You think the nightmare is over after confessing your feelings to the woman of your dreams and asking her out? Make no mistake; oftentimes, both are just the beginning of your next bad skill: the success of the dating activity. For most people, the first date is indeed a terrible specter. If you feel that way, try reading this article for tips that will help you get through it with ease!
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Part 1 of 2: Getting Ready
Step 1. Determine your date location
The date you choose will determine the mood of your date. If you want to have a romantic date, try booking a table at a fancy restaurant. If you want to go on a casual date, consider taking her out for ice cream or going to a bar.
- If you want to have a casual date, don't choose a place that is too crowded. Be careful, you can get frustrated with having to spend hours waiting in line! After all, it will be even more difficult for both of you to communicate in a place that is too crowded and noisy.
- If you want to have a romantic and more formal date, make sure you choose a date location that fits your budget. Do not force yourself to eat dinner for millions of rupiah if your financial condition does not allow it.
Step 2. Decide whether you will pick her up or meet her in person at the date
Generally, it's a good idea to pick up your date at their house because it shows that you care about them.
After all, the two of you will have more opportunities to chat along the way to the date, right? At that moment, also ask his favorite type of music so you can play it in the car
Step 3. Consider buying her flowers
If you want to be romantic, try buying flowers and giving them the first time you pick them up. This action shows that you've been waiting for that date too.
- In fact, roses are the safest choice.
- If you feel this action is too old-fashioned or outspoken, don't do it.
Step 4. Make sure your appearance looks neat and impressive
In other words, wear proper clothes! If the two of you are having dinner at a fancy restaurant, don't wear the clothes you usually wear when you buy ice cream across the house. Take a clean shower, trim your hair, put on enough perfume and deodorant, brush your teeth, bring chewing gum, wear clean clothes and shoes, and don't forget to shave. Try harder to give your best appearance so that he knows that this date is important to you too. If you're not sure what to wear, consider the following standard rules:
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Casual:
This option is best suited for casual date activities such as eating ice cream at a simple cafe, an afternoon stroll in a city park, or casual drinks at a bar. For complete tips, try reading the wikiHow articles on how to dress casually for men. In general, what you can wear is a polo shirt, jeans or khakis, and comfortable shoes.
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Semi-formal:
This option is best suited for dinner and watching movies with your date. For tips on wearing semi-formal attire for men, read this article.
- Wear neat, clean, and decent clothes instead of the casual clothes you usually wear when you go to the supermarket.
Step 5. Confirm the date via text message
Don't leave it uncertain; at least, show that the moment of the date is also important to you so it must be realized.
Just send a short message that says, “See you at 7 o'clock!”
Step 6. Put the phone in silent mode
Constantly checking emails or texts on your phone while on a date will only show that you care less about the date. In other words, you are showing that your phone is much more important than him.
If you are waiting for a very important call, explain the situation to him
Part 2 of 2: Impress Women During Dating
Step 1. Pick her up at her doorstep instead of texting her and asking her out
Show your confidence; also show that you really care about them. If you want, you can even give her a flower at this stage.
Step 2. Open the car door for him and close it again when he is sitting in the car
Some people think the act is old fashioned, but many still consider it manly. Remember, your date may or may not like it; so make sure you always evaluate the reaction.
- If he reacts negatively when you do, allow him to open and close the car door himself next time.
- Walk around the front of the car so your route isn't too long (and you risk looking awkward).
Step 3. Open the doors of restaurants, cinemas, or other places for her
Most women expect their date to do that (especially since it's considered polite and manly). Always do that unless he's openly objecting to it.
Some women don't like it because they think that this demeans their human abilities. Don't worry, he'll definitely bring it up if he has any objections
Step 4. If the two of you are dining at an expensive restaurant, pull up a chair to make it easier for him to sit down
Although some people consider this behavior to be old-fashioned and too cliché, in fact there are still many women who consider this attitude to be polite and manly.
