You should be worried if your boyfriend is cheating on you. Not everyone cheats. Not infrequently this worry is unwarranted. Maybe your boyfriend has to work late, or the other girl in the bathroom is his sibling. However, there are some strong signs to tell if your boyfriend is cheating on you. Everyone must have suspected his girlfriend was having an affair. Ask yourself before investigating your boyfriend's personal belongings. Does he love you? If so, it means that your boyfriend is still loyal and these signs are mere coincidences so it's a good idea to take some time to reflect on the positive things he does and how much he loves you.
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Method 1 of 5: Is There Anything Other Than Usual?
Step 1. Watch for changes in your boyfriend's normal routine
For example, is your boyfriend more often late for work on certain nights? Sometimes, a small change in routine is not a strong sign that someone is having an affair. However, you still need to be observant and alert.
Step 2. Determine if you feel like your boyfriend is cranky all of a sudden and likes to start fights
Sometimes, a cheating lover will shift the shame, anger, and guilt onto you by starting an argument, then ultimately blaming you. In short, your boyfriend is in need of venting his negative feelings.
Step 3. Think about whether your boyfriend has stopped talking to you
Does the normally chatty lover suddenly feel distant? The intimacy of your relationship may start to decrease because your boyfriend has found someone else.
Step 4. Find out if your boyfriend smells different when he's around you
It's a cliche, but that doesn't mean it's wrong. If you smell perfume that you don't use when you're around your boyfriend, it means he's been too close to the person wearing the perfume.
Step 5. Watch for changes in interests, including music, political views, social issues, favorite books, or movies
When a person spends a lot of time with another person, that person will adopt, or at least understand, the things that other person likes. If your boyfriend is interested in something he used to hate, he may have been influenced a lot by other people.
Method 2 of 5: Seeking Confidentiality
Step 1. Check the mutual trust in your relationship
Does your boyfriend let you touch or browse your phone, email, etc.? If your boyfriend hides his phone from you, or deletes messages before giving it to you, it means that he doesn't want you to see something.
Step 2. Pay attention to whether your boyfriend leaves the room while receiving the call
Whether when you ask who the caller or the sender of the message is, the answer given is "Nobody." This sign is also an important sign, because it means that your boyfriend has something to hide.
Step 3. Pay attention to girlfriend's reluctance when you come unannounced
Does your boyfriend get mad when you suddenly show up, or just text him when he's home and never call? This behavior is also a sign of cheating. For some reason, your boyfriend doesn't want you to come over to his house at certain times, and doesn't want to call you when you're home.
Step 4. See if your boyfriend has to "clean up" before letting you into his house, room, or car
If there are earrings lying in the front seat of the car, or condoms behind the bed, it will take extra time to tidy up those things.
Method 3 of 5: Listen to Your Boyfriend
Step 1. Pay attention to whether your boyfriend often badmouths other people
The boyfriend may say mean things to the person, but this person is constantly being talked about every day. Your boyfriend may try to make you think that the person doesn't like him and hopes that you don't suspect that person.
Step 2. Catch your boyfriend lying
Ask your boyfriend casually about where he is at any given time and let your boyfriend answer. Remember the answer, and ask again a few days later. If your boyfriend keeps lying, it's hard to keep him. If your boyfriend starts to get angry, this can be a strong sign.
Method 4 of 5: Paying Attention to Strong Evidence
Step 1. Watch for unclear bills or food receipts for two
If you keep finding McDonalds receipts for two, or bills for bracelets he never gave, be on the lookout.
Step 2. Find out if your boyfriend has an additional email account, or another internet account
At first, did your boyfriend change his email password so you couldn't see it? Usually, it's normal if your boyfriend doesn't want to give his password at first. However, if your boyfriend suddenly changes his email to protect the messages he sends or saved chats, you should be wary.
Step 3. Notice if your boyfriend's friends act differently in front of you
Have his friends started to treat you differently? Do your boyfriend's friends seem restless, nervous, or eager to leave when you take them in for a casual chat? Maybe they know something you don't.
Step 4. Notice if your boyfriend starts buying you gifts, or starts to mention the end of your relationship carefree?
Sentences like “I wish we broke up” are key signs. Your boyfriend is starting to feel guilty. This guilt is easily forgotten with good behavior or giving gifts to make your boyfriend seem unselfish.
