Making your partner feel significant is vital in a healthy relationship. While every guy is different, there are some basic attitudes, words, and actions that you should consider if you really want to make sure he feels loved by you.
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Part 1 of 3: With a Sweet Attitude
Step 1. Make dinner
You don't have to be a great chef, or you don't have to cook something really complicated. But the time and effort you put into arranging a meal already shows a certain level of care when it's prepared for someone, and that also shows how much you love him.
For a more special impression, find out what his favorite food is and try to cook it. You'll have to cook other meals every now and then, but mastering his favorite foods will show that you're putting in more effort for him
Step 2. Offer to co-pay
All relationships have their own kind of financial burden. Often, the male side takes the majority of the burden. Even if he enjoys doing it, you can still show your concern for his needs and situation by offering to pay every few times. He may or may not accept your offer, but if he knows that you are willing to pay as much as he is willing to pay for you, it will make him believe that you love him solely because of him, not because he spoils you.
Know when to back off. Some guys enjoy taking on the role of being in charge of financial matters, and if that dynamic works for your relationship, you shouldn't have to push him to let you pay. Offer, and if he politely declines, leave it as he pleases
Step 3. Do something she enjoys
Chances are, there's at least one thing that he enjoys doing but that you find less or no fun at all. Find out what his hobby is and tell him that you want to do it with him. When the time comes, follow it without complaining. Your willingness to put his needs before your own will show your love for him.
For example, offer to go to a concert of his favorite band even if you hate the music, or ask him to take you to a game of his favorite baseball team even if you find the sport boring
Step 4. Call him
When you are far apart, pick up the phone and call him. This is important even if the two of you live together and are only apart during work hours. A quick call just to let him know he's on your mind will show that you're still "with him" even if you're a few pounds physically apart.
But of course know what is enough, and what is too much. Calling once during business hours is sweet, but calling every hour can be a nuisance
Step 5. Give him a small note
Love letters are a good idea if you live apart, but if you live together or at least see each other every day, try tucking a short note in his pants or coat pocket when he's not looking. The note will likely make him smile the next time he finds it.
Step 6. Buy your favorite snacks
If your boyfriend has a favorite snack or food, buy one and bring it along, especially if you know he's tired or very stressed. It's simple, but that simplicity comes with a lot of care, and it's that attention that lets your boyfriend know that you love him.
- If you happen to be good at cooking, you can make your own favorite food instead of buying it.
- This favorite snack can be something sweet and indulgent, like a pint of your favorite ice cream, or something more practical like pizza or takeaway food from a fast food restaurant.
Step 7. Steal a surprise kiss
The longer your relationship, the more likely it is that you will both fall into a routine. A kiss or similar expression of affection can confirm the sincerity of an attitude if given at the most unexpected times.
- Kiss her cheek or lips as you walk past her, or squeeze her arm affectionately in the same way.
- Try teasing him with your feet under the table at a restaurant or grabbing his hand while walking.
Step 8. Give massage
You don't have to be a great masseuse to give a proper massage. Do some reading to find out what you should do, then when he comes home after a long day at work, surprise him by offering him a massage to relieve his tiredness. The care in your attitude requires no words, but because massage is also a physically intimate act, your partner will know that you value and love their bodies too.
Part 2 of 3: With Meaningful Words
Step 1. Tell him how important he is
One of the simplest ways to make a guy feel loved is to say "I love you" directly. Direct expressions of love and affection may seem empty when there is no supportive action, but expressing love with words is still an important sensitivity. They are statements that focus all of your loving actions into clear and tangible meaning.
Don't be monotonous. Saying "I love you" is important, but there are some sentiments you can use to express love that is just as meaningful. Try something like, "I'm so grateful you're in my life," "I'm totally in love with you," or "You're so important to me."
Step 2. Compliment the way he moves or looks
For better or for worse, women often receive compliments from men about their appearance and gestures. Guys rarely hear compliments like this, but being a visual being, he's usually happy to know that you like what you see as much as he likes what he sees in you.
- For example, if he plays sports a lot and you usually go out to support him, say something like, "I love watching you play soccer" or "I love seeing the way your body moves when you play."
- If she's the artistic type and isn't physically active, you can compliment her body by saying something like, "I love watching your hands when you play the piano."
- Even simple compliments like “I love looking into your eyes” or “I can see your smile all day long” can work wonders.
