Approaches are taken to show interest, ask out on a date, or initiate physical intimacy. You can approach it by asking for permission first or by expressing interest. In addition, you can also try your luck spontaneously on the dance floor, or want to realize dreams and interests in female friends that have been stored for years. As with whatever approach you want to take, a little observation and asking how he feels will make your approach more natural.
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Method 1 of 4: Approaching While Dating
Step 1. Approach him while watching a movie
In the cinema or at home, movies can be the perfect moment to trigger physical contact. Take his hand slowly. If he likes it, he will hold or squeeze your hand back. If he doesn't like it, he will withdraw his hand.
If he holds your hand or comes close, you can wrap your arm around him and see how he reacts. If you can't figure out what he wants, ask him if he doesn't mind
Step 2. Approach the moment of separation
Breaking up is a good time to make an approach because there's a way out for both parties if things don't go your way. This is probably best suited on a first date. Make sure he knows you're leaving so he doesn't feel pressured. If you have a car, walk him to the door. Show that you don't expect to be invited in.
Start with a hug and a kiss on the cheek. If he pulls away, just hugs you and lets go, or any other signs of disinterest, say thank you for the evening and walk away. If he reciprocates, moves closer, or offers lips, please kiss him
Step 3. Approach while walking
If you're on a date outing, or walking from place to place, you can start a somewhat light-hearted public relationship. Try holding her hand, wrapping your arm around her shoulder or waist, or just touching her arm. He may walk away if he's uncomfortable, but ask first to be sure.
Method 2 of 4: Approaching a Party or Dance Floor
Step 1. Have a chat with him
If the volume in that area allows, you can try chatting. If it's too noisy, at least your efforts can be laughed at together. If there is a match, ask him if he wants to go out or find a quieter place. The subject matter is not very important. Make sure you ask lots of questions to get him to talk. If you're the one who talks more, he may think that you like yourself more than he likes you.
Step 2. Get her down on the dance floor
If you like dancing or don't mind swaying, invite him over while fast-paced music plays. Start with relaxed, separate movements. You can twist the body or touch lightly after one song. When the music slows down, hold out your hand or ask if she'd like to dance.
- If you can't dance, or you've had a long chat with her and feel ready, ask her to dance to a slow-paced song.
- You can hug her while dancing, as long as she seems comfortable. Don't hug her tightly or force her to cling to you. Ask him if he's okay.
- If the dance is going well, try bringing your face close to his and see how he reacts.
- Don't touch it with passion. Even if he likes you, he may not like being touched in public.
- Ask first. Don't ask strangers to dance without permission or introduction.
Step 3. Ask him if he wants a drink or a snack
Partying can be difficult for some people. By providing what a woman wants, you will appear competent and caring. If you don't know what he wants, be sure to ask first. Giving him unwanted drinks will make him feel pressured or misunderstood.
Step 4. Try to relax
There's no need for a physical approach right then and there. Just chat first, and make a good impression. Ask for the number and provide yours. If you're nervous, have a chat with a friend or remind yourself that there's no obligation to have a woman there. Don't drink to fight nervousness, or you'll get drunk.
Method 3 of 4: Approaching Friends
Step 1. Look for signs of romantic attraction
While there's no surefire way to tell a woman's feelings without asking her directly, you can guess by watching how she acts around you.
- Pay attention to the way he dresses everyday and compare it to when you are alone with him. If he's well-dressed and well-dressed when he's with you, he may be attracted to you.
- Pay attention to whether he leans in close to you when he talks and if he touches your arm or leg when talking. It's probably a sign he's flirting.
- If he always chooses to sit on the edge of the couch or walk away when you try to hug or dance with him, he probably isn't interested.
- Pay attention to how he looks at you. Is he smiling? Do you catch him staring at you when you are with other people?
- Does he laugh at your jokes while other people don't? Maybe he's laughing because he likes you and your silly behavior makes him happy.
- See if he wants to be alone with you. If he wants to be approachable, he'll suggest activities that allow for just being alone.
- If he just wants to spend time with you when someone else is around, then maybe he just wants to be friends.
