Problems with self-confidence can make you feel like a failure or feel unworthy of attention. But everyone has good qualities and abilities that should be appreciated. If you're trying to build self-confidence, there are concrete actions you can take to start boosting your self-confidence. By building positive behavior, you will be more confident.
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Method 1 of 3: Building a Positive Lifestyle
Step 1. Take care of yourself
Increasing self-confidence is the most important thing is to take time and attention for yourself. Showing that you value yourself is the first step to learning to see how others value you. Make sure you do things like:
- Exercise often
- Do a daily routine that makes you feel comfortable, such as taking a bath at night or going for a walk in the afternoon.
- Learn a new skill or hobby, develop a talent, or simply study a subject that interests you.
- Feel comfortable wherever you are! Take the time to clean and decorate the house, even in a simple way.
Step 2. Eat a healthy diet
To feel good, you need to eat well. This means eating a balanced diet. Some nutrients, such as vitamin D and vitamin B12, can improve mood.
- Good sources of vitamin D are: salmon, dairy products, and juices fortified with essential vitamins and substances.
- Good sources of vitamin B 12 are: liver, fortified cereals and essential vitamins and dairy products.
Step 3. Take time to do the things you love
Low self-esteem can cause stress. But if you set aside time to do the things you enjoy, you can relieve stress and connect with self-confidence. Read a book, use your musical or artistic talent, go to the movies or play a game, spend time with friends whatever you enjoy!
Step 4. Achieve something
Problems with self-confidence are often tied to feeling that you are a failure. A good antidote to this feeling is setting and fulfilling goals to achieve something. Even small accomplishments will make you feel more confident and successful.
- Doing things that can improve the appearance and comfort of your home can be a great place to start: cleaning the house, draining the toilet, decorating the house, and so on.
- Dealing with low-stress and risky jobs, such as doing housework or going to the grocery store can also make you feel good about getting things done.
- You can also set a view to achieving long-term goals, such as reducing or eliminating debt, learning new abilities, losing weight, and so on.
Step 5. Dress well
Even if your appearance isn't your main motivation, paying attention to your appearance can have a positive effect on your self-confidence. But that doesn't mean you have to buy expensive clothes. Dress in whatever clothes you have that make you feel confident, and your inner feelings will radiate outward.
Step 6. Reward yourself
You can show that you value yourself if you allow yourself to have something special every once in a while. Rewarding yourself shows that you care about everything you do, especially if the rewards come after working really hard at something.
Rewards don't have to be material. You can also reward yourself with experience. For example, you could go to a concert after finishing a big job at work or school
Step 7. Spend time with good people
If you want to boost your self-confidence, surround yourself with positive, supportive, and kind people. Avoid people who are negative, mean to you, or seem to get in your way.
Step 8. Practice doing good
If you're trying to feel good about yourself, try to be kind to other people. You will feel comfortable helping others. Showing that you care about other people also raises the expectation that others care about you. Try:
- Practice doing good deeds, like paying for food for strangers.
- Visiting a sick friend or relative.
- Help clean the neighbor's yard.
- Volunteer for good causes in your community.
Method 2 of 3: Recognizing Your Good Qualities
Step 1. Make a list of positives
Taking the time to pay attention to the positive aspects of your life can boost your self-confidence instantly. By having good thoughts, you will push negative thoughts out. Try making a list:
- The things you are grateful for
- Good qualities in you (such as kindness, patience, and, caring)
- Strengths or talents you have (such as a good work ethic, intelligence, artistic or musical ability, academic or professional abilities, etc.).
Step 2. Try the practice of complimenting each other
Sit down with friends, family members, or people you trust. Take turns to give compliments or explain good qualities that other people have. This simple exercise will increase your self-confidence and that of others.
Step 3. Save the “positive scrapbook”
Make a collection of objects to appreciate you and the good qualities in you. This collection can include photos, letters, awards, souvenirs from places you've been, and other positives in your life. Be sure to add to these items and look back when you feel you need to boost your confidence.
This scrapbook doesn't have to be in the form of an actual scrapbook. All kinds of collectibles can be used, such as boxes or display shelves
Step 4. Create a confident calendar
Take a calendar, and for each day, schedule a small thing you can do to feel better. This could be an activity like “Making a favorite meal,” “Call a friend”, or “Walking in the park.” Mark things that were accomplished each day, and reflect on how you felt afterwards.
Method 3 of 3: Creating Positive Behavior
Step 1. Change negative thoughts
Problems with self-confidence often arise due to external stressors or crises. While you may not be able to prevent it, you have the control to think things through. When you feel a negative thought arise, stop and change it to something more positive.
- When you criticize yourself (such as "I'm so stupid"), ask yourself: "Is that true? Should I tell anyone else? Do I gain anything by thinking about this? What will I get if I stop thinking like this?”
- Focus on a slightly different thought so that it emphasizes how to view the situation positively. For example, instead of thinking, "I'm not going to let my mind wander at school anymore," try saying "I'm going to build a work ethic."
- Try this simple exercise. Fold a sheet of paper in half. On one hand, write down any negative thoughts about yourself. On the other hand, write down positive thoughts together to replace each negative thought.
Step 2. Accept failure
Nobody always manages to do everything. Failure is a part of life. But you can recognize and feel satisfied with your efforts when you try hard to do something. You can also think of ways to learn from failure.
For example, if you can't do a test (even if you've studied hard), take the time to recognize your efforts. You may have done better than if you didn't study at all and you can assess your mistakes to find out how to fix them next time
Step 3. Listen to yourself
The body and mind often suggest what to do, and listening to your needs can help you feel better. This might mean something as simple as sleeping more if you feel tired. But listening to yourself also means trusting and following your thoughts and instincts. For example, if you find yourself constantly thinking about getting closer to your family, it means something important to do.
Step 4. Don't compare yourself to others
Life is often very competitive, but it's important to set standards for yourself rather than trying to match others. Know that not everyone can always be the best at everything and everyone has their own strengths. If you feel like improving some aspect of your life, make it a goal to do so, and don't worry about what other people will do or think.
For example, if you want to improve your skills in a sport like basketball or tennis, set goals that you think will be self-improvement, rather than trying to match or beat others
Step 5. Seek support
If you think you have a problem with your self-confidence, you don't have to deal with it alone. Good friends and family will love to make you feel better, spend time with you, and share the good qualities in you. You can also find a local support group or counselor to work with and find ways to build self-confidence.
Step 6. Identify the source of the problem
Knowing what's causing you to feel inferior can help solve the problem. Sometimes a specific cause is difficult to identify, but common triggers are:
- High-risk situations such as a big task at work or school
- Significant changes in personal or professional life, such as the end of a relationship or the loss of a job
- Crisis such as illness, injury, financial problems
- Intimidation
- Negative perception of body appearance
