You have a crush and want to ask him out. Make sure you get to know your crush before asking him out, and make sure he's quite interested in you. Just relax. Gather your courage. You can do it.
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Method 1 of 3: Get to know your crush
Step 1. Talk to the girl/boy you have a crush on
It will be easier to ask him out if you already know each other, so he is more likely to say yes to your invitation. Start with light conversation. Casually greet him, then introduce yourself.
- If you are in class, try asking about homework or asking him to help deepen the subject matter. If you're in a club, start chatting about the club's themes.
- Ask questions about him. Ask how he is. Ask if there is anything to cheer him up this weekend. Easy, right?
Step 2. Be friends with your crush
You don't need to be best friends, and you don't have to tell each other everything. However, in friendship there must be trust, and that will make you more known to him. Try walking into class with him, or hanging out with friends. If you are compatible with each other, he might start to have a crush on you!
Step 3. Be honest and be yourself
Try to be yourself in front of your crush. Deceiving him is not the best way and also not the most appropriate way to keep him going out with you. If you cheat, you will find out later. If you try to be "cool" or imitate someone you think is "cool," you may end up making the other person uncomfortable. Don't bother with illusions.
If you are yourself and do what you really want, you will do those things with passion. Many people think passion is an attractive thing
Step 4. Direct and as is
If you want to know their phone number, ask them directly – don't look elsewhere or ask anyone else. If you want to know what he's been up to this week, don't follow him on Facebook – ask him directly. Keeping up with him or admiring him so much that you overlook his flaws is not a good start to a healthy relationship.
Method 2 of 3: Setting the Mood
Step 1. Do it directly
Only if necessary, convey the invitation to him over the phone, or via video call – but don't try to convey an invitation via SMS. It's much easier to communicate with people via text or text messages, especially those you have a crush on, but sending out an invitation to date face-to-face is much more romantic. If what you want is a casual, uncommitted relationship, it's okay to text him – but don't expect him to impress.
Step 2. Try to be reasonable
Find a time when you both have nothing to do. Don't invite him when he's tired or in a hurry. If possible, choose a place that's comfortable for the two of you, and a place to hang out with or where you accidentally bump into each other. As much as possible create moments that are light and relaxed.
Step 3. Approach the him when alone
This conversation will probably be a lot easier for you if you don't extend your invitation in front of a large crowd. Many people find it difficult to express their feelings face-to-face, especially if there are many people around them. If you're not used to being alone with him, you have to create opportunities. It's a lot easier to be alone if you're friends, or at least have casual conversations.
- Take him for a walk with you: after school, or between classes, or walk around the block. Take your crush out with you for a while. You can say, "Could I have a private talk with you for a minute?" or "Would you like to come to class with me?"
- The important thing is not to say a date in front of his friends! Your crush may be embarrassed, or he may not want to talk about this in public. You may be rejected because your crush feels uncomfortable.
Step 4. At first try to have a small chat
Instead, ask your crush on a date when you two have time to walk together. You don't have to ask big questions right away. To help set the mood, you can ask him about his day, joke around, and listen to what he has to say. You two should both feel comfortable and relaxed.
Step 5. Wait for the right time
Even a very well-crafted plan can face obstacles. Maybe you've tried to come home from school with him, but some of your friends want to come along. Be patient. You can always ask her out tomorrow, but it's going to be hard to make up for the awkward moments that happen if you rush. Find the right time.
Method 3 of 3: Asking your crush on a date
Step 1. Show your courage
It can be really hard to confess your feelings to someone you really like. You'll probably be sweating and nervous, shaking, scared–but you'll probably feel a lot better once you get through it. Ask yourself if you'll regret it if you never ask her out. If you're going to regret it, take him.
- Think of it like jumping into cold water. You can spend the whole day looking at the water, touching it with the tips of your toes, and imagining how cold it is. Instead, you can put your thoughts aside and jump in–then you just need to be able to swim, adjust, or get out of the water.
- If you can't do it, set a reward for yourself. Say, "I have to ask [my crush] on a date before Friday, otherwise I won't be going to the Friday night party." Give yourself a reason to stop doubting and act.
Step 2. Be candid and honest
Don't go round and round and tell him how you feel. This may be scary, but you will also find that it will make your task a lot simpler. Say, "Hmm, I want to be clear. I really like you, and I want to spend more time with you. What do you think?"
Step 3. Get him to do something specific
Don't just say ask him "out". That's not clear. Don't ask him to be your girlfriend if you haven't dated before. Invite him to do something fun and inexpensive that both of you can enjoy: going to the movies, hiking, watching shows, or attending school events. If you ask him to go somewhere alone with you, he'll probably think he's going on a date–but don't ask him to be his "girlfriend."
If there is a dance at school, ask him to go with you on a date. This can be a great opportunity to show him how you feel. Keep in mind that unless you explicitly agree, going out at the dance once doesn't mean the two of you are "dating."
Step 4. Take it easy
Ask your crush out on a date, and make it really memorable. If you've ever gone on a date with him, and you want him to only date you, then you've taken things a little more seriously. If he's a new crush, you don't need to put too much pressure on him and don't be in a hurry.
Step 5. Respect the rejection
If you ask him out on a date, and he refuses, you don't have to force him. Being stubborn because you really like someone is one thing. That's different from stalking someone, urging them, and making them uncomfortable. The world is not as wide as Moringa leaves. Respect others!
Tips
- There is always a chance that you will be rejected. It's a risk–but life is full of risks.
- Be yourself. If you're not being yourself, maybe you're a person who changes every day. The he could just leave you because you seem fickle.
- Don't ask him over and over again after he rejects you. Appreciate him and keep going.
- Every time you ask him out, you have to make him feel comfortable. Show him that you really care about him.
- Remember, there are many other people besides him who want to be with you.
- Don't scare him. He'll think you're weird.
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If he refuses, there's a good chance he likes you, but can't say "yes" for other reasons. Maybe his parents don't let him go on dates, he thinks it will ruin your friendship, or he's shy. If you suspect this, try to find out the reason–but always respect the "rejection".
