If you end up being in a long-term relationship with a guy, you'll have to do your best to make sure that the relationship lasts. However, sometimes understanding a man who wants a long-term relationship is confusing. It's natural for you to make some mistakes in your life, but with a little commitment and an open mind, you can understand your partner. You can get a chance to enjoy a long-lasting relationship if you know a few key thoughts about your partner.
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Part 1 of 4: Making Your Partner Feel Manly
Step 1. Involve your partner in making decisions
No matter how sure you are that your partner won't give you approval when you want to do something or make a decision, it's always best to talk to him about it first and ask his opinion. Men want to feel that whatever they do is meant to make their partner happy, not because they have to. Say it nonverbally, for example with "lips" or "big eyes" to reassure your boyfriend that words don't work for him.
Step 2. Make your partner feel big and strong
Men like to play the "knight in shining armor". When you feel strong and independent without her help, she will be happy if you can make her feel like she can care for and protect you. The price of the chivalry he shows, for example when he opens a door or when he lets you first enter a room.
Step 3. Allow him to take the initiative
You can get your partner to do things more easily if you can convince them that it was his idea. Show subtle signs to encourage him to make the right decisions.
- If you need his help fixing the car, and you're tired of asking him outright, say something like "I saw a car that broke down on the side of the road. Did you know that it makes me feel paranoid about my car."
- You could also say, "I'm starting to feel like I need a new car. How long do we have to save to be able to afford the down payment?" He's more likely to fix your car, either because a) he's motivated to protect you, or b) he's worried about spending too much money.
Step 4. Respect her independence
Don't tell your friends (especially if you're with you and your friends) that he or she is the one who always listens to you. Don't say anything to show that you can tell him to do anything or control him. The very least you should do is make your partner look unmanly in front of your friends or family.
Step 5. Don't keep comparing your relationship to the past
Don't keep talking about your ex or comparing your current boyfriend to your ex. Also, don't date another guy if you haven't completely gotten over your ex. Your new lover doesn't deserve to be blamed for other people's actions or compared to other people's standards. Comparing him to your ex will make him feel less masculine, so make sure that you don't.
Part 2 of 4: Communicating Simple and Direct
Step 1. Interpret a man's emotions
Men's emotions are simpler than women's emotions. Men know what they want and what they don't want, and men get scared easily. Men don't usually talk about feelings and rarely open up emotionally unless they're really comfortable with you. In general, men don't want to show their feelings in order to feel that they are in good control.
Step 2. Understand the meaning of the spoken words
Some guys will only answer with "yes" and "no" to your question, but some don't. If you want to ask him to do something, he will probably say "yes," even if he doesn't really want to. You have to know him well enough to know if he's saying "yes" to please you or "yes" because he really wants to. He won't get mad if you don't get his point, but he may hold it in and feel controlled.
Step 3. Make sure that your request is always simple
For example, let's say you want to bring in groceries while he's watching TV. If you need help, say something like "Would you like me to wait for the advert to show to get your help submitting these materials?" or "Could you stop for a moment and help me carry these bags in?" Don't jump into a long conversation and say that he didn't notice you came home or that it made you feel like he wasn't being cared for, how he never cared about your needs, etc. Make your request direct and simple so that you are more likely to get what you want.
Step 4. Don't be critical or manipulative
Critical and manipulative traits that are shown continuously will make a partner go away.
- Listen to his opinion with respect, even if his opinion is not the same as yours. However, don't forget your opinion. Also make sure that he listens to you the way you listen to him, and when you can understand him and the reasons behind his opinion, you can decide whether you want to stay with him or find another relationship.
- If your partner has to change a big part of him or her in order for you to spend your life with him, you have to let your partner know how you feel and you have to stay true to your beliefs. In the early stages, he may be willing to change things like your profession, place of residence, religion, or other things to make you happy. However, the changes that occur may not last forever, and that may become a big problem in the future.
- Be prepared to leave the relationship if you don't want to ask him to change into someone else. At the same time, you have to stay true to who you are, and don't change your values just to get him to accept you.
Part 3 of 4: Involving Physical Contact
Step 1. Tell your partner the boundaries
Men want to be told directly by their partners about what physical touch is and shouldn't be done because they won't know this on their own. His feelings won't hurt, and you won't spoil the moment for him. In fact, he will feel relieved to know the limits. Do not speak or act aggressively. Do it affectionately and gently, unless he decides to "guess the line alone." If that's the case, don't give subtle cues, and tell him about what is and isn't allowed.
