Texting is a great way to talk to your crush if you're too shy or nervous to approach them in person. This will give you control over your words and help you feel more courageous. Before expressing your feelings, start by asking something to get to know your crush better. Send him a short, flirty message and don't be afraid to seduce him. When the time comes, send a sweet short message to express your love – it can be thrilling, but you'll be proud of yourself!
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Method 1 of 2: Starting a Conversation
Step 1. Say “Hi” and ask questions to lighten the mood
Instead of just saying hello, plan your conversation. For example, you could say something like “Hey Brian, did you write down your English homework? I forgot to write it down” or “Hi, Dawn! I heard you got a role for a drama show. Do they need help backstage?”
You can also comment instead of asking. Instead of saying "What did you think of today's History lesson?" you could say something like “I thought I was going to die of boredom in class. Pak Budi makes history boring." This method will provoke a conversation as well as show your true nature to your crush
Tips:
Dare to be the first to message! There was no reason to wait for him to make the first move.
Step 2. Get your crush to open up with open-ended questions
Open-ended questions are questions that cannot be answered with a simple “yes” or “no”. This is a great way to get to know your crush better and keep the conversation alive. Ask if he has something he likes, like movies, books, games, television shows, Youtube channels, places, or anything else you can think of.
- For example, instead of simply asking “Do you like watching movies?” ask "What are the 3 best movies you've seen?"
- Instead of asking “Did you have a great weekend?” ask “What did you do this weekend?”
Step 3. Give a detailed response rather than a one-word answer
Don't be afraid to share your opinion! The quickest way to kill a conversation is to send a “K” or “Yes” message. If you have something in common with your crush, talk about it. Don't be afraid to disagree – sometimes different opinions can keep the conversation alive.
- For example, if your crush thinks that one of the Marvel movies is the best but you don't agree with him, tell him why! You can continue to chat about various characters and storylines.
- If you're not sure what your crush is saying, just ask. For example, if your favorite band is a band you've never heard of before, say something like “I've never heard of their songs. Which album is your favourite? I'll try to listen later!"
Step 4. Give compliments to flatter him
The key to a good compliment is to make sure it's sincere and brief. For example, send a message that says “You played really well in the game last Friday!” or “I'm impressed with your class project. Good work!"
- Don't be afraid to send a message of compliments even when you're not talking to him. Wait for a response from your crush before sending another message.
- Don't say anything about how you feel when you send the message. Saying something like “I don't know how to say this because it might sound weird, but I see you as a cool baseball player” will make the message sound weird! Just say “You really are a cool baseball player!”
Sending Seductive Compliments:
“I love the cologne you're wearing! What's the brand?"
“I'm glad you were in class when I gave today's presentation! 'I'm glad to see you there.'
“I never realized how beautiful your eye color is. The t-shirt you're wearing today makes him look radiant!”
“I wonder what you think about the latest episode of Stranger Things series!
Step 5. Use emoticons and motion pictures to show your humorous side
Look for emoticons and motion pictures that relate to your conversation. For example, if you're talking about being bored on the weekends, send a motion picture of someone sleeping at the table, or send a message made of emoticons so your crush has to think hard about reading it.
Get creative and have fun with your conversations! This is a powerful way to begin to feel comfortable with your crush so that you will have the courage to express your feelings later
Step 6. Send funny memes and videos to your crush so they remember you
When you come across a funny meme or video that makes you laugh, send it to your crush with a message like “This reminds me of you!” and include a laugh emoticon. You can also say something like “I was thinking about you. Hope you like this video!”
- For example, if your crush likes cats, look for a funny video compilation about cats on YouTube, then send him the message “For you, cat lover” and add a cat emoticon.
- Telling your crush you're thinking about them is a great way to start sending flirty messages.
Step 7. Flirt with him according to his liking or based on something you don't agree with
Make sure it's just a joke, and don't tease your crush with something that could hurt her. For example, it's best not to make fun of the way he talks if he does have a disability. However, if he says that he still likes watching children's movies, you can use that as material to tease him.
- For example, send him a motion picture from his favorite television show or movie, then say something like "I know what your plans are for the weekend!" with winking or sticking out emoticons.
- As another example, if you think Ron Weasley from the Harry Potter series is the best character, while your crush prefers Hermione Granger, type something like "I can't believe your opinion, HERMIONE LOVERS!" with laughing emoticon.
Tips:
If you accidentally hurt her, apologize immediately. Type something like “I'm sorry for hurting you. I tried to be funny, but it doesn't seem to work! Oops!” with shy face emoticon.
