There's no magic secret that separates the cool from the uncool, or the one that attracts multiple women at one time. Forget about fashion fashion and fit in with the right group. You can get the attention you want if you focus on showing the world that you have confidence in and interest in the people around you.
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Part 1 of 2: Getting Girls to Notice You
Step 1. Take care of your personal hygiene
You have to look after your appearance if you expect girls to be interested. The first step is to shower regularly, brush your teeth every day and apply deodorant.
Yellow stains in the armpits may be caused by anti-perspirant deodorant. Depending on how much you sweat, it may be better to use a different brand of antiperspirant deodorant, and use light undershirts to prevent moisture
Step 2. Pay attention to the contents of your wardrobe
If any clothes are stained or tattered, throw them away and replace them. You don't have to buy expensive fashions or copy those worn by cool guys, just to show that you think about your style.
- Wear clothes that make you comfortable, not too tight or too loose.
- Don't wear the same clothes for a long time because it will cause a smell or other people will start commenting about it. Ideally, toss your shirt in the laundry basket after one use, and your pants after three uses.
- Ironing your clothes doesn't hurt, especially when you're going to an event.
Step 3. Choose an attention grabber (optional)
It's not worth paying attention to, but if you want a reputation as a cool guy, it might work if you want to stand out from the crowd. This could be a shirt with a funny joke, a light-colored badge, or a pair of glasses. Choose something you feel comfortable wearing, so people start to associate you with your unique style.
Try your choice on a close friend first if you're not sure. There is a very fine line between standing out in a crowd and looking stupid. You can even cross that line and turn your attention to your advantage, but that requires a lot of confidence
Step 4. Practice a confident posture
Confident body language can make a surprising difference in how approachable you appear, it can also boost self-esteem. Stand and sit up straight. Shoulders should be pulled back and in line with your hips, with the back of your neck firmly against them.
- When standing with nothing to do, find a position that makes you comfortable, so that you don't move awkwardly. If you can't stop moving the pedestal back and forth, lean slightly against the wall.
- If you have trouble keeping your hand still, hold onto a drink or other object around you. Don't place the object in front of you, and don't use anything distracting like a cell phone because both mistakes will knock you out of your surroundings.
Step 5. Pay attention to your surroundings
Keep your chin and head up when walking or standing, and look at the people around you. You'll see more opportunities at a time like this than if you daydream or rush out into the street. A simple change in body language will make you appear more confident and approachable, two traits that are important for attracting social attention.
Step 6. Boost your confidence with visualization
If you find yourself stuttering or shaking when talking to women, take some time alone to build your confidence. Sit in a private place and close your eyes, imagining yourself feeling completely comfortable and at ease. Keeping that feeling in mind, imagine you walking up to a woman you've never met and introducing yourself. Repeat this exercise every day for a week, then try it in real life.
If you still don't feel ready, try making eye contact with a stranger on the street and saying "Hello." Smile and don't let yourself look the other way before they reciprocate
Part 2 of 2: Interacting with Girls
Step 1. Set up conversation triggers
You may think you're not a skilled speaker, but a little preparation can change that. Remember that the initial conversation you have with someone doesn't have to explore deep-seated issues like faith, political attitudes, or dreams in life, unless they're interested. It's like a quick way to get the conversation flowing. Here are some examples of ways you can prepare, depending on your age and the type of people you approach:
- Listen to famous music and think about what you think of it. If you don't like it, find a band you like and write about how it is similar to other popular music, and why you like it.
- Watch a movie currently showing in theaters, or a show on television
- Read the news or newspaper every day to keep up with local events or news.
Step 2. Prepare a story about yourself
Prepare 2 or 3 interesting stories about your life to tell when the conversation stops. This is a great way to show that you are a cool and interesting person.
- If you have an interest in a hobby, talk about it. Most people seem more attractive when they talk about something they love.
- Jokes are good weapons, if used properly. Try joking or make funny observations about the situation you are in. Flirting with women or other people around you should be kept to a minimum, and should always be cheerful, not the other way around.
Step 3. Join the conversation
Contemplative men don't look cool or attractive. Walk up to people and greet them, and make an effort to listen to the conversation and then respond to it. The more people you interact directly with, the more you will be noticed by others around you.
Don't think of this as choosing a target. Talking to guys is fine, as long as they don't try to overshadow you or dominate the conversation
Step 4. Make eye contact and smile
When you're looking for someone to approach, look at their face, not their shoes or the ceiling – and certainly not any other part of their body. When you make eye contact with someone, smile and say hello. Look the person in the eye during the conversation.
Step 5. Lean slightly forward while speaking
When you are in a conversation with a woman, tilt your head and shoulders slightly forward. This is a sign that you are engaged in the conversation, and interested in continuing it.
Step 6. Give praise
A small compliment is a good first step rather than a long story about how long you've been around him or how you were blown away when you saw him. It's hard to give compliments that don't sound generic or forced, but with some practice you'll get a smile on their face, showing that you're taking the right steps.
- If you know something about his job or what he does, praise it over his appearance.
- Try to compliment her unique beauty, and focus on something she can control, like her hairstyle or clothes choices.
- A direct statement is better than a cheesy bullshit or ridicule. “You seem so warm and welcoming that I wanted to come over and introduce myself” won't win any prizes, but it's a better way to start a conversation than “Heyyy sexy”.
Tips
- Never ask people if you are cool or not. Stay confident.
- Everyone in every city in every country has a different definition of cool. Don't try to attract them all. Choose a method that is convenient for you and go for it.
