If you are shy, dating can be quite difficult, especially if you are afraid of rejection. If you want to confess to a man but feel embarrassed and don't know how, you must first build up the courage to do so. Start by letting him know that you like him, especially if you don't know him that well. Try a less intimidating way to express your feelings, for example by giving him a hint. If the guy doesn't understand what he means or you know him well enough, try to convey it in person. Even for people who are shy, feelings of love can still be conveyed.
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Method 1 of 3: Giving Hints
Step 1. Look into her eyes
Looking someone in the eye is an easy way to show your interest. Take the opportunity to look him in the eye. For example, when he greets you, look him in the eye as you return the greeting. You can look a little shy by looking down and then looking into his eyes with a smile.
- If he looks into your eyes, he may also be interested. Maintain eye contact with him for 1 or 2 seconds.
- Don't stare at it for too long! Pay attention to the response he gives. Does he smile back at you or just stare blankly? Try to gauge his interest in interacting with you.
Step 2. Give hints about your feelings
You may be too shy to just say, "I like you." If you're embarrassed, just hint at how you feel instead of saying it out loud. However, he may not immediately understand your intentions and goals.
You can give him a hint by saying things like, "I really like spending time with you," or "It's fun when we're a group."
Step 3. Use short messages to communicate with him
It may be difficult for you to approach him, especially if he is always with his friends. Short messages (SMS) are an easy way to interact with them without having to worry about awkward pauses or not knowing what to say. If you interact with him frequently via text messages, give him hints about how you feel.
- Chatting with him via text can also show your interest in him. If you want, you can give him a short message like, "By the way, you're interesting, aren't you."
- You can also express your feelings clearly through text messages. Say, “I like you” via text after being brave enough.
Step 4. Give him a note containing your feelings
It may be that coming up and expressing your feelings in person is too hard to do or it scares you. If you see him often on campus (or off campus), give him a note that contains your feelings in secret. This way, you won't beat around the bush or become speechless. When writing notes for him, write a few drafts and then choose the one you think is most appropriate and ready to send.
- Give him a note and wait for his reply. If you send more than one note, write down how you feel in the next note.
- Take time to write and think about what to say. You can write short, sweet notes or one that is full of elaboration. You can use either method when writing notes to her, but make sure your feelings are also included.
Step 5. Give him a gift from a secret admirer
If you want to show him you care but can't do it outright, give him a gift signed by a secret admirer. Give him his favorite food (like chocolate) or something he likes. Add a greeting card and write, “From your secret admirer.”
After doing this, ask how he feels after receiving a gift from his secret admirer. At some point, let him know that you are his secret admirer
Method 2 of 3: Expressing Love Directly
Step 1. Invite him to spend time with you
Maybe you're too shy to just say, "I like you" to him. Another option is to invite him to spend time with you. Remember, it's okay for a woman to ask a man out (and for a man to ask another man out). Spending time together can help you gauge his feelings and determine if you both should do it more often. This can show that you want to spend more time with him and get to know him better.
- For example, invite him to dance or watch a sports game together.
- Say, "I have two tickets to the football game this Thursday, would you like to watch it with me?"
Step 2. Set a time limit for you to express your feelings
As a shy person, you should prepare everything to express your feelings. Decide that you want to do it, then do it. For example, determine the right time and day to express your feelings. Do something to help you prepare, like write it down on a calendar.
For example, if you are going to a party and he will be there. Say to yourself, “Okay. I'm looking for it. When I see him, I will approach him and have a chat with him, then will express my feelings.”
Step 3. Choose a moment when he is alone
You don't want his friends to eavesdrop or listen. As a shy person, you don't need people watching or eavesdropping! He will also respect your decision to maintain his privacy. Observe the situation and determine the right time to do so.
If he is talking to someone else, wait a moment. Once the person is gone, this is your chance to do so
Step 4. Get your feelings straight to the point
Don't chat with him for too long without expressing your feelings. He may become disinterested or the conversation with him will become bland. You can start by saying, “Hey Xavier, do you have time? I have something to say to you.”
Then go on to say, “I really enjoyed my time with you. I want you to know that I like you, and I hope you like me too.”
Method 3 of 3: Fighting Fear
Step 1. Find out if he likes you
Your job will be much easier if he is also interested. If he's always smiling or makes time to see or be with you, he may be interested. You may find out in person or from a friend. Your next task is to build the confidence to show that you are interested too.
If he doesn't know you yet or only sees you as a friend, there are a few things to do
Step 2. Notice if he's flirting with you too
As a shy person, you may have to flirt with him before confessing your feelings. Measure his level of attraction and see if he reciprocates your flirting. In many ways, actions mean more than words, so take advantage of your actions. Try some teasing techniques like laughing at his jokes or gently touching his hand. This action can show that you are interested. Pay attention to the response he gives, whether he approaches or moves away from you.
You don't have to make it too obvious. Flirting gently is much better because it will make you more mysterious
Step 3. Think of the worst that could possibly happen
Because you're shy, you're probably imagining the worst-case scenario that could happen. However, what is the worst possible scenario? Be realistic and rational. He may refuse, but he probably won't play tricks on you or embarrass you.
If he embarrass you, he will seem like a nuisance, and other people will see him this way too
Step 4. Make this a challenge
Instead of making the situation scary or difficult, make it a challenge. Are you ready to conquer this challenge? Whatever happens, you've dared to step out of the safe zone. Appreciate your own struggle even if he refuses.