Step 2. Ask when in doubt
Don't let your friendship be ruined because of an inappropriate approach. As a friend, he definitely loves you, and maybe he's afraid of hurting his own feelings. If you can't tell whether he likes it or not from signs alone, ask first before making any approach.
- Asking can also be made fun and sexy. Enjoy the awkwardness. Inquire directly, or send a message.
- For example, ask, "I think about you a lot. I like you. I've been thinking about whether you like me too, or if you just want to be friends. Both are fun, but if you like me too, I want to date sometime." -when."
- Add compliments. Choose a romantic way, not sexual, because you certainly don't want to make him uncomfortable if it turns out he just wants to be friends. Tell him he has beautiful eyes, a great sense of humor, and his features that you can't put into words.
- Get ready to be accepted. Plan a date. Take him to a beautiful place to be alone without other friends.
Step 3. Don't worry about the "friend zone"
In fact, the "friend zone" is an idea created by men to scare fellow men, has nothing to do with women's feelings. However, don't rush. Once you've confirmed that you like him, you can approach him or confess your feelings right away.
Step 4. Take an approach that feels natural
Once you find out that he's also interested in you, the approach will happen on its own. If you feel you need a plan, try to develop the usual interactions. Sometimes, friends who turn into romantic partners start out physically awkward, such as hugging more than necessary, massaging each other, or wrestling. If you are one of them, stop and try to look him in the eye.
- If you always hug, start holding him tight. If the body stiffens or moves away, let it go. If he gets closer or hugs you back, you can try kissing him.
- Ask him how he felt after that. In physical contact, make sure he is willing and giving permission.
Method 4 of 4: Getting Legal Permission
Step 1. Determine that he is willing and give permission
Permission means he agrees and is legal to have sexual activity. Sexual activity includes vaginal, oral, and anal sex, as well as touching, kissing, or showing body parts. He can only give permission if he is conscious, awake, and mentally healthy. People who are drunk, unconscious, or mentally disabled cannot give permission.
- Permission must be given voluntarily. The suppressed person cannot give permission. If he's afraid of you, someone else is pressuring him, or you're older, or you have power over him, he can't give him permission.
- If you are two years older or younger than him, it may be illegal for you to approach him, or for him to approach you.
- Check the laws regarding legal age and social norms before you approach someone.
Step 2. Create enthusiasm in him
After he gives verbal permission (from "yes!" to "of course! yes! of course! yes! that's what I want!"), pay attention to physical cues and listen to the tone of his voice. He should be able to initiate sexual activity, respond to your touch, and appear relaxed and excited. If he doesn't respond, maybe he doesn't really want it. If he turns away or walks away, he may "reject."
- Stop right then and there if he gestures not to allow.
- If he seems hesitant, and says he's ready, proceed slowly.
- Make it a game. Have him take turns touching, or ask him to say what he wants to do.
Step 3. Ask for the next step
Before you kiss, touch, or get physical, ask him if he wants you to. This question is awkward, but it's also fun and can save both parties a bad experience. Once you know he likes you, ask in a sexy way.
- For example, ask, "Can I kiss you?", "Can I hug you?", "I want to touch you there. Do you like it?"
- Remember, permission can be withdrawn at any time. If he says "yes" to one thing, it doesn't mean "always yes" or "yes to everything." Keep asking.
Step 4. Ask how he feels after you've done something
Say, "Is it good?" or "Like?" or "Want me to continue?". Even if something has already been done, just ask to make sure. Sometimes, what is pleasant one day is not so pleasant the next.
Step 5. Back off if he says "no" or doesn't seem interested
Accept the answer no. If he refuses, take a step back. If he says "not now" or "maybe later", that also means no. Stop if he doesn't say yes.
Once you've made an approach, and he doesn't encourage you to continue, back off. He'll let you know if he changes his mind
Tips
- Remember, if a woman wants you to approach her, she will make things easier for you. If you can't find the "right" moment after several dates, it's probably because he's trying to block the moment.
- Do what feels natural. Try not to make plans ahead of time and just go with the flow. If he's not comfortable with your approach, it's bound to show.