Step 5. When conversing with him, make sure you pay close attention
Remember, one of the most important things you can do on a first date is to show genuine interest in what he has to say. When he is talking, listen carefully to his words. Smile and ask follow-up questions to show that you're listening. If there are things you don't understand, ask to clarify the words. Also, share your experiences that are relevant to the stories. Remember, humans love to be heard and understood!
Always look him in the eye when he is talking. If you don't want to make eye contact for too long because you feel uncomfortable, try looking at the spot between his eyes
Step 6. Ask questions to get him to talk more about his life
Try to avoid controversial and overly sensitive topics such as religion or politics; in fact, both topics will almost certainly screw up your date. Instead, focus on discussing these four things:
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Family.
Ask questions about siblings, family, cousins, and uncles.
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Work.
Ask questions about his job and how he feels about it.
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Recreation.
Ask questions about the things he does in his spare time. Does he like sports? What's his hobby? What movies does he like to watch?
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Dream.
What does he want to do in the future? Asking him was the perfect attempt to get to know him better.
Step 7. Be polite and attractive
Have you found a common interest with him? If you have, try to always focus on those interests. For example, invite him to discuss funny and interesting experiences with the attraction, tips you came up with, and the best parts about it. Try returning the ball to him by asking, listening, and asking follow-up questions (How did you get interested in doing that? Why do you like that?).
- Tell him interesting, fun, and relevant things about your past. Also talk about things related to your family, work, things you do in your free time, and your dreams. If there is a dream you want to achieve, feel free to share it with him; doing so will make you look confident and passionate.
- Don't dwell on negative experiences. When approaching him, you should avoid talking about negative things; after all, you can always do that once you're in a formal relationship with him.
- Speak politely. Don't interrupt his words and don't take him into an argument.
- Share your interests honestly, openly, and passionately. Who knows you both will find the same attraction, right? After all, always remember that women like men who are passionate; how can you show it if you try to fake interest in his presence?
- In general, try your best to be friendly and polite. Observe the rules of politeness when eating such as not putting your elbows on the table and not chewing food with your mouth open or while talking.
Step 8. Offer to pay for dinner, cinema tickets, and other necessities on a date
However, always remember that some women do not like the offer. So that you don't end up hurting or offending him, at least ask first instead of taking the initiative to do it right away.
Step 9. Don't try to force his feelings
Go slowly; Remember, most women don't want to be kissed on a first date. If he's signaling that you can move at a faster pace in the relationship, or if he wants to hold hands with him, you'll be sure to tell by his body language.
- Going slowly shows that you don't just care about her body and beauty.
- Don't be too demanding. If you've been obsessed with him since the first time you saw him, at least don't show that obsession on a first date. Instead, implicitly emphasize the attraction by saying, "I'd love to have you go out tonight!"
Step 10. In the end, make sure you contact him after the date
This step needs to be done to increase your closeness with him! Whatever the medium, it doesn't matter; You can contact him via text message, email, or phone. Most importantly, make it clear that you had a great time dating him. If you want, also let him know that you want to date him again sometime.
Tips
- Be relaxed and casual. No need to dress up like a prince on a white horse on your date night! That's not to say you shouldn't pay attention to your appearance; at the very least, show that you're not trying too hard to impress him. Remember, at the end of the day what matters is your personality and character, not your outward appearance. If he likes you, chances are that the attraction didn't come from the clothes you wore on your date with him.
- Be yourself. Admit it, everyone wants to show off their strengths when dating for the first time with the woman of their dreams. Often, women are more attracted to a man who looks very polite and manly on a first date; however, there are also women who are more attracted to men who look "naughty" and playful. No matter how much you want to be the person he likes, always remember that “role-playing someone else” will not work effectively in the long run. Sooner or later, the woman will surely realize that the person she is dating is not the real you. Don't think of a relationship as a game; treat him (and yourself) honestly from the start.
- Put your ego aside, listen to his words, and treat him like a human being. Don't just stare at him speechlessly; trust me, no woman likes the act (especially if you're just getting to know her). If a woman wants something from you, try to fulfill her wish. For example, try taking her to a movie if she really wants to.
