When you don't know what to do on a date, you may feel anxious. However, dating is really just a way to get to know someone better. On a first date, you have to act like your real self but of course without crossing certain boundaries. In addition, you also have to show your date that you like him verbally and non-verbally through body language.
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Method 1 of 3: Know What You Have to Do
Step 1. Make a decision
If your date asks where you want to go, don't be afraid to make a decision. Your date is trying to be kind by giving you a chance to make a decision, and when you make your choice, you're showing him that you're an opinionated person.
Step 2. Choose an activity that you and your date can interact with
For example, watching a movie isn't a good idea for a first date because you don't have a chance to get to know him better. Try to go for coffee or visit a museum. Take time to chat and find a match.
Step 3. Don't be late
Showing up late shows that you don't value your date's time. Therefore, come on time or even come a little earlier than the appointed appointment.
Step 4. Be friendly
If you try to be nonchalant, you won't be able to make a connection with your date. You just have to be yourself as usual in any case.
For example, if your date says something about a movie you like, don't respond by saying, "Oh, I thought that movie was pretty good." Don't be afraid to show your true feelings, just say, "I really liked that movie! I really liked the development of the main characters in the story."
Step 5. Turn off the phone
You should turn off your cell phone unless you are a doctor on standby. Show your date that you value their time and can pay attention to them without being distracted by texts or calls.
Step 6. Take a deep breath
If you are too tense, your date will be disrupted. Take a moment to cool off so you can enjoy the date.
Step 7. Have fun
Dating should be something fun, not torturous. Plus, if you enjoy dating, your date will enjoy it too.
Step 8. Spend as much time listening to what your date is talking as you do
Every time you have a conversation, you have to give as well as take. You have to take the time to listen to your date, really listen to him. That is, you are listening carefully to what he has to say, not just thinking about what you are going to say next. Respond to him kindly to show that you listen to him.
If he says something like, "I love gardening," don't respond by asking how his thumb is black. Ask questions like, "Oh really? What do you usually grow? Do you have a big garden?"
Step 9. Be generous with compliments
Everyone loves to hear good things about themselves. Take the time to say what you think is good or unique about your date.
You can compliment her appearance by saying, "You have a cute smile." However, don't stop there. You can add to that by saying something like, "You seem like a really confident person. I like that."
Step 10. Be a confident person
Confidence makes you more attractive. So don't think about your weaknesses. Spread a smile, and put your beautiful feet in front.
One way to make yourself more confident is to think about the best-case scenario for how your date will go. Before dating, have an amazing date in your mind. This can make you want to work on it
Method 2 of 3: Pay Attention to Your Body Language
Step 1. Take the time to improve your body position when you are with him
Pay attention to the position of your midsection. When your belly button is facing your date, you are showing him that you are attracted to him. On the other hand, if you position your body slightly away, you are showing him that you are not interested in him.
Step 2. Raise your eyebrows
Raising your eyebrows shows interest or enthusiasm, so if you like your date, you can do this to show that you like him.
Step 3. Give him little touches
That is, give him a light touch in the first 15 minutes of your date. A handshake can be a start, but you can also lightly pat her arm or give her a gentle squeeze on her elbow.
Step 4. Touch your own face
Without realizing it, you may do this when you feel attracted to someone. This action shows that you want to be closer to your date, but since you can't just do that, touch your own face to show your interest.
Step 5. Stand up straight
If you stand or sit up straight, automatically your self-confidence also increases. Your date will notice this and may find your confidence attractive.
Step 6. Also, make sure you make eye contact with him
This action also shows that you are confident.
Method 3 of 3: Know What You Can Talk about
Step 1. Try asking some questions to start with
You don't want to jump into something too serious right away, but you also want to start a conversation. So, try asking interesting questions.
For example, you could ask, "What's your favorite book? Why do you like it?" or "Where did you grow up? What was it like living there?"
Step 2. Be honest
That is, don't hide facts about yourself when he asks. Everyone can tell a lie for a good cause, but if you say you are a doctor when in fact you are just a nursing assistant, this lie will turn against you in the future.
Step 3. Don't say, "I love you"
Getting too intimate too soon on a first date can frighten your date. Keep the first date calm and relaxed.
Step 4. Don't talk about all your personal information
During a job interview, you certainly won't talk about every mistake you've ever made at a job. This also applies to the first date. You do not need to reveal all your shortcomings and mistakes. In fact, it's not a good idea to talk about such things. You just want to make a connection with your date, and saying too much too soon about things like that can actually push him away.
Step 5. Say a few things about yourself
Your date will want to hear something about you. Don't always ask your date back questions. Tell him about who you really are.
For example, if he asks, "What kind of movies do you like?" Don't just respond with, "Oh, you know, I like almost all kinds of movies." Instead, you might respond with, "I really like feature films, like musical comedies and horror films. In fact, last night I watched Hairspray and Woman in Black. How about you, what did you like?"
Step 6. Take the time to say goodbye after the date
Saying goodbye after a date is the last impression you leave. Don't just say goodbye quickly. Take a moment to give your date a hug, a kiss, or a handshake. In addition, you can also briefly talk about your plans for future relationships.
