Menstruation is a normal part of most women's lives and is not something to be embarrassed or ashamed of. However, menstruation is a personal thing and you may feel a little uncomfortable and worried about telling someone, especially if that person is your boyfriend. This article will give you advice on how to talk about those “certain days” with men of different ages, plus information about intimacy while you're having your period.
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Method 1 of 3: Talking to Girlfriend in Middle School
Step 1. Think about how long your relationship will last
Like any other personal information, it's not wise to share something intimate with someone you don't know well. Boys at this age don't always show maturity and if this information makes him embarrassed, confused, or uncomfortable, he may not know how to respond.
- If you've been in a relationship for some time and feel like you know your boyfriend well, you can talk about the subject casually. You don't have to make a big deal about it because actually having a period is not a big thing!
- Try to remember how he reacted to other awkward moments in the past. Did he freak out, embarrass you, or tell all his friends? If so, you may need to hold back.
Step 2. Ask yourself why you want to tell him
Will it affect your relationship? Does menstrual pain make you cancel your appointment with him? Do you have mood swings and yell at him? If so, there's nothing wrong with sharing the information so he knows you didn't mean to offend him.
If the condition doesn't really affect the relationship, you are free to decide whether to tell him or not. If you want to keep it to yourself, you have the right to do so. Meanwhile, if you want to tell him, go ahead
Step 3. Don't use indirect terms and refer to menstruation as “red cross”, “get”, “monthly guest” or other euphemisms
It's possible he doesn't understand what you're saying, and misunderstandings like this can actually make your conversation awkward.
If you choose to tell your boyfriend, use clear words, but make sure he knows the information is private. Say something like, “I know I'm in a bad mood these days. I'm on my period and sometimes I get a little sensitive. I just wanted to tell me why. I want you to understand and not tell anyone."
Step 4. Don't be offended if he's embarrassed by the conversation
For boys, menstruation is a rather mysterious phenomenon and makes him intimidating. He might blush and say, “Oh. Yes. Okay,” and never mention it again. On the other hand, if he makes fun of you or says "that's disgusting", you don't need to be offended. It's not your fault if he chooses to act like a child. What you are experiencing is normal and not something disgusting. In fact, it means that you are very healthy.
- You can offer to explain what's really going on and tell you that almost every woman on this planet has experienced it, even the top singers she thinks are super sexy and the female politicians you both admire.
- If he is being very rude, don't hesitate to reprimand him. Tell him that having your period means you're a woman and you're not sure if you can continue dating a child. You can also tell him that you're not actually on your period, but that you're just looking for an excuse not to leave the house and go out with him.
Method 2 of 3: Talking to Girlfriend in High School or Older
Step 1. Tell him directly
There's no need to use medical terms or go into detail about what's going on, like how heavy your period is and such. It is possible that he has received sex education or has had other girlfriends, relatives or close female friends, who have mentioned this phenomenon before. So, don't exaggerate it too much.
- Say something simple, for example, “Hi, I'm on my period. So I'm not feeling well."
- You can also say, "Oh, I'm having a monthly guest," and he'll probably understand what you're talking about.
- Sometimes couples find the code funny or fun to call your period. So when you say, “red flag week”, he will understand what is going on.
Step 2. Tell your boyfriend how he can help
Even if she doesn't understand the process, she may know that menstruation can be a difficult time for some women. If your boyfriend cares about your condition, he may want to know what he can do to make you feel better. If your period makes you tired and you experience severe pain, ask if he would like to accompany you to spend time relaxing on the couch while watching a movie and eating ice cream.
- If you experience menstrual pain, ask your boyfriend to rub your back or stomach to relieve the pain.
- Tell him if you become very sensitive to touch. He may try to comfort you with a hug or other touch, but you have every right to say that you'd rather not have physical contact during your period.
- If you prefer to spend time alone during your period, gently tell him that you would really appreciate being left alone for a while.
Step 3. Think of a good way to break up with a boy who is acting like a child
If he can't accept the fact that you're on your period, he may not be the right girlfriend for you. He really isn't mature enough to have sex if you think about it. At this stage, a guy should accept the fact that menstruation is a normal part of a woman's life and the best thing he can do is provide support during this period.
Method 3 of 3: Having Sex During Menstruation
Step 1. Tell your partner that you are menstruating and talk about what makes you both feel comfortable
You can have sex while you're on your period, but the situation might be uncomfortable. Some men may not like the sight of blood, others don't care, but don't forget to consider how you feel yourself. If you don't like being touched during your period, you may just want to wait.
- If you want to have sex, but aren't sure what he's going to think, try saying, “I want to have sex, but I'm on my period right now. What do you think?"
- Don't feel obligated to do things you don't want to do.
- If you don't want to have sex, you can still do other things, like make out or just hug.
Step 2. Make sure you use contraception
Remember, you can still get pregnant during your period. There is a persistent myth that you can't get pregnant if you have sex while you're on your period. That's not true. Sperm can survive in a woman's body for up to 5 days and, if you happen to ovulate (release an egg) a little too early, fertilization will occur.
Although the risk of getting pregnant is slightly lower during the menstrual period, the chances of contracting an STI are higher. Because more bodily fluids are involved (STIs are found in body fluids such as sperm, vaginal fluids, and menstrual blood), it facilitates the transmission of STIs
Step 3. Spread out the towel to reduce the mess
To prevent blood stains on the sheets, place towels on top of the sheets and tissue in an easily accessible place in case you want to wipe your body afterwards.
