Falling in love and staying in love is part of the journey of a relationship. While these things will come naturally to some people, others will have to pay more attention to their behavior in order to experience them. There are several things you can do to increase your chances of falling in love and staying in love, such as going on fun dates, being curious, making your point known, respecting each other, and knowing your role in a conflict. Remember that falling in love and still loving the same person takes time, effort, and the right people.
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Part 1 of 3: Making a Relationship
Step 1. Meet someone
If you've decided that you're ready to fall in love, you should put yourself in a situation where you can meet someone who shares your interests. If someone shares your interests, the two of you will likely get along well. To find someone who's right for you, do the things you love and consider creating a profile on an online matchmaking site.
- For example, if you are an animal lover, volunteer at a local animal shelter. If you like running, join a local running group. Look for something that allows you to do something you love and interact with someone who shares your passion.
- You can also try meeting someone through an online matchmaking site. These sites can help determine if the person shares your interests before the two of you meet each other, making it easier for you to connect with them.
Step 2. Seduce him
To indicate interest in someone, you must show it through facial expressions, body language, and comments. Using body language, eye contact, and flirty comments can show that you are attracted to the person. If you're not good at flirting, keep your flirting simple for starters. Some simple ways to seduce include:
- Smile. Smiling is an easy way to seduce someone and can make you look more attractive.
- Make eye contact. Maintaining eye contact is another way to show your interest in your partner. Research shows that prolonged eye contact can increase attraction between two people.
- Reflecting Body Position. Stand or sit until your position is like a mirror to your partner. For example, if your partner brings his body with one hand on the table, you can do the same.
Step 3. Go on a stressful date
Research shows that putting yourself in a stressful situation can increase the attraction between two people. Make sure you plan a fun date when you get to know each other for the first time at the park or bungee jumping.
Step 4. Don't rush
When you're getting to know someone for the first time, it's important not to tell yourself too early. Some people talk too much about themselves in the early stages of a relationship because they want to appear honest and forthright. However, telling yourself too often and too soon can make your partner feel uncomfortable and make you less mysterious. For example, you shouldn't discuss topics such as ex-girlfriends, family conflicts, or personal finances.
Step 5. Be curious
It's important to find out if you're compatible with the person in order to fall in love, so ask questions for that information. Your questions need not be interrogative or overly personal. The questions should be friendly and fun to talk to. Examples of some questions to ask on a first date include:
- Do you like something? If so, what?
- Do you have a favorite movie or TV show?
- Are you someone who likes to get up early or play at night?
- What kind of vacation do you like?
Part 2 of 3: Continuing a Relationship with Someone
Step 1. Assess your readiness to fall in love
Before making the decision to find a girlfriend, take some time to consider whether or not you're really ready. There are many reasons why you may not seem ready to fall in love, but some of the more common ones are:
- Just broke up with a lover. If you've recently broken up with someone and you're still dealing with the loss, finding a new lover might not be a good idea. If you haven't gotten over your ex, you'll have a hard time starting a new relationship. Give yourself time if you need it.
- Not sure about who you are and what you want. Knowing who you are and what you want in life are essential to a healthy long-term relationship. If you're still unsure about what you want in your life in 5, 10, or 20 years, you may need some time to figure it out. Spend some time getting to know yourself before looking for true love.
- You suffer from depression or another serious mental health condition. If you decide to fall in love as a way to deal with feelings of loneliness and depression, you may want to reconsider. When falling in love doesn't work, love can cause emotional stress and depression. Therefore, you won't be able to cope with the disappointments that may occur if you're already depressed. If you think you're depressed or suffering from another mental health problem, talk to a therapist and get yourself back on track.
Step 2. Take care of yourself
Physical attraction isn't everything, but it's important to look and feel good in order to attract someone's attention. Make sure you take care of your basic needs, such as food, exercise, sleep, body care, before looking for love.
- Go to a salon or barbershop if you haven't been there in a long time.
- Buy new clothes if your clothes are tattered or out of date.
- Try to look healthy by improving your diet and getting more exercise.
- Make sure you give yourself time to rest and relax each day.
Step 3. Continue to take time for yourself
It is very common for a person to be so busy with a new relationship that he stops doing something that is of value to him. But not taking time for yourself and your interests can be a bad thing for you and your new relationship. Remember to make enough time for you and your interests no matter how much you want not to so you can spend more time with your crush.
Step 4. Make your point visible
It's very important to show him what you mean if you want to continue dating him. If you enjoyed spending time with the person, let them know. You don't need to declare your long-term desires in the early stages of a relationship, but you do have to say that you enjoyed spending time with the person and that you would like to see them again.
