Sometimes, we make fatal mistakes in relationships or make sudden decisions without thinking about the consequences. Whether it's to apologize or turn a friendship into a romance, a woman's opinion of you can be hard to change. Understanding women as individuals and how women make decisions can help you change their perspective. However, respect and open communication are key to ensuring that you understand each other.
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Part 1 of 3: Understanding the Reasons Behind His Decision Making
Step 1. Understand how hormones can affect a woman's mood
Keep in mind that hormone levels can affect a woman's energy and mood. However, don't be rude by asking questions or assuming that a woman's choices are based solely on her hormones. Always be polite and ask directly how he made the decision.
- If you know it well enough, understand that progesterone levels can have a calming effect and usually rise a week after ovulation. Testosterone and estrogen levels will increase during ovulation and cause women to have more energy so that their mood is more sensitive.
- When progesterone levels drop, women can easily feel irritated. 12-24 hours before menstruation, his mood can be negatively affected.
Step 2. Take control of your non-verbal gestures
Studies have shown that women can read non-verbal gestures, such as facial expressions and tone of voice, better than men. If you try to express your emotions sincerely, you will have a greater chance of changing his perception. Although often unconscious, body language can reveal ulterior motives that you have.
Step 3. Don't be physically or verbally aggressive
The use of intimidation, whether physical or verbal, is wrong and is an act of violence. If you've ever thought about this trait, take a moment to step away from the scene of the conflict and consult an expert.
Although it is permissible to be angry, research shows that women will act to eliminate threats received through manipulation. Even if he gives you the response you want, he's not necessarily sincere. Anger and aggression should be avoided
Step 4. Reduce the woman's stress level
Studies have shown that women are more sensitive to stress and anxiety. If he's already feeling stressed about an aspect of his life, it's best not to add to another source of stress by asking him to change his mind. Understand how he behaves when he's nervous.
Step 5. Don't be passive or indifferent
A negative response can sometimes be better than an indifferent attitude because the woman will at least know that you care about her. Women are sensitive to interpersonal gestures. So, a blank expression or an indifferent attitude can exacerbate an already negative situation.
Part 2 of 3: Get Out of the Friend Zone
Step 1. Understand that friendship and love are different
The rules and expectations that govern how you communicate with the woman should also be different. If you want to change his perception and think of you as a person of the opposite sex (not a friend), don't stick with the friendship.
Step 2. Be honest with your feelings
Do you really want a romantic relationship? Can you afford to lose the friendship? Don't befriend a woman in the hope that you will change her perception of you. This is unfair to the woman because friendship should be based on trust and respect.
Step 3. Talk openly and politely that you want your friendship to turn into a romantic relationship
The best way to change his perception that you are more than just a friend is to communicate with him in person. Don't try to manipulate or wait for it. If he rejects you and wants to just stay friends, back off and accept his decision.
After the rejection, your feelings may be hard to lose. Friendship is based on mutual support and respect. Ask yourself if you can really be his friend after the confession you've made. Can you still be friends with him even though he's dating someone else?
Part 3 of 3: Understanding Women as Individuals
Step 1. Talk to friends and family
Help the woman change her perception of you by getting to know her better. Approach his friends and family politely and let them know you'd like to get to know him better. Be open and honest about your intentions so they can be more helpful to you.
Don't lie about yourself. If the woman finds out that you are manipulating the people around her to get close to her, her perception of you will only get worse
Step 2. Don't try to read his mind
Get your point across directly. Don't assume he's narrow-minded. Always ask politely and thank him if he tells you what he thinks. Open communication is the easiest way to get him to change his perception of you.
Step 3. Listen to his opinion
Do you listen to respond or really listen to his opinion? Actively listen to his opinion and ask questions to make sure you really understand him. Don't be fooled by external factors. Find a quiet place or ask him to meet to make sure that you are both mentally and emotionally ready to communicate.
Step 4. Pay attention to nonverbal gestures
Pay close attention to all his words and gestures. Don't turn your attention to the environment around you. What's more, pay attention to facial expressions and body responses during communication. Understand the whole action to make sure that the message you catch is correct.
Step 5. Respect the culture and or religion
The woman may already have a certain opinion about you based on her values. Appreciate this process as religion and culture may influence it in making decisions. If you don't understand his value system, communicate it openly and honestly so you don't offend him with insensitive remarks.
Tips
- Don't manipulate or force him to change his mind. The woman is free to have her own opinion about your nature.
- Be respectful and show your feelings. He will appreciate that you care about him.
Warning
- If he has a negative opinion of you, don't get defensive and try to destroy his reputation because this is petty and childish. The best thing you can do is to have a good talk with him, try to hear his opinion, and ask him to reconsider what he thinks of you after the conversation.
- Violence should not be tolerated by anyone. If his opinion of you turns violent, report this to an expert. For example, if he tells your co-workers that you're lazy, report it to your supervisor or your company's public relations department. On the other hand, never express anger or follow your temper. Physical or verbal abuse should not be an option.