Method 5 of 5: Asking Your Boyfriend for Explanation
Step 1. Listen to your boyfriend's "way" of explaining his behavior
If your boyfriend gives detailed and well-organized reasons, chances are your boyfriend is cheating on you. Chances are, your boyfriend has already foreseen your question and devised a story to cover up his behavior. Listen and record all the seemingly insignificant details (name, time, exact location, etc.) of the story in your mind.
Step 2. Watch your boyfriend's response
When your boyfriend finishes his story, does he shake his head, raise his hand, or other similar gestures to signal exhaustion, confusion, and disbelief at what just happened? Body language can indicate that your boyfriend is acting.
Step 3. After a few minutes of silence and your boyfriend's story is over, memorize one detail that sticks in your head
Don't forget details that aren't likely to scare or alert your boyfriend to your suspicions (you don't need to go into specifics). Ask abstract questions about the details you selected, such as when these details occurred. If your boyfriend is lying, your questions will reveal it.
Step 4. Watch what happens next
Does the situation get quiet and awkward or change before giving you an answer? Does your boyfriend stutter or speak nervously? Does the boyfriend look so surprised as if caught? If so, the reason is because when someone tells the truth, he doesn't have to think of an excuse and answers right away. However, if someone is lying, he or she should pause for a moment and retrace the story from the beginning. Since the "little" details you ask aren't important when making excuses, your boyfriend's answers can be unsatisfactory or dry.
Step 5. Do it again with detailed questions
Keep watching carefully. Do you see your boyfriend rethinking the reason? Is your boyfriend getting frustrated with your 'stupid questions' and/or asking “why are you asking?” If true, the step just now is a technique to buy time to create new details. This technique also helps bring the blame back on you and make you the “bad guy”. How many times have we heard, “What do you really mean?”
Step 6. Be prepared to be asked back
Usually, your boyfriend will start asking questions and say, “What? You don't believe me? You think I'm lying?"
Step 7. Wait patiently
Eventually, you'll hear the checkmate, “What? You think I'm cheating on you?!”
Step 8. Ask yourself, are you insinuating that your boyfriend is hiding something?
Do you direct the story to create an interrogation room then blatantly accuse your boyfriend of having an affair? Are you really accusing something? By asking this simple question, not only is the boyfriend's covert behavior exposed, but the reasoning story that was made collapses in an instant, no matter how neat the story is, and the girlfriend becomes overwhelmed. At this point, if you ask anything, your boyfriend will sweat, panic, or can't remember anything from the story. Contradictions will flow and soon you will have enough information to tell if your boyfriend is cheating on you.
Tips
- Be careful when catching cheaters. If he knows you suspect him, he will hide the situation completely. Your best chance is to spot a boyfriend's faux pas.
- Pay attention to the level of intimacy your boyfriend wants the suspect to be. If the level is low, they might have a crush on someone else.
- Apart from that, just get to know your boyfriend well. Know your boyfriend's personality and manners before you start dating. Does your boyfriend like to flirt before dating? Have your boyfriend cheated on you before? How many men/women have you ever dated? Some people stay loyal, some don't realize they are having an affair. It's very important to know what kind of person your boyfriend is.
- If your boyfriend cheats on you, just throw it out of your life. Just enjoy your daily life and be grateful for finding your boyfriend's lies
- Sometimes, cheaters basically like cheating. People are sometimes narcissistic and do not care about others, and there is no awareness of improving themselves. Keep people like this out of your life.
- Don't fight, just talk. You should be strong enough to discuss this matter.
- Ask your friend to monitor the situation. If you notice a change in your boyfriend, maybe your friends are aware of it and can help you. If your friend happens to be in the same class as your boyfriend, he can monitor your boyfriend's odd movements.
- Pay attention to the influence in your boyfriend's life. Are siblings, parents, etc. also cheated on or have been cheated on? This evidence is not strong, but it can influence the behavior of others.
Warning
- A liar can convince you to stop trusting your instincts when you bring up something. Liars can convince you that you are just being paranoid and all your suspicions are untrue. Be aware of this before you ask your boyfriend why he has to come out to take calls.
- If your boyfriend is cheating on you, he is most likely a liar too. If you're asking about signs you've seen, and then all of those signs are gone, your boyfriend is probably covering up everything you've noticed before.