Step 2. Accept your partner's obsession
Men may be obsessed with their partner's eyes, hair, hands, or other body parts. If he likes it when you do something to your hair, make sure that you do it often. If he likes your hand and gives you a ring, wear it every time you're with him. If he likes your more intimate body parts, enjoy. Many women crave the attention that their partner gives you.
Step 3. Show affection
Grasp his hands with both of your hands, or use both of your hands to bind his hands together. Hold his face in your hands and move your fingers up and down his hands, or you can also rest your face or chest on his hands. You can show your love for your partner as long as you don't get too attached to them. In terms of affection, the most important aspects are loyalty and love; while the tendency to continue to stick with a partner is a possessive trait. Follow the nonverbal cues he shows to understand what he likes and doesn't like.
Step 4. Use your touch to soothe your partner
If your partner is having a bad day at work, give him a shoulder rub when he talks about the problem. Say something that shows your sympathy for the day, and say that you love and appreciate it.
Step 5. Enjoy your sexuality
Based on stereotypes, many say that all men only want sex, but the fact is, men want to please their partner as much as they want to be happy. When you tell him you like the way he touches you, you can give him a big ego boost. And again, you should talk about what you like and don't like. When he does or gives you something you like, do something to make him feel good too.
Part 4 of 4: Keeping Love Alive
Step 1. Be grateful for the things he does
Men love to know that their partner is grateful to be with him. Men will return the pleasure 100 times. If you make him feel like he's still not good enough, he will feel insecure about your relationship with another man, or he may just leave you. Men don't like to feel inferior to women.
Step 2. Take good care of him
It's true that he wants to take care of you, but you have to reciprocate. Understand the things that make him feel valued and loved. For example, if he likes homemade food, and you love to cook, try cooking his favorite dish to show him your love.
Step 3. Show that you appreciate it
Remember the early days of your relationship, when you and your partner would do anything for each other. Keep that mindset, and treat him as someone you can't let go of. Make sure that he rewards you with good manners, and also makes you feel appreciated, as you would with him.
Step 4. Tell your partner that you will be with them through anything
Say that you will not leave his side. Don't make him feel like you can leave him at any time. Don't threaten to leave the relationship when you want to achieve something less important. On the other hand, you must understand what things can damage the relationship and what other things will not affect the relationship, so that the relationship you are in will not burden you in achieving your goals.
Step 5. Put your trust in him
When he says he won't leave you under any circumstances, and his behavior shows it, then you have to believe it. Don't keep asking if he loves you because that will drive him crazy, and you could make him leave the relationship.
Step 6. Be prepared to deal with the partner's territorial behavior
Men are usually territorial and jealous, especially when their partners show concern for other men.
- Respect his feelings and don't show excessive emotional or physical connection to other men. Do not let a man feel insecure in a relationship with you.
- Mystery is always a good thing. Do not wear clothes that are too revealing when you go out in public. No matter how much he likes your curves, he never likes it when you show it to other people, because he doesn't want other people to look at his crush. Show your best beauty, but don't dress like a cheap woman. Save the parts in your body for the time you are alone with him.
- It's natural for him to feel a little jealous if you often travel alone. Men watch too many movies about women meeting new people while traveling alone and ending up with him. Try to get him to go out with you as much as possible. When you come home after traveling alone, say that you are happy to be home.
Step 7. Enjoy the similarities between you and your partner
Men want to be involved in the things you do. At the same time, you have to respect the things he likes to do even if you don't.
- If he likes watching sports, learn something about the sport, or try to go out with him while he is exercising. If you don't like him, you don't have to keep going while he's working out. At the same time, you may find that you enjoy being alone more than you ever thought possible.
- Give gifts according to their interests, not yours. By doing so, you're showing that you're showing an interest in the things he likes.
Step 8. Know when it's time to give him space
Men are afraid of losing their independence, and he can continue to hang out with his friends while loving you. While your partner may spend less time hanging out with their friends than when they weren't dating, they still need the opportunity to go out with their friends every now and then. Make sure that you also maintain friendships outside of relationships so that you can maintain your identity.
Tips
Find out if she wants to have children. If you want children and he doesn't, it could damage your future relationship. Also, talk about how you were raised to make sure that you and your partner share the same view when it comes to raising children
Warning
- Make sure that you are always honest. If you want a healthy relationship, be honest with him. Sure, you can have some secrets, but make sure you don't make him feel like he doesn't know what's going on with you, either mentally or emotionally.
- Never make him jealous. He will become less trusting of you and also feel very angry with other men.
- Don't date a guy you don't like. If you have a long track record of the brief relationships you've been in, men who want long-term relationships will avoid you. If you're not ready to commit to a guy who wants to be in a long-term relationship, don't waste his time. He deserves a chance to forget his past and find a better relationship.