Step 3. Let him know how much you want him
Tell him that he excites you. In a strong romantic relationship, emotional and physical love go hand in hand. You do need to express love on an emotional level, but you also need to express it on a physical level. Say that you really like his body and enjoy feeling his body pressing against yours, that's important.
Of course, you can usually convey these feelings through body language and behavior. But like emotional love, it's equally important to be honest about how you feel physically
Step 4. Boast him to others
When the two of you are with other people, sing praises to them. Talk about how great he is at his job, how passionate he is about his hobby, or how great he is at making you feel loved. These are great things to say in person, but telling the other person in front of him will let him know how proud you are to be with him.
Step 5. Thank him
Express your sincere gratitude often. “Thank you” should be part of everyday conversation. Tell him how much you appreciate good treatment when he does something considerate. If he does something for you that he's used to, and you're usually ungrateful, change it by saying you appreciate it, even if you don't always say it.
Step 6. Apologize
All couples have to fight. When you have a disagreement, be the first to apologize, even if it wasn't your fault. It's not always necessary to apologize first, but sometimes you have to be the first to do so. An apology will show him that he is more important to you than your own ego, and also let him know that this relationship is something you want to work on together.
This doesn't mean you can let him go astray. If you feel like he'll never apologize if you don't apologize first, or worse, you know he's not apologizing even though you said "I'm sorry," there may be a problem in your relationship that needs to be addressed. analyzed and improved
Step 7. Remind him that you are by his side
When life is stressful, say, "I'm here for you." Maybe he's still hesitant to show his weak side, but telling him that you love him when he's feeling weak can really reassure him.
Step 8. Don't embarrass her
What you don't say can be just as important as what you say. Serious issues in the relationship should be discussed, but avoid nagging, embarrass, or embarrass him for trivial reasons.
Statements intended to humiliate are critical without anything constructive. For example, “You are so cold; do you actually have feelings or not?” would be an embarrassing statement. On the other hand, “I feel hurt when you just walk away without saying what's wrong,” is a statement that shows the actual hurtful behavior and opens up a discussion about the issue
Part 3 of 3: With Extra Care
Step 1. Make him a priority
No matter how busy your life is, make sure he knows that you have time for him and will always do whatever you can to clear his schedule for him. Don't make him feel like he has to beg for your attention. Let him know that he is one of the most important parts of your life.
Step 2. Be a loving lover
Greet him with a kiss, every morning, night, and when parting. Lean in his arms when you are side by side. Long in his arms when hugging. Physical affection denotes physical love, and for a man in a romantic relationship, this physical dimension of love is just as important as the emotional dimension.
Step 3. Get to know him
This is important regardless of how long you've been together, but it's even more important when the two of you are just starting to fall in love. Find out what he likes and doesn't like. Ask about the past and plans for the future. Trying to get to know him deeply and thoroughly will let him know that you are serious about him.
Part of getting to know a guy is letting him talk a lot about the things that interest him, even if what he's talking about doesn't interest you. But the conversation should not only be one-way from his side. If you want a healthy relationship, you have to make sure that you both have the opportunity to talk about the things that are important to you as individuals
Step 4. Get to know his friends and family
If you've never met them, ask your boyfriend to introduce you to other important people in his life. Once you meet them, find a way to keep in touch. Welcoming these people into your life shows a desire to connect their lives further into yours.
At the same time, you should also allow him to spend time with them away from you, especially when it comes to his friends. Sometimes a guy really wants “boy time” with his friends, so you need to let him have that special time
Step 5. Get alone with him
Sometimes your lover feels the need to get away from the world for a while. If he allows you, then go hide with him. Maybe he's not in the mood to talk about what's wrong and maybe he's being a little indifferent to you, but having you there with him when he wants to leave the other person will make you a safe and comfortable presence on his mind.
Step 6. Dress up for her
If the relationship has been going on for some time, you may have reached a point where you are comfortable together and don't feel like you have to beautify yourself to date him. However, you should often surprise her by wearing gorgeous dresses and putting on a little bit of makeup. Greet him, and when he gives you a compliment or a complimenting look, let him know that you are purposely beautifying yourself just for him.
Step 7. Meet his physical needs
If your relationship has come down to physical intimacy, make sure you fulfill his desires and needs as often as he fulfills yours. That doesn't mean you have to let him "push his will" regardless of how you feel. But that means you should try to satisfy him even when you don't feel like you're experiencing the same pleasure at the time.
