that you should refuse and explain why. You can use quirky sentences like "our babies don't like the taste of wine (or beer) yet."
- Deliver the news through dessert. Make or buy a cake and decorate it with "Congratulations, you're going to be a dad!"
Step 4. Send a card from the baby-to-be
Buy a beautiful card or a beautiful piece of paper and write a letter or message from your baby to your husband. No need to write a long or rambling letter, just something pleasant, warm and brief.
- You don't need to buy a special baby card. Plain cards can also amplify surprises.
- Send the card in the mail so your husband can't guess what's written on the card. If you want, you can even ask someone else to write a message on the card so that your husband doesn't recognize your handwriting.
- Write messages like “Hi Chris, I can't wait to see you in eight months and I know my mom wants to enjoy this new experience with both of us.” Sign the card with “your baby”.
Step 5. Share the news through other family members
If you have other pets or children, let them share the good news with your husband. This method makes the husband who did not expect it more surprised or makes the moment a funny memory.
- If you have a pet dog or cat at home, you can wrap a small board around their neck to convey the news.
- You can also find some kind of toy and have your dog or cat give it to your husband who will give him a hint of the arrival of a new member of the family.
- Ask one of the children to share the news with the husband. The message can be as simple as “mom said we are going to have a baby sister” or something else that fits the child's personality.
Step 6. Buy a sign
You can buy some kind of signage to let your husband know about the pregnancy. You can do it big and bold by renting a billboard, or buying a small sign that reads “baby on board” to stick on the car.
- Choose a sign that matches your husband's personality. For example, if you've been trying to get pregnant all this time and your husband is open, you could rent a billboard on the street your husband walks every day so he'll see it when he least expects it.
- If your husband is a shy person or you don't want to broadcast the news to the world, you can discreetly stick a “baby on board” sign in your car. You can install it in the car or around the house carelessly so that your husband finds it
- Write the happy news on a small piece of paper like you usually tuck in a fortune cookie. Order Chinese food and replace the message in the fortune cookie with your own. Make sure your husband reads his luck and gets a surprise! You might be able to order a special fortune cookie with a surprise that tells your husband he's going to be a dad. Many cake entrepreneurs provide services like this.
Step 7. Make some kind of presentation
Borrow some baby gear from a friend or buy one from a local store. Spread the items all over the house while your husband is at work. When he gets home, let him find out what happened or let him ask questions before you break the big news.
You can buy toys and make “playroom” presentations in the living room. Try placing a feeding bottle or baby food jar in the kitchen for the same effect
Step 8. Make a treasure hunt game (scavenger hunt)
Buy some inexpensive items that hint at your pregnancy and place them around the house. Hide and leave a message for your husband directing him to a hiding place so you can deliver the happy news.
Spread the items around the house for the husband to find with clues at each stage. Hopefully, he will decipher the message before finding you
Step 9. Park the car in the space reserved for “pregnant women”
Take your husband shopping and offer to drive. When you arrive at the parking lot, stop at the parking lot for pregnant women (in Indonesia it may still be rare).
Method 2 of 2: Preparing for Baby's Arrival Together
Step 1. Realize that life will change
Having children changes the life of a person and a partner significantly. By understanding and talking about these inevitable and inevitable changes, you can prevent misunderstandings and potential problems from arising in your relationship.
- Women are programmed to focus on caring for their baby during the first few months after delivery. Recognizing this and the changes that come with it can help a husband prepare himself mentally.
- For example, most women do not want to have sex in the first months after delivery. In fact, some women do not want to have sex during pregnancy. Meanwhile, men do not experience changes like this. Understand that these changes are triggered by hormones. So, prepare yourself and make a plan to deal with this problem.
Step 2. Expand your knowledge
There are books and websites that can help you prepare for the arrival of a baby. Gather information from doctors, friends, books and websites to help you get through pregnancy as a couple.
- Learn tips from doctors, friends, and references that may be very useful during and after pregnancy.
- You can consult various sources that can explain what is happening to your body at each stage. That way, you and your husband understand the changes that you will both experience.
Step 3. Try to strengthen the relationship
One of the best gifts that can be given to a baby is the close relationship between the parents. Keeping your relationship strong and healthy throughout your pregnancy and beyond can help you prepare for and care for your baby effectively.
- At this stage it is important to discuss various things including expectations, family values, and ways to raise children. Even if the two of you don't always agree on everything completely, you can make compromises to prevent the relationship from breaking down.
- Spend enough time together to enjoy life as a couple. You can go for a walk or a formal date or take a vacation to strengthen the bond between the two of you.
Step 4. Discuss the budget and workload
Babies are expensive, take up a lot of time and attention. Talking about your financial situation and how you will share babysitting duties can help avoid miscommunication later on.
- You may want to talk about your workload during pregnancy, especially as you enter your third trimester and you start to find it difficult to move. Talk about housecleaning, pet-feeding, and other household chores.
- Consider discussing how the division of labor will change after the arrival of the baby and how you will handle household chores with a newborn to help prevent irritation to each other.
Step 5. Try to get your husband involved as much as possible
Ensuring that your husband is an active part of preparing to welcome a baby is key to maintaining the relationship and helping your husband to form an early relationship with the baby. Be sure to schedule an appointment with the doctor so that your husband can accompany you. Plus, buying baby gear together can help you both enjoy your baby's arrival more fully.
- You don't need to design a baby's room in a big way, but try to prepare it with your husband. Buy furniture, clothes and other supplies together.
- Be sure to take your husband with you for important meetings with your doctor, including sonograms or listening to your baby's heartbeat.