Try saying, "I really enjoyed dating you and I want to keep seeing you if you want too."
Step 5. Know when to walk away
If you're not enjoying time with someone or you just don't feel right, don't slow down what has to happen. Say how you feel and move on. Breaking up with someone isn't easy, but it's better than continuing a relationship you don't enjoy.
- Make sure you don't make a mistake and break up via text, email, or social media. This may seem easy to you, but it will make your partner sad.
- If you have to break up with someone, try planning to meet them in person in a neutral place like a park or cafe. Try saying, "I'm sorry, but I don't think we're compatible, so I don't think we should see each other again." Be gentle if he responds with a cry or annoyance, but don't change your mind because you feel guilty.
- Don't spend time with someone who doesn't feel the same way you do. If the person shows that they are not interested in continuing the relationship with you, don't try to pursue or change their minds. It's important to find someone who will reciprocate your feelings and treat you properly.
Part 3 of 3: Cultivating Love
Step 1. Commit to one another
After you've been dating someone for a while, you'll need to decide to make a commitment to each other. Whatever the next step, it's important to talk it over and make sure that you both agree.
Try saying, “I don't want to pressure you, but I'm comfortable with you. I want to continue this relationship and I know one day I will definitely want to get married, have children, and so on. What do you think?"
Step 2. Build trust
To ensure lasting love, you must be trustworthy and able to trust your partner. Building trust requires you and your partner to need each other, understand, keep promises, and keep communication open. Every time you trust your partner to handle something for you or keep a promise, you are giving your partner an opportunity to do so and earn your trust.
For example, if your spouse is responsible for paying the electricity bill each month, don't keep reminding them. Trust that the bill will be paid. If done correctly, the two of you will have a stronger bond
Step 3. Give each one some alone time
Spending too much time together can cause problems in a relationship. If you spend every moment with your partner, you won't really appreciate the time with your partner. Be sure to plan activities individually and maintain your independence while maintaining a relationship.
Try to give one night or one day each week so that the two of you can do something alone or with friends
Step 4. Spend time together
While it is very important to have alone time, time together is also very important. Make sure to set aside time to ask how you're doing, perhaps over coffee, dinner, or an afternoon walk.
You should take the time to do things together like the two of you did in the early days of your relationship. For example, you could plan a date to see a movie, hike a mountain, or visit a museum
Step 5. Surprise
To keep your romance alive, find ways to surprise each other. You can do simple things like bring home a bunch of flowers or prepare a special dinner for your partner. Or, you could do something more festive like organize a surprise birthday party or prepare the vacation you both dream of. Look for ways to surprise your partner so they feel special.
Step 6. Respect each other
Love may dim in a relationship if one partner doesn't feel valued. Make sure you tell your partner what you appreciate about him on a regular basis. Be specific and make sure the things you mention are about your partner, not you. If you always value your partner, chances are you will too.
For example, you might tell your partner that you appreciate him being a good listener or how he can always say positive things when you get home from work
Step 7. Create a tradition
Having a shared tradition is a good way to strengthen the bond between two people or a family. You and your partner can create some traditions that will strengthen the bond as the relationship develops.
For example, you could start a tradition of visiting a restaurant that the two of you go to on your first date on your relationship anniversary each year. Or, you can start a special holiday tradition, like watching a horror movie
Step 8. Share some things with your partner
The longer your relationship lasts, you can forge a stronger bond by telling him things you've never been told. Share your fears, hopes and dreams for the future and ask him the same. Take care of his feelings when he tells about himself even if it looks unattractive.
Step 9. Take responsibility for your role in the problem
In every relationship, conflicts will arise and you must find ways to resolve them so that both of you are satisfied. One of the things you can do to deal with conflict is to know when you are guilty (or at least partly guilty) and admit it. Taking responsibility for your role in the conflicts that arise in your relationship will help make them easier to resolve.
For example, if you and your partner often fight over money, be the first to share your contribution to the financial problem and invite your partner to identify ways he or she can contribute. Identifying the problem together gives you and your partner an opportunity to work out a problem you both have about money rather than blaming each other for starting it
Tips
- Try to keep promises. Not being able to keep promises can destroy a relationship before it can develop. Show that you can be counted on by keeping your promises. For example, if you plan to date the person or call them, make sure you do so.
- Be honest about who you are and what you love. Don't present yourself as someone else just to get him to like you. Tell the truth about you and what you love.
- Go on dates with different people. You might miss the chance to meet the perfect match if you don't meet more people.
