Being the guy that girls like is challenging and sometimes confusing. Also, getting their attention in a positive way is not always easy. If you say or act the wrong way, the girl you want will reject you and immediately walk away from you. To get girls to like you, learn how to be a polite and charming guy who can treat them well.
Part 1 of 3: Treating Girls Well
Step 1. Be yourself
To get girls to like you, just be the way you are. If you try to sound nice but are just pretending, the relationship won't last because you can't keep lying.
- Don't follow the advice of men who appear in magazines or movies. Show a reasonable attitude according to your personality.
- When chatting with a girl, don't worry about what you want to say. However, you should consider who you are talking to before responding. Don't say anything rude or offend others. For example, there are jokes from men that are inappropriate to tell to female friends.
Step 2. Tell the truth
People who lie, brag, or exaggerate will eventually get caught. Lies make people distrust you. Also, be honest with yourself. If you're not serious about being in a relationship, don't say you want to meet his parents or travel together.
Research shows that honesty fosters mutual trust that makes relationships closer
Step 3. Be polite and discreet
Manners and respect are not something that goes out of style. There are several ways to show genuine concern for a girl so that she feels special.
- Open the door for her, help her carry a heavy bag, or provide unsolicited assistance.
- Help him fix things he hasn't had time to fix or he doesn't know how to fix.
Step 4. Show interest in him personally
Ask about his daily life and the things that are important to him. Don't talk too much about yourself and let him talk about himself. Try to show that you are interested in him personally.
Step 5. Give heartfelt genuine concern
When he's talking, make eye contact to let him know you heard what he's saying. Ask questions on the topic at hand or provide feedback that shows that you are actively engaged in the conversation.
Pay attention to body language and verbal cues as the two of you chat. Don't be busy fiddling with your cell phone, reading the newspaper, watching TV, or looking elsewhere because it's rude. Plus, you don't seem to care about him or what he has to say. It seems like he doesn't like you when he acts like this
Step 6. Be patient
Don't make direct physical contact if you don't know if he's interested in you. You should be patient and keep your attitude in order to win her heart. The first step is to show your interest in him in various ways, such as complimenting his appearance and personality.
Part 2 of 3: Becoming an Attractive Person
Step 1. Show a tactful attitude
Remember that a negative person will be shunned by everyone. You are more likely to be liked if you are kind, positive, and friendly. Everyone looks more attractive when they smile. The more sincere you smile, the more attractive you will look. A smile can be used as makeup if you feel unattractive.
Step 2. Show confidence
You seem more confident if you show good body language. Get in the habit of standing or sitting with an upright body, pulling your shoulders back slightly, and holding your head up. Show respect to the other person by making eye contact. You'll sound nervous or anxious if you don't want to look at the person you're talking to.
Step 3. Keep your appearance neat and attractive
In order to appear attractive, a neat appearance with the right clothes is more important than just highlighting the physical aspects that cannot be changed. Keep your body clean by bathing twice a day, brushing your teeth, and shaving. Set aside time to style and cut your hair. Wear clothes that make you look more attractive. Girls definitely pay attention to your taste and fashion style.
Part 3 of 3: Avoiding Rejection
Step 1. Give a sincere compliment
Do not give compliments that seem cheap or imitate the style of seducing women on television or on the internet. If you want to get his attention, don't use clichés. Think of a better way to compliment him. Tell him that he laughs a lot or has a great sense of humor to show that your attraction to him is not purely physical.
Step 2. Give him the freedom
Let him spend time with friends to let him know that you are not a possessive man. Having personal activities aside from being in a relationship is beneficial for both of you. Don't be jealous because she has a lot of male friends. Jealousy makes you instantly rejected.
Step 3. Respect the decision
Don't force your will. Everyone is free to make decisions and others must respect those decisions.
If he refuses your request, accept it gracefully. Don't be angry if he rejects you. One day, maybe he will change his mind if you respect his decision. If you are aggressive or talk bad about him, it will be bad for you. Other girls will find out that you're behaving badly, thereby closing the chance to befriend them
Step 4. Don't be over-the-top
Instead of chasing the girl you want and then avoiding her because you don't feel right, it's better to pretend to be avoiding or keeping your distance so she knows that you don't want to go after her. However, don't be impressed by the rejection.
- Just like men, every girl is unique. Certain approaches are better than others.
- Do not push yourself. You don't have to be the most attractive man in the world. Be the most likable guy in your neighborhood.