Step 8. Ask your crush for opinions or recommendations for cool activities
In addition to praising him, this can also be an invitation to go with the crush. Try typing something like “My friend and I are looking for a cozy coffee shop to study at. Do you have any recommendations?” or “I'm so bored! I want to have a new show. Are there any good television series?”
- The best way to continue this conversation is to try what he recommends, then send a follow-up message to your crush. For example, you could say “I started watching Riverdale and I LOVED it. I can't wait to see the next episode,” then includes motion pictures from the series.
- If he says you have to come to the new coffee shop in town, go there with a friend and send a message saying “I tried the new coffee shop and I love it! The coffee is very good! Thank you for your advice."
- If you want to try asking her out, wait up to a week and send her a text that says “Hi, I'm going to the coffee shop you recommend. Want to go together to study?”
Method 2 of 2: Expressing Your Feelings
Step 1. Send a casual text to your crush to start a conversation
Although you can send a message containing a declaration of love, it will only drive you crazy while waiting for a response. If you send a regular message first and get a response, at least you can tell that your crush is holding his phone. Try to ask something or make a statement about something you have discussed.
For example, you could type something like “I have to study for an exam next week, but I'm having a hard time focusing! I just want to take a nap!”
Step 2. Send the message several times to assess his mood
If your crush is not feeling well or is out with friends, it's best to hold back on your declaration of love. Try asking him what he's doing, if he's planning to leave, or how he's doing. The crush's answer should be able to make you know his feelings at that time.
If his response is short or he doesn't reply to your messages, it's best not to start a serious conversation just yet
Tips:
If waiting for the “perfect moment” keeps you from expressing yourself, give yourself a deadline to do so. Some moments are worth waiting for, but in the end no moment is truly “perfect”. If necessary, you can choose a date and make it the deadline to express love.
Step 3. Compose a short message that expresses your heart
No need to add a lot of details. A short and sweet message is the best way to say what you want to convey. Type something like “I like you, let's go out together sometime!” or “I want to say that I like you. It does not mean anything. I just want you to know.”
- If you've been texting each other for a few weeks and you've been flirting with each other, chances are he won't be surprised by the statement.
- A long and detailed message about your heart will confuse him. You have to make room for your crush to respond, and you need to convey that you will respect his feelings no matter what.
Step 4. Don't send follow-up messages until you get a response
Waiting for a response is thrilling, but sending multiple messages at once will make you look spoiled and hopeless, and can ruin the situation. Put down your phone and do something else for a while, like go for a walk, go to the movies, or tidy up your closet.
If he doesn't respond at all, that's probably the answer. Let's hope he doesn't do that and dares to respond even if you don't feel the same way
Step 5. Think back to your crush's habits as you read their responses
Does it usually take him minutes, hours, or days to respond to text messages? Does he usually use emoticons and complete sentences, or does he only use short sentences? Comparing his habits and responses can give you an idea of what he's thinking.
- For example, if you usually receive a quick response, but don't get a reply until a few hours after confessing your love, that means he's still thinking about the right response.
- If he usually sends you short messages with emoticons and motion pictures, but responds to your texts briefly, it means he's uncomfortable and doesn't feel the same way.
- Remember, everyone has a different response to a declaration of love. Some people need time to think about the answer if they are not sure yet.
Step 6. Celebrate a positive response by asking your crush out alone
If it turns out that your crush has the same feelings, congratulations! Send a follow-up message that reads something like “Wow, that was a nerve-wracking moment! I'm glad you have the same feeling! Let's go together on Friday to see the new movie! We might be able to have dinner together earlier?”
If you're not allowed to go out alone with your boyfriend, try going out with a group of friends, such as going to the movies, bowling, playing miniature golf, or going to a school event
Step 7. Deal with the negative response by giving your crush some space
If he doesn't respond positively, it's okay to feel disappointed. Don't send follow-up messages asking for reasons or pretending to be joking. Just say something simple, like “I see. I hope we can still be friends!”
Remember that there is nothing wrong with taking risks. Just because he doesn't like you doesn't mean there's something wrong with you
Step 8. Be proud of being able to do something difficult, no matter what the outcome
Regardless of whether your crush accepts or rejects your feelings, you've done something that not everyone can do. You have to appreciate your own development and take lessons from the process.
You can take the time to figure out what things you should change in the future. Take every opportunity like this to learn a lesson
Tips
- If you can't open your partner's heart to respond to text messages, it means he's not interested and you should move on.
- Try to stop using your phone once in a while. Not using your phone can be tough if you're waiting for a reply, but try to put it down for an hour or so every now and then so you don't obsess.
