If you're dating a guy you like or even love, you might want to find out if he's as serious about being in a relationship. He could buy you flowers and call all the time, but does he see a future with you? Luckily, there are some signs that can help you determine how serious he is about his relationship with you. Consider their words, actions, and relationship history to assess how attached he is to you.
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Method 1 of 3: Assessing His Speech
Step 1. Notice how often he says “we”
Find out how often you hear him say "we" when referring to the two of you. A man who is serious about his partner will see himself as part of a partner. He tends to frequently refer to or involve you and the relationship, and considers you when making plans.
Pay attention to how often he does this, especially when you're not in a conversation (eg when he's calling his friends)
Step 2. Observe the “I love you” or “I love you” words
Has he said he loves you? If so, there's a good chance he has serious feelings for you. If he says it a lot, he's probably taking the relationship very seriously. In addition, if he says he expresses his love first, it is a big sign of the commitment he shows.
- Also pay attention to the background. If he comes from a family that rarely expresses affection verbally, he probably won't express his love for you verbally very often. However, this doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love you.
- If he hasn't said it yet, let him say it when he's ready to make sure he's sincere. Don't force him to say it before he's ready.
Step 3. Notice how often he opens up
A man who is serious about a relationship with his partner will often open up and pour out his heart. He may share secrets, family problems, or stressors at work. If you think you know enough about him and he's able to open up, there's a good chance he's serious about the relationship.
Step 4. Evaluate the chat about the future relationship
Has he ever said that he wants to marry you? Or live with you and have children? His future-oriented remarks can indicate his seriousness.
Also see if he ever said he wanted to go to future events with you, such as a wedding or family reunion
Step 5. Consider whether the two of you often discuss finances
If he discusses his salary with you or makes major financial decisions based on your input, there's a good chance he sees a future in his relationship with you. If the two of you are taking financial steps together, such as buying a house or a car, there's a good chance that the relationship you're currently in is serious.
Step 6. Talk about seriousness after a few months
If you really want to know how serious it is, just ask! Talk to her after dating exclusively for about three months and ask her how she feels about the relationship. Speak privately in moments that are relaxing enough for both of you.
You could say, “I've had the pleasure of being in a relationship with you in the last few months and I'd like to know where our relationship is going. Do you want a long term relationship with me?”
Method 2 of 3: Evaluating His Actions
Step 1. Pay attention to how often you see his family
Have you met his family (especially his mother)? Your meeting with your family is a sign of your seriousness with the relationship you are in. If he often invites you to family events and talks about you to his family, it's a sign of his commitment.
Step 2. Determine your involvement with his friends
If you've met his best friend, there's a good chance he's very serious about the relationship. If you've heard him talk about you to his friends over the phone, that can also be a good sign.
Don't be suspicious or upset if he doesn't invite you to a men's event. The event was just for her and her male friends
Step 3. Notice if he does something he doesn't like for your sake
Men who are serious about their relationship often do anything for their partner. Does he want to join you in watching your favorite television show, even if he doesn't like it? Or does he take you to a sushi restaurant, even though he doesn't eat it? Things like that signify that he cares for you.
Step 4. Notice how often he involves you in his plans
Are you often invited to events that he attends? Maybe because of his seriousness, he no longer needs to ask you to come with him to big events. However, it can be an expectation or assumption at this stage. If the two of you spend more time together, there's a good chance that your current relationship is serious.
Step 5. Pay attention to the items stored in each other's homes
If you have a drawer, a toothbrush, or a special space in the wardrobe in his house, there's a good chance he's taking the relationship seriously. It's not only you who is important in the place where he lives, but also your belongings.
If he keeps some things in your place of residence, this can also be a sign of his seriousness. However, this does not necessarily indicate his commitment
Step 6. Consider how often he gives his presence when you need it
When your car breaks down, is he the first person you call? When your pet dies, does he come to comfort you? When a man takes his relationship seriously, he will often provide his presence and assistance. Pay attention to the things he has done for you during the relationship.
Method 3 of 3: Considering Your History
Step 1. Think about whether the relationship has ended before
If the relationship you were in was broken, but then rekindled, the current relationship may not be really serious or worth keeping. However, if he really wants to work things out and not just pass the responsibility on to someone else, he probably is committed to you.
Step 2. Reflect on the length of the relationship
While there are some couples who immediately show their seriousness after the first date, they are the exception and seriousness after the first date is not always the "rule" to follow. After dating for six months or more, there's a good chance your partner is serious about the relationship. If the relationship is still in its infancy, there's nothing wrong with going through what is and not rushing before getting more serious in the existing relationship.
Step 3. Pay attention to the possible set of routines
If you both have a regular bedtime or dating schedule, there's a good chance he's serious about the relationship. Your involvement or presence in his daily schedule is a big sign!
Step 4. Consider previous relationships
Has his ex-girlfriend ever met her mother, or are you the only one who met her parents face-to-face? Is the current relationship he is in with you the longest? How many ex-girlfriends are there? If you find out that you are one of those who have listened to her affectionate words or met her mother, there is a good chance that she is serious about her relationship and loves you very much!
