Is it hard to get girls in middle school? Well, here's how it goes, whether he's popular or shy, athletic or nerdy. With a little effort, you can impress him more than any other guy.
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Part 1 of 3: Know Yourself
Step 1. Be yourself
If you try to be someone else, he may not like it. If you want to attract him, it will be because he sees something inside of you that attracts him. Don't imitate other people. Be comfortable with who you really are, and your confidence will pay off. Girls like quirky and confident men, who make their hearts beat.
- Don't act like you're desperate. Girls like attention, but she doesn't like desperate guys. A large proportion of girls are afraid to ask a guy out, so show you like him, but don't overdo it. Don't make him everything, or it will be too obvious.
- Don't show off. Many men think that this is a good thing to do, but this is wrong. The problem with showing off is that the girl will think you are arrogant and self-obsessed. It's okay to do what you're good at, but don't overdo it just to get his attention.
- So casual. Don't overdo things like, "Hope she likes my clothes!" Stay relaxed and nice with him. Girls like men who are natural. If you have trouble keeping your cool, think of him as a friend rather than a romantic excuse. Don't be awkward and too romantic.
Step 2. Care about your appearance
Maybe you think she likes the look of a certain guy, like a rocker for example. When he has that preference, you don't have to be like that. You better look better, and take care of yourself. If you do this, it doesn't matter how you look in front of him. Your appearance attracts him, your personality makes him stay.
- Take a shower, wash your face and hair. Take a shower every day, wash your face twice, and wash your hair every day. If you have acne, see a doctor. Pay attention to your hair.
- Do not overwhelm it with cologne or fragrance. Ads are often wrong, girls want you not to smell good, not to smell very good. Don't worry, if you shower regularly, a simple deodorant will suffice.
- Exercise. If you need to lose a little weight, do it. Swimming, cycling are good examples. Even walking 15 minutes a day is a great start. But whatever you do, don't overdo it. He didn't want the Incredible Hulk as his girlfriend.
- Start eating healthy foods. Instead of fatty burgers and sweets, try to eat fruits and vegetables, as well as protein. Not only will you feel fresher, you will also look fresher.
Step 3. Be a good man
In real life, girls don't like arrogant guys like on TV. Or if they like it, they will quickly realize that they can't have that kind of relationship. Girls who deserve to be chased like guys who respect them. So kind, polite and gentle. This will help the relationship grow, and make girls want to be around you.
- So a real man. Don't joke about her body. Let him see you as a respectful and classy man. Open the door for him. Give him the advice and guidance he needs. Only say things that are comfortable for others to hear.
- Stay on his side. If he is in an argument or argument, be there to support him. If someone says bad things about him, help him. Do this for other people you care about too.
- So generous. Don't think you are the center of the world. Always there to help others. Try volunteering, donating blood, or joining a charity.
Step 4. Improve the little things you can improve on
The good thing about love is that it makes you a better person. Not just for him, but for yourself too. Loving another person will motivate you to correct your flaws and start trying to make them invisible.
- If you are easily emotional, calm down a little. Girls don't like guys who suddenly get angry. Pay attention to what triggers you and avoid it.
- Improve your speaking skills. If you're planning to impress him, you need to have a few conversations with him. Try a good topic of conversation, funny stories, and calm your panic when around him.
- Learn things that no one else in your class can. Don't be arrogant about it. Pretend you do it in front of friends. You can learn magic, ball throwing, musical instruments. No matter what it is, it will show your personality from what you choose.
- Pursue hobbies and other interests. There are many things to learn in this world. Good for taking part in extra-curricular activities. If he notices how much you learn about your hobby, he'll be impressed.
Part 2 of 3: Getting Close to Him
Step 1. Don't suddenly ask if he likes you
You have to wait for the moment to ask him out. It's like a racing race, you have to warm up your engine before leaving. Just like a girl, pay attention to the signals, build a comfortable relationship, and then ask her out.
- Be an observer. Don't approach a girl who already has a boyfriend, or if you already have one. Don't create unnecessary drama. Keep it to yourself for now.
- Look at his body language. If he looks at you in class, or talks more than usual, this sign means he may already like you. So, this is great! If one hand runs through her hair while looking down at her feet, this is a good sign. Here are some signs
- He laughs at what you say even if it's not very funny.
- He maintains eye contact with you when talking to you.
- He touches you while talking to you.
- He asks you to help him, such as looking after his bag or guarding a seat for him.
Step 2. Befriend him
Think of him as a friend, it will become easier to talk to him. In addition, you will get the opportunity to get to know him better. Girls need to be able to trust a guy, and getting that friendship will help you earn his trust. Be there when he needs help and don't expect anything in return.
