When your boyfriend feels homesick, it means he cares and feels separated from you physically and emotionally. Sometimes relationships will be difficult to maintain if you are in a long-distance love or are often separated from your partner. There are several things you can do to make sure he misses you when you're apart, such as improving communication, surprising him, and finding ways to increase his attraction to you.
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Method 1 of 3: Using Positive Communication
Step 1. Listen to him
Being a good listener is an important part of having a healthy relationship, and helps increase his attraction to you. This means that he may want you more and more and want to see you when you're apart. To be a good listener, you must:
- get rid of distractions like cell phones, laptops or TV
- maintain eye contact when he talks
- nod and issue neutral questions like “oh yeah”, “hmm”, and “continue”
- restate what he just said every now and then, for example, “You seem really angry when he borrows your stuff without your permission.”
Step 2. Provide supportive feedback
Men are more attracted to responsive women. If you're responsive when he tells you something, he'll be more likely to look to you when he has a problem. To be responsive, listen when he talks about problems or difficulties and respond responsively.
- For example, if your partner tells you that he completed a task but his co-worker is being acknowledged, you might respond with a statement that sounds like something like, “That sucks! He must feel threatened by your abilities.”
- Don't belittle your partner's feelings or ignore them when they talk to you about their problems.
Step 3. Say the name
Saying your boyfriend's name when you're alone can also make him feel more attracted to you. He will also know that you are thinking of him and that nothing else is on your mind but him. This can help make her feel valued and that feeling she will remember even after being apart.
Try saying her name at unexpected times, like in the middle of a story you're telling her or when you're hugging
Step 4. Give him a compliment
Let him know that you want him and show that he is attractive to you by giving compliments and flattery. When complimented, he'll know he's attractive to you and this will magnify his feelings for you.
- Focus on complimenting a specific skill or activity, such as cooking your favorite meal or cleaning the house.
- Try to compliment him as soon as he does something you appreciate or admire.
- Don't worry if he just responds with a grunt or a smile. He will be swayed by your compliments and will love you even more.
Step 5. Arrange a video chat date
You can take advantage of technology, especially in long distance relationships. Arrange video chat dates at least once a week. This allows you and your partner to see and talk to each other in real-time, even on a cell phone or computer.
Visual references while talking will remind him how much he misses you and also serve as a substitute for your presence when you're apart
Step 6. Send a romantic message
If you're both busy and haven't had time to talk on the phone for a few days, a romantic text message will remind him of you and why he's so excited to be with you.
- You can send a simple short message, such as “I love you!” or “Thinking of you.”
- Sexy messaging is a risky move, and sending an explicit photo of yourself via message is a risk that shouldn't be attempted. If you want to be romantic as well as sexy, you can try sending a message that shows you miss him and shows how much you want him. For example, try writing, “I remember the last night we were together…” or “Can't wait for the night we were together again…”
Method 2 of 3: Surprise
Step 1. Surprise her with a special gift or date
One way to make your boyfriend miss you is to create special memories he will never forget. You can surprise him with a special gift, like an outfit he's always wanted, or plan a special date to see a band he really likes.
Try to keep the relationship spontaneous and interesting by secretly planning activities for the two of you. This opportunity allows you and your partner to spend some quality time and create memories that will serve as a reminder of the fun relationship
Step 2. Write her a love letter
Bring out your romantic side and write your feelings and emotions in a letter that your boyfriend will find on his pillow, in his bag, or in his car. Use a good pen and paper and write as friendly and honest words as possible. Seal it and leave it where he can find it easily. When he finds and opens the letter, he will think of you and miss your presence.
You can also send loving texts via your phone, and remember to say goodnight or good morning, especially if you're far away. This will help maintain a strong relationship and show her that she is always on your mind
Step 3. Treat him well
Find ways to surprise and treat your loved one once in a while. Prepare her favorite food, give her a massage, or let her focus on a hobby or interest. This will show that you are also caring and loving. If he can do activities he enjoys, he'll remember that his relationship with you is precious and when he's gone, he'll miss your nice treats.
Make sure you don't neglect your own needs just to fulfill your lover's needs. Just look for little ways to surprise him every now and then to increase the chances that he will miss you when you're not with him
Step 4. Leave something at the lover's place
Leaving a small item at your lover's house can remind him of you when he least expects it. Try leaving out earrings, hair clips, or other small items that when found will remind him of you.
- Leaving next to an earring is a subtle and symbolic way. Earrings are supposed to be a pair, so leaving one side implies that the earring will be even again when you and your lover meet.
- Don't leave out anything important. House keys, wallet or driver's license are an important part of everyday life, so if you leave them, you should pick them up right away. So the two of you will see each other again before he has a chance to miss you.
Method 3 of 3: Adding Interest to You
Step 1. Look good
Physical attraction is important in a love relationship, but that doesn't mean you have to look perfect. Men are more attracted to a woman who shows that she takes care of herself and tries to look her best. To show that you are taking care of yourself, make sure you:
- shower every day
- styling hair
- brushing teeth twice a day
- wear clothes that fit your body shape and make you feel attractive
- exercise at least a few times a week
- keep nails clean and tidy
- wearing makeup occasionally (only if you enjoy doing makeup)
Step 2. Show off your awesome personality
Physical attraction is important, but men will be increasingly attracted to women who have positive personalities. Make sure you show an awesome personality through your attitude.
You can show your personality just by being yourself, but you can also highlight some traits that your boyfriend finds attractive. For example, you can show that you are kind by being polite to the waiter at a restaurant dinner. Or, show that you are optimistic by looking at the positive side of every situation
Step 3. Make eye contact
Staring into your lover's eyes for two minutes can increase his attraction to you, and vice versa. Make sure that eye contact is a part of being together so he'll remember those romantic feelings when apart.
Try to look him in the eye as he passes you and hold your gaze for a minute. Or, during a discussion over coffee, make sure you lock his gaze a little longer than usual
Step 4. Wear red clothes
The color red seems to attract men to women more than any other color. To take advantage of it, try wearing red more often when you're meeting your lover.
For example, you can wear a red sweater when you drop by at work or prepare and wear a red scarf before she arrives
Step 5. Choose your signature scent
Scents can evoke memories, so make sure you wear a specific perfume or fragrance whenever you're with your loved one. Over time, he will begin to associate the scent with positive feelings about you and smell something that makes him miss you.
- If you go to his house, you can spray some perfume on his pillow before leaving. Later when he sleeps, he will smell your perfume and miss you.
- Try wearing one of your boyfriend's T-shirts for a few hours (with his permission). Make sure you wear perfume so that your scent sticks. Return the T-shirt with the fragrance still attached.
Step 6. Maintain your social life outside of love relationships
Instead of always being there when he asks you to, you should also build relationships with friends and family. Being independent and not always spending time with your lover will make him appreciate the time together even more.
- Go out with your friends alone, or spend time with your family without a lover. Encourage him to do the same. The next time you see him after a social break, show that you're happy and make sure he knows that you want him to have fun when you're not around too.
- Don't send too many text messages when you're far away. It's a good idea to send one message to make sure he's having a good time and don't send anything else during the day or night.
- Don't thwart your plans just to be with him. Relationships will be much healthier and happier if you both have a certain amount of freedom and aren't always alone all the time.
