You know you care about your loved one, but you're afraid you won't be able to show that care well. Maybe your lover is starting to seem bored with you. In this article, there are some tips to add romance back to your relationship and show your lover that is the most important thing to you in the world.
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Method 1 of 3: Daily Actions
Step 1. Be honest
Don't assume that your boyfriend understands how you feel about him. Make sure you tell him exactly how you feel. Ambiguity can lead to uncertainty that can strain your relationship.
Step 2. Ask how he is
You are someone he trusts, so make sure you listen to everything he has to say. Let your boyfriend feel relieved by asking him to share his problems. Show your empathy for him and share in good times and bad. This will make your relationship stronger.
Step 3. Listen to him
In a relationship, the ability to listen is very important and unquestionable.
- Even if what your boyfriend says is boring to you, pay attention to him because what he says is not boring for him.
- Learn to listen to the 'unspoken word' and draw conclusions about you that you can do to help.
- By listening, you show that you care about his life and want to build his trust in you.
- Don't just listen, but also show a response. Try to engage in conversation, but don't overdo it
Step 4. Give him a compliment
Always be sincere when you compliment him because, when you're not, the insincerity is obvious.
- Tell your lover how excited he is that day.
- When she changes her hairstyle, compliment her new look.
- Praise him for his accomplishments in class or in his office.
- Make positive comments about the clothes she is wearing.
Step 5. Trust him
If you don't trust your boyfriend, he won't trust you either. Every good relationship is always based on solid trust.
- If he's out for a walk with his friends, don't call or text him every twenty minutes. Let him have fun without you.
- Avoid excessive jealousy. Let her talk to other men. Don't just interrupt or interfere in the conversation and get defensive. Just because your boyfriend is in a relationship with you, doesn't mean he should only talk to you.
Step 6. Respect your lover
Always treat your lover with the utmost respect, even when you are fighting with him.
- Respect your lover even when he is not with you. Don't talk bad things about him behind his back.
- Immediately discuss the problem directly with him. Don't hide the problems you have. Talk about the problem directly.
- Respect his intelligence. Jangna thinks that he will always need help.
- Don't underestimate his opinions. A good relationship exists because there is a balance of rights in opinion.
- Don't make fun of or physically abuse your lover.
Method 2 of 3: Sweet Surprise
Step 1. Write her a love message
A written love message shows your lover that you care to show him how you feel. Make sure your message is handwritten; don't type and print your message! Below are some messages you can try:
- "I keep thinking about you all day…"
- "I wish I could be near you right now, so I'm writing this message instead…"
- "I can't wait to see you again…"
- Put the message in the most surprising place for your loved one. Ideally, the discovery of the message should come as a surprise. For example, if you know that he has to read certain pages of his schoolbook, place your message between the pages. If you live with your loved one, write your message on the bathroom mirror using soap, or place your message on his or her bedside table.
Step 2. Never forget to say that you love him
He will never forget the moment you expressed your love for him.
Step 3. Call your lover before bed
You can call him or text him while he's getting ready for bed. In western countries, this is known as a tuck in call, and is a great way to show your loved one you care.
- The call lets your lover know that he or she is on your mind.
- You will be the last thing he thinks about before he sleeps.
- The call gives your sweetheart an opportunity to talk to someone about any issues he or she might be having that day. That way, your lover can sleep more soundly after pouring out his feelings.
Step 4. Give a sweet snack as a surprise to your lover
- Chocolate is sold at various prices, from cheap to quite expensive. You don't have to spend too much to buy him chocolate, but as much as possible don't give your lover the cheap chocolates that are usually displayed on candy shelves. Look for interesting chocolates in chocolate boutiques and always remember that little things like chocolate can make a huge impact on your relationship.
- Giving her imported sweets can be an interesting way to show her that you care. It's also interesting for you to try. In addition, the price of imported candy is also not too expensive.
- Bake cookies for your loved one. Apart from being considerate, it can also show your skills in cooking.
- If he doesn't like sweets, surprise him with his favorite snacks.
Step 5. Give him flowers
Giving flowers is one of the simplest ways to show love, and a very effective way. Their bright, vibrant colors and freshness can make for a passionate gift. However, because the price tends to be expensive, make sure you buy it for truly special occasions.
- Flower bouquets are available in many supermarkets and sell for less than two hundred thousand rupiah.
- If you know your lover's favorite color or type of flowers, talk to the florist or florist and ask him to help design a bouquet for your sweetheart.
- If you have wildflowers growing in your yard, pick them up and make your own bouquet. Make sure you don't pick other people's flowers.