- Spend time with him. Ask him to help with your problem. If you sit next to him, it's easy to get his attention. Ask for help, make eye contact. Praise him for helping you. For example, if he's helping you with math, say "Thank you, you're really good at math!"
- Help him when he needs help. If he asks you to do something, this is usually a good sign that he is interested in you.
- Keep an eye on his face. Girls hate when a man perverts her, such as paying too much attention to her body. Look into his eyes when he speaks. Don't look at him strangely. Treat him with respect like a good friend.
- Do things like a group. First, try to involve him in group activities where you can get to know each other. Do something with your guy friend and invite him and his friends along. Go to the movies together, to the beach, or to a baseball game.
Step 3. Get to know his friends
Be careful with this. Don't be too nice to them, or he'll think you like them more than he does, and don't say you know other girls like him, as this will disappoint him. Do your best to get to know his friend and introduce him to your friends.
- Again, the problem is trust. If his friend likes you, he will like you more because he trusts his friend. If his friend doesn't know you, he certainly doesn't have a second opinion about you.
- Get to know other girls. If you can't get her and her group together and feel like she doesn't like you, try making friends with other girls. Don't be flirty with them. Just be friends and it will show him that you can get along with other girls.
Step 4. Start flirting with her gently
Slow down, don't rush. Start a little flirty when you've made some kind of friendship with him. If you haven't done this, it will be difficult.
- Try to make him laugh or smile. Most girls like guys with a sense of humor. Don't be afraid to laugh with him or even laugh at yourself. A good sense of humor is the key!
- Compliment him on hair, clothes or smile. Again, don't make this too obvious. Girls love to be complimented. If he's already flirting with you, then you should compliment him back by saying, "Wow, you have nice eyes," "You have great hair," or "You just got a haircut?"
- Find out what makes it special. If a girl stresses about her appearance, compliment it. If he draws a lot, make him feel like a great painter. Modify what you say according to how he sees himself.
Don't compliment her feminine looks like her chest or butt. It's better to stay classy and respectful. Just compliment her hair, eyes, smile, and clothes
Step 5. Break the touch barrier slowly
If you're both talking, it's okay to touch it a little to emphasize the point you're making. It's fine to hold her hand, shoulder or back.
"Accidentally" grab his shoulder, or arm (not his body) when you're looking at the same thing and look at him with a smile. If he likes you, then he will make eye contact, smile and walk away
Step 6. Avoid distracting and boring him
You try to impress him, but sometimes it's hard to get close to him while respecting his privacy. Don't overwhelm him with your attention. You may think this is okay, but if he finds it annoying, it's certainly not a good sign.
- Don't ask the same thing twice. "Your favorite color is green, right?" is a bad example. Girls have good memories. Avoid short conversations with short answers. Use why and how questions. Start a conversation that interests him. Don't interrupt when he's talking.
- Keep it a little mysterious. Girls love a little mystery in men. They are obsessed with strong/silent handsome men. If she's not like that, she usually has the sense of humor or the shrewdness to appeal to her. Whatever it is, don't be easy to read. Don't tell him everything you do. Don't always be available all the time. Humans are attracted to things that are not fully understood.
Part 3 of 3: Taking the Next Step
Step 1. Pay attention to the sign
If he starts wearing cute clothes or perfume, tries to talk to you more, etc., he likes you. Tell him he's attractive. Compliment her appearance. Girls try to look attractive for a reason. It's helpful to give him credit for his efforts.
Step 2. Take him out
The next step in a relationship is here: you're pretty sure he likes you, and you want more. Find a nice, private place to take her out. Make sure nothing distracts from your appearance. Remember, girls expect you to take the initiative.
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You don't have to call it a date. When asking her out, try to be a little casual. If he asks if you asked him out, say yes. Here's what you can say to him:
- "Hey, I have 2 tickets to the cinema to see the movie we talked about yesterday. Do you want to go this Friday?"
- "Hi, maybe the exhibition is a bit ordinary, but my friend has a booth there, would you like to come with us?"
- "Hey. I was thinking of watching a football game this Friday. Want to go with me?"
Step 3. Be calm when asking him out
Asking him out is an art, not a science. But there are things you can do to make sure you have the best chance of impressing him and getting that date.
- Practice first. Try it in front of the mirror. Practicing your sentences will make you more confident when the time comes. Besides, you won't stutter. Make sure your questions come out as smoothly as possible.
- Ask him directly, not text messages. Text messaging is easy, but it's not effective. The problem with texting is that it's easy for him to say no, because he doesn't have to deal with your emotional reactions. So make sure you ask directly.
