There are various reasons that a person wants to improve his personality. Maybe to make a good impression on new friends because they just moved schools or changed jobs. Maybe also because he just realized that he can still be a better person. For that, start by looking for opportunities to improve yourself and learn from mistakes. In order to be a fun person, build good relationships with other people, learn new things, and do activities you enjoy!
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Method 1 of 4: Making a Good Impression
Step 1. Greet people you meet with a smile
Greeting in a friendly manner is the easiest first step to improving your personality. You will seem friendly and kind if you smile when you meet someone. Show off your pearly white teeth and shake his hand.
Step 2. Be polite to everyone
Courtesy is a way of showing respect and kindness to others. Greet someone by mentioning their title, for example: doctor. Show respect for older people, for example by saying “father” or “mother” when greeting.
Show good manners when eating. For example: sitting with an upright posture, elbows do not touch the table, chewing food without clicking sounds, and not sipping drinks
Step 3. Ask questions that provoke conversation
When you meet someone, don't just tell them things about yourself. Ask questions so he can provide an explanation or opinion, instead of simply answering "yes" or "no".
- Start the conversation by saying: “You seem to be a music fan. Who is your favorite singer?”
- If you're having trouble having conversations with other people, join a community, for example: the Toastmaster group, which can help you build confidence and improve your public speaking skills.
Step 4. Keep promises
People with good personalities are usually very reliable and trustworthy. If you have made a promise to someone, don't break it with excuses! Keep promises to prove that you can be counted on.
For example: if you have agreed to meet up with a friend at 10 am, arrive a few minutes early. This shows that you value the time the other person gives you. If you promised mom you would take her to dinner on her birthday, do it! Don't forget to give her a birthday card
Step 5. Offer help to people in need
Be ready to help others whenever the opportunity arises. As soon as you see someone trying to pick up a book on a high shelf, help out as much as you can. You are sitting on the bus when you see a pregnant woman come in. Get up right away and offer him a seat! One aspect of personality formation is all the good that is done to others. So, start sharing goodness from now on!
Method 2 of 4: Developing Communication Skills
Step 1. Form a daily reading habit
Another way to improve personality is to expand knowledge. To stimulate your brain, read some articles on your phone to keep up with the latest news. You will have material for discussion with the interlocutor after reading a few chapters of the novel.
Step 2. Give your opinion on important issues
From the material you read, give an opinion on events that have occurred recently. Be prepared if other people argue with your opinion to keep the discussion going. Make sure you provide thoughtful and logical responses.
For example: “I can understand the arguments behind the actions that have been taken. Whatever the reason, I believe this country has made a grave mistake against minorities and we must take a stand against that decision."
Step 3. Be a good listener
When the other person is speaking, listen carefully so you can understand what he is saying. Don't just wait for him to finish talking and think about how you want to respond, but focus on listening to what he has to say. Every few minutes, repeat what he's saying to show you're still listening.
For example: say to the person you are talking to, “Yan, it sounds like you are upset because your boss prefers to promote a new employee instead of you. I understand how disappointed you are because of this decision.”
Step 4. Save your phone
To improve your personality, try to strengthen your relationship by keeping your device away for a while. You'll be more welcome if you want to interact directly with the people around you, instead of constantly reading messages or commenting on photos on social media.
Method 3 of 4: Enjoying Life
Step 1. Make new friends
Connecting with people you just met is an opportunity to make friends and improve your social skills. Make friends with people outside the community to broaden your horizons.
Make new friends by joining a school association, religious community, or hobby group, for example: a book-reading club
Step 2. Do activities according to hobbies
The most interesting and fun people aren't the ones who stay at home watching movies all day! They prefer to do fun things that are useful. Find an activity that you enjoy and take advantage of this opportunity to socialize while enjoying a hobby.
For example: start practicing horseback riding, swimming, or working out at the gym
Step 3. Set aside time for yourself each day
People with the best personalities generally have very happy lives. Even if it's only 15 minutes a day, make time to feel happy by doing fun activities.
- For example: playing basketball, enjoying ice cream, watching a movie, or playing a game with friends.
- If you're feeling upset, change the mood by watching a comedy movie or viewing funny pictures.
Step 4. Adopt a healthy diet
To improve your personality and mood, make it a habit to eat healthy foods. Research shows that consumption of fruits can increase motivation. So, get into the habit of eating apples, oranges, and bananas starting today!
Step 5. Meditate every day
Sometimes, a life full of chaos makes the mind even more chaotic. Unfocused thoughts sometimes lead to violence, carelessness, or the habit of grumbling. Set aside time each day to clear your mind and improve your mental health by meditating.
If you've never meditated before, start practicing using an app, for example: Headspace or Calm
Step 6. Reflect on the things you are grateful for each day
Every morning or before going to bed at night, take time to remember one thing that makes you feel grateful. If you do this every day, this habit will help you become a positive and grateful person.
You can give thanks while writing, meditating, or praying
Step 7. Make time to hang out with family and friends
The people who are able to make the best contribution to improving your personality are the closest people. Take advantage of every weekend to spend time with them, for example by visiting mom's house to give flowers or bring soup for a friend who is sick. They will appreciate your kindness and repay you later. Start doing the steps above for everyone to see how good your personality is!
Method 4 of 4: Targeting
Step 1. Determine the target you want to achieve
People with good personality will be motivated to achieve the best. Start by setting personal and professional targets so that you can make the most of your potential.
For example: exercising 3 times a week as a short-term target and getting a promotion in the office within 1 year as a long-term target
Step 2. Develop a work plan
In order to achieve your goals, you need to make a plan. Write down all the activities you want to do and the steps needed to make them happen. Celebrate every activity you can do well!
For example: so that you can get promoted, make the success of the presentation task you have to do as a target. Apart from that, there are still a few things you should aim for, for example: arriving at the office early each day, doing additional assignments, and taking training to improve skills
Step 3. Learn a new skill
Learning to do new things is an opportunity to increase persistence and improve work ethic which plays a big role in shaping one's personality. Decide what you want to learn or improve and do it right away.