- If your boyfriend is having a bad day at work, send him flowers. Although it does cost quite a bit of money, it shows your attention and your lover can show off the flowers you send to his co-workers.
- A single flower stalk can be as special a surprise as a bouquet of flowers. Giving a flower can be a symbol that you are giving something most important to your lover.
Step 6. Give a simple gift
Surprise gifts can add color to a boring day and really show your loved one that you're always thinking about them. Some simple gifts you can try are:
- love coupons. Give your boyfriend some coupons he can exchange so you can do something for him. For example, treat a romantic dinner, watch a movie together, hugs and kisses, and so on.
- Accessories. Buying your loved one clothes may cost more, but beautiful accessories can make a great gift, without having to spend a lot of money. Find a pretty hat, scarf, or handbag for her.
- A bottle of wine and a pair of wine glasses.
Step 7. Show affection when your boyfriend doesn't expect you to
Surprise him when he doesn't notice. That way, you will make lasting changes to your relationship.
- Quietly enter his room while he is at work and give him a surprise kiss.
- Give him an extra hug before he goes to work or school.
- When walking in cold weather, hug or hold her hand tighter.
- Hold her hand as you walk with her.
Method 3 of 3: Taking Further Actions
Step 1. Get to know his friends and family
Do various ways to familiarize yourself and be friendly with them. They are an important part of your lover's life, and you have to show that you respect that important part. This way, your boyfriend will know that you are serious in a relationship with him.
Step 2. Plan a treasure hunt game
These games can be a fun way to pass the time in the afternoon. Plus, the thoughts and plans you make show your boyfriend that you really care about him.
- First, figure out what to make of the treasure. The treasure for the game can be anything from jewelry to an invitation to a dinner out, or something more personal.
- Plan a hunt. Decide how far the hunt will go, and where it will be located. Common stops on a romantic quest are “the place for the first meet,” or “the place for the first dinner.”
- Write notes. Put the first note where you're sure your lover will see. Write messages like “I have a little game for you. You can find the next note in [first clue].”
- Don't make the hunt too difficult because the hunt should be fun!
Step 3. Cook something for your loved one
Not only will it make for an interesting date, but cooking something for your loved one also shows your knowledge of the kitchen and the world of cooking. Don't be afraid if you make too many mistakes. Your intentions and efforts will be much more valuable.
- Plan your cooking. Look for easy recipes that don't have too many steps. Try to time your preparation so that all the necessary items are ready at the same time.
- Make sure your food has a balanced nutritional content. Add vegetables and do not serve in large portions.
- Pasta is usually the safest choice of cooking because it is quite easy to cook and almost everyone likes it.
- The dining area (dining area) should be cleaned before dinner time. Light a candle or two and make sure all cutlery is properly placed.
- When you are old enough, accompany your lover to dinner with a bottle of wine.
Step 4. Create a Mix CD (a compilation of songs) or a playlist of songs
- The concept of Mix CD is similar to the concept of mixtapes (song compilation cassettes). Basically, you need to collect songs that your boyfriend likes, as well as songs that can show how you feel about him. Memories are heavily influenced by music, and a good Mix CD is sure to be remembered for a long time.
- Make a playlist of songs. Of course, you want your boyfriend to listen to your entire playlist without getting bored or skipping tracks that he finds boring. Make sure you choose the song that catches his attention as the first song, and the following songs that keep him wanting to listen to the playlist.
- Most music applications or software have a CD burning feature (copying data to a CD). Click here for specific instructions on how to burn a CD.
- If your loved one uses a music service like iTunes or Spotify, you can create digital music playlists and share them with them. Digital playlists allow you to create longer playlists than CD playlists, but since they are digital playlists (not CDs), they may make for a less-than-special gift.
Step 5. Plan to go on a picnic
Like cooking a meal, planning a picnic shows that you care about your loved one, and are always making plans for the future.
- Make sure the weather is good. The weather forecast always shows changes in the weather, so it's a good idea to be ready to change your plans if it rains the previous day.
- Prepare a light lunch. The atmosphere at the picnic should be relaxed and light, and the food brought during the picnic should be able to convey that atmosphere. Make sandwiches, cut fruit, and bring a pack of potato chips. For drinks, make iced tea.
- Have a picnic in fun places. Depending on the city or area you live in, look for a place that offers lots of natural beauty. The side of a river, beach, or meadow can be a good picnic location. Check your picnic area first before going on a picnic and look for locations that are slightly off the beaten track, away from the hustle and bustle.