- if you don't dare to ask directly, don't ask your friends to do it. He will think this is a joke and not consider it. Wait until you are brave enough. The closer you are to him, the easier it will be to ask him out.
Step 4. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst
You don't have to worry too much if he doesn't say yes, for whatever reason, leave it. Don't be too sad, tell him it's okay, and walk away confidently.
- Make sure you don't beg him to consider this. Begging doesn't help. Begging him is also bad because it takes away your chances in the future.
- If he says yes, remember to ask for his phone number and give him yours too. You want to be able to call him. Don't call him all the time, do this every now and then to tell him the details of the date.
Step 5. Take her on a date
Dating is where you get to know each other and try to get closer. For a first date, try going to places with lots of people, such as cinemas, zoos, malls, and swimming pools. If you are confident in your ability to talk for long, take her to a park or restaurant.
- Pay for him. Whether it's a movie ticket, or a ticket to the zoo, a meal at a restaurant, you want to show that you're a real man and you're a philanthropist. Paying is also a great way to show her it's a date without telling her, if she doesn't know.
- Don't get too close to him. Give him some privacy. If you watch a movie, don't hold his hand right away, if you walk, don't hold his hand right away. Your patience will bear fruit, if he is getting comfortable, he will be more open to respond to your affection.
- Smile, relax, and pay attention to what he has to say. Show him you are happy to be with him by smiling. Don't be too nervous on a date, he's just as nervous as you are. Finally, pay attention to what he says. If this date works, you've hit your target, he likes you!
Tips
- Be sweet, please him and explain why you like his hair or other things. Girls love to hear that you care about them.
- Don't invite this girl to your birthday party if she's the only girl there, or there all your male friends are just playing boy games.
- If you've ever seen him sad or lonely, ask him why. Do not be shy. If he says it's okay, don't walk away. Either sit with him, or gently make him say what's the matter.
- Make him a friend, and let him get to know you well before telling him you love him.
- Know that his best friend will usually approach you and ask questions or involve him. So be nice to them and answer in a friendly manner.
- If he looks at you you notice it and he immediately turns away, maybe he likes you.
- If you play sports with him, don't be arrogant. He can think you are selfish. For example, you play soccer and you score a goal, don't run and dance. Clap your partner's hand and get back to playing.
- If he's uncomfortable with a topic of conversation, try changing it. For example, if her parents are divorced, she may not want to talk about it.
- Girls usually like music. Find his favorite music and start discussing it with him.
- Don't bother him. Don't call him too often, you can talk to him every day, but don't call more than once a day.
- If you do something embarrassing in front of him, don't be shy. Leave it alone and make it look like it doesn't affect you.
- If you go to a party with him, make sure when you meet his parents, act like a real man. You don't need to wear a suit, but dress neatly.
- Give him space. If he's still thinking about dating, don't rush.
- Relax, and even if you make a mistake, stay calm around him.
- If he drops his pencil, he is usually seeking your attention. Show him you caught the message by helping retrieve it and return it to him. Make sure you smile.
- Don't forget, most of the time, girls are good at keeping secrets. Who knows, maybe he's always liked you? You just never know.
- Don't talk about sports or video games with him. Usually he is bored. If he shows interest, then that's fine.
- Get to know her parents and show them that you respect her daughter.
- You'll know if he's interested, if he turns around to talk or meet you. For example, your class and him are opposite, then he pretends to go to the bathroom near your class to smile at you, he must like you.
- If he asks who you like, stay calm. Just say "It's okay" with a smile.
- Different girls like different guys. Don't be offended if you don't like a guy like you.
- So original. Girls like men who are not like other men. Don't copy other men's styles. Be casual, calm, friendly, relaxed and not lazy.
- If you ask her out and she refuses, because she doesn't want to date someone, just say "when you want to go on a date with someone, I'll be right here." Mostly he would smile and say "Awww, that's so cute."
- Give him a cute name like baby or cutie, some girls will be flattered when you do.
- Try doing normal things like scratching your ear while maintaining eye contact, if he imitates you, he may like you. This is not always true, so don't rely on it.
- Sometimes, but not always, making him feel bad will make him like you even more, but don't overdo it like coming to school with too many bandages on hand for no reason.
- Be yourself. Girls don't like guys who lie to look cool. Always honest.
Warning
- Don't talk just to impress him. This is the dumbest thing that could be done.
- Don't pick your face, ears or body, it's a bit disgusting for women, especially if you touch them.
- Don't touch or look at her in an inappropriate way. He can think of you as a pervert.
- Don't be negative, always think and say positive.
- Don't say harsh jokes just to be funny, all girls find this annoying and rude.
- Don't try to take things from him, hit him, or do anything to annoy him because he won't like it.